The Dating Rules
For a man to get a girl for marriage, even a committed girl or to overcome resistance to you chase. Your goal here is not to get sex, but the win the heart for marriage or mend a broken relationship. Does not matter if she is very nice and from your same culture; the dating rules, protocols and techniques should apply for any era and culture. Rules a, b, c, d and e are the most important, most information here is based on these five rules, and breaking all these could greatly increase the chances of rejection of you as a sweetheart. Seems for women, usually sweetheart love is talking, you not making sexual advances, and you not seeing other girls; here are some dating guidelines. With these dating rules, guidelines, protocols, preparedness, and knowledge of expectations your pre-courtship encounters, getting her telephone number routines and personal dates with women in the past have never been better as now. Read on, the dating methods are not the same for all pre-dating situations. There are some rules to reduce the chances of rejection as a sweetheart of suiter, in this order of importance:
1: Masculinity of Men and Dignified Dress To Improve Confidence and Happiness
You know how to get girls, but your fears, confidence to do it, and courage to walk into her work place are hopeless; you are over age forty and a little over weight. The difficulty of making the difficult telephone call to her, walking to her workplace, go to her place when you are not certain she lives there. Fear of the hurt of rejection as a sweetheart. Waiting too long to start personal talk, because you are scared. This the most difficult problem or impediment of finding girls or female friends. When a girl is calling you or you are calling a girl on the telephone do you take the telephone and hide from everybody at home when talking?; do the talks and chase when your secret admiration for her comes out with confidence and without imbarrasment. With you over age thirty, chase the seventeen year old girl with confidence and without imbarrasment in front of your family, friends and her parent at parties. At age forty you just completed the first class in college and then there she is; if you only had the courage, confidence, ability, and stature to ask for her name and home telephone number; here is a large part of the solution. Have you ever been on a busy street, shopping mall or on a beach in the 1990s and still feel disconnected and alone, because you are scared to intitiate conversations with women, or you feel you have no connecton with them or you felt you did not have the privilege to speak to her? Wearing 1980s commercially available clothes from store, were you driving an automobile in the country heading home alone all these years because you want to or you are alone because you did not have the nerve, ease and confidence to verbally connect with women? With this, no more riding the bus, after professional meetings, in parties, sports games, at weddings, or in movie theatres not talking to the ladies. You tried to get a girl for sweetheart or girlfriend with electronic mail because you did not have the courage and power to do it in person and live when you have the physical ability to do so; she knows this, you know this and we know this and so she rejected you as sweetheart; here and below are shown ways to improve your confidence and powers to do personal requests in person and live at almost all situations legally. Dress diginified here also means you know your dress looks the best that you can look; you feel attractive in clothing, emotionally happier in picture, is satisified with your current photograph, your photographs looks as you feel as you should look, an older version of your younger self, with properly fitting clothes. Not every man looks great with oversized clothing, wearing over sized, bulky fur coat that makes him look fat, or wearing women's clothing; with this rule of proper fit of clothing improve your look, how you feel about your apearance, your profile, improve your manly and human appearance even if you are not handsome or overweight in body. Increase your confidence, courage and ability to start personal chat with women, start romantic talk with top women, to ask for her home telephone number more than once in person, face to face; reduce the hurt sting and imbarrassment of rejection of you as sweetheart or when declining telling her home telelephone number to you in person, reduce that difficult telephone call speaking fears all with proper fit of clothing. Proper fit of clothing is when the clothing is attractive, dignified and maculine for man by making clothes, hat and shoes not over sized, too loose fitting or not too puffy (baggy or padded); make upper body shirt dimensions or cuts more maculine and natural to your body lines. Shirt shoulder, sleeve, breast, waist, chest widths not oversized, but more closer to you natural body lines. With this rule in any safe situation at first encounter for starting personal talk improve confidence and ease of feeling for talk as if she is allready is your sweetheart or like talking to your mother; with a talking confidence like a lion, start live personal chat with any single lady, being ready to start an instant sweetheart comnection with the right girl on the streets. No more imbarrasment, low quality feeling, talking fears, breathless, tongue tied when personal talking to a new woman on the streets; instead ask questions feeling pleasantly as easy as talking to your mother or testing a willing girls with this rule. If I only knew this masculine clothing dimensions rule in the 1980s, 1990s. Dressing 100% masculine and dignified like this for man to improve happines from low to a tolerable level; go from tears to confidence and cheers with this rule. To get local girl you need c p p p which is: confidence to ask for her home telephone number live, face to face, get number directly from her mouth; persistence of chase for sweetheart, preparation for chase and relationship; passing the more important tests. Learn how to improve your courage, confidence and emotional power while feeling at ease to initiate chases with women and verbally connect (get her name, talk and get contact informtion directly from her mouth) with her; even with very young women independant of their attire and length of hair they wear with her guardian in a shopping mall. Make the chase for sweetheart less bad as you imagined it to be; start with wearing gender appropriate clothing. Having the confidence, courage, emotional power to initiate personal talk while feeling at ease with new women and ask for her contact information is not bought, inherited, earned, determined by entitlement, determined by age, based on culture, personality, or sexuality, but is free to every one independent of your looks, age, gender or culture; learn how here. Having the ability to start personal talk with women, also improves your other business relationships, and affects everything about you and your quality of life; you cannot have both a good home life and a poor social life at the same time. Improve confidence and prestige to invite to date on telephone after professional meeting without pre-chat (prior personal talk with her). Reduce the fear of trying to sit or stand next to her on the bus, bus stop, theatre, pedestrian stop lights. Clothes is the key (a must) to dating success; it must be made for your gender, cannot be over sized, very loose fitting, it should be attractive on you. Help get rid of your unhappiness due to wearing feminine like clothing that may lead to drug abuse and escape-ism (avoiding formal work, school) as a man by making all your clothes and shoes look and feel masculine by not wearing these as oversized, too baggy (puffy) and too loose fitting clothes and shoes; the man's attire must be 100% masculine. Even some men's clothing from store when stretched over time due to thermal underwear can become loose fitting and start to look a little feminine. The oversized clothing must not hide the general shape of your gender. I do not like my clothes oversized, very loose fitting, and very bulky giving a chubby look, properly fitted clothes feels better; you probably do feel the same with your clothes. Wear clothes that fit properly that are not oversized, too baggy and funny looking. The neck collar of shirt cannot be too puffy, as an over size and thick neck collar tend to make older overweight ,men less attractive. With low cost commercial clothing the sleeve, breast and shoulder widths are too wide and so clothing or not guest ready and sufficient for public, is a problem. Do not wear those over sized, unisex, lumber jack shirts, especially if you are a little over weight; its back side is a little loose giving a slight feminine look. Wear clothes that you feel attractive and confident in. The men's clothes have to be masculine; such that your gender (general male shape) will not be completely hidden by your clothes. Sleeves must not be too wide; trousers must not hang too low and not be too baggy (wide). Masculine and flattering clothes which is not over sized clothing for man for speaking confidence and ease for initiating talk with women. This will give you confidence, stop that low quality feeling when you initiate talk, and so will give you an easy and good time chasing and talking to women. For men wear only underwear with masculine shape, not over sized, not too low hanging, so as not to hide your masculine shape; you do not want your hips over packed with cloth and give this femine shape. The back pockets of the men's trousers or pants have been ommitted to avoid a bulky look to avoid a feminine or funny look. The trousers must not hang to low below the zipper to give a human male look. In the 1980s and 1990s, the widths of the trouser legs were too large in the wrong places, and shoe sole sizes were too large and were not good for building confidence in a man. The pants area at the waist and hips should not be boxy (rectangular) and over sized, but a normal masculine shape. When wearing no shoes, the bottom of the trouser legs must not touch the floor, the bottom of the trouser legs cannot be too wide. Shoes size must not be oversized: choose the smallest size shoe with the smallest soles with a human male shape. Do not allow an oversized jacket to hide your gender; look masculine instead; the waste and hip part of the dinner jacket should fit snug to give abdomen area a more of a male v shape, it must not be too long in length, especially if your are slightly over weight. If the shoulder and shoulder blade widths of the man's jacket are too wide, this can give a femine cut that is also over sized. The lowest button of the jacket or shirt must be negative one quarter to two centimetres above the top of the belt line so that if one has a pot belly will not cause the shirt to overhang and widen at hips, then there will be a snug masculine fit under the pot belly and hip area; see figures 5. The length of the shirt or jacket must not be lower than the groin. The shoulder padding and shoulder width of jacket or coat must not be omitted, especially if you are slightly over weight; remove or reduce the shoulder pad thicknesses by 70% in the business suit. The shoulder width of the shirt under the jacket must not be too wide, the shoulder width of the shirt should end where your arm starts at the arm pit, especially if you are a little overweight. When you are slightly over weight, these one size larger second hand 1990s sweaters can be large (over sized), keep your dress guest ready at home and good enough to go into public at all times of day for happiness by having the proper clothing dimension ratios (for not oversized clothing and too loose fitting at the wrong places), and by dressing masculine for men. See links for dignified clothing dimension ratios for this. The more overweight you are, the less oversize the clothing has to be, with less shoulder padding. Visions of how a good life should be such as how one should dress or psychological models are not real life sometimes; over wide sleeves are wrong for your dignity; reduce or avoid the emotional sting of any belittling whether unintentional or intentional with the proper (not over sized) sleeve widths; (you know what I mean if you are an over sized shirt wearer). The right way for a man to dress is attractive, dignified and masculine as possible by not making the clothes, shoes and hat over sized, too loose fitting and too puffy (padded). No robes, no A line long trench coates, because it hides your male gender, especially if you have female head features. The leading man in a movie gets the best suit with the best fit; your masculine clothes should be like that except with a slightly tighter fit. Do not wear unisex clothing; your dress, coat and grooming must be hundred percent masculine for a man. This will give you confidence and power to ask her personal questions, and reduce imbarrasement when you keep asking for her home telephone number. Increase your courage, confidence and power to chase women with this to reduce the humiliation of rejection as a sweetheart. Be physically in good shape to help bear the stresses of the chase. Make those difficult telephone calls a lot easier, reduce telephone speaking fears and improve your general quality of life with this. When telephoning her instead of negative feelings such as fear, fear of hurt and rejection, imbarrasement, much vulnerability, feelings of inadequacy, apologetic, feelings of inferiority, emotional stress with stuttering and knees shaking due to fear now get telephone communication with easy feeling telephone call, confident, fantastic, appreciation, courageous, confident persistence. Do not wear over sized, baggy gym pants that looks worn, faded and looks like has not been washed for a week for girl chasing. If you do wear gym clothes for a sporting event, it should look like new, clean.and not smell. Imagine this: you have on nice masculine clothes, clothes are fresh and not oversized, and yet not too revealing because there may be others there; she just let you pass her front door; you are leading the friendly chat and mood, her loveseat was setup allready; you have not felt emotionaly this good for years and perhaps she feels only half as good, this is how a personal date with a woman should be. For best results your clothing must be a perfect fit, especially if you are overweight; is not oversized; this is when you feel best with clothing. As a man wear masculine clothing, clothing not funny looking, clothing not oversized and not over padded; where clothes you wear make you feel you look good and glamorous in; this is when a man feels best and confident to start a personal talk with a woman in any situation, place, and time where no professional dating policies or dating traditions could psychologically stop you chasing the woman. Just like when a women shows her calves makes her feel more attractive, men may feel more attractive when wearing narrow sleeves, cuffs, and narrow pant legs; avoid over sized (wide) sleeves and cuffs. Wearing gender specific clothing that you feel attractive in is neccessary for happiness and success in relationship life, especially when you are older or slightly overweight. Practice talking will probably not increase your courage. Confidence or reduce imbarrasment in difficult chase; we focus on action rather than practice chasing. The shoes cannot be clown size; soles of your shoe must not be ovesized; the width and length of the soles of shoes are nearly inline with the sides of the shoe and about the same size as your feet. To overcome difficult (you a man nervous, scared) telephone calls to women, telephone speaking fears (nervousness) under uncertainty with her and even for business do not wear oversized under wear, and pants or trousers, oversized shirts, oversized sweaters to look less feminine and less funny like wearing diapers. Get the much girl chasing confidence and emotional power of a hip teenager. By staying in good physical shape and dressing very masculine one (man) can feel more confident, less humble, look dignified, less shy less imbarassed about one's body with women, even for middle aged men; example: before, "The jacket looks good .", "No; I am just a middle age ordinary man.". As a man when under wear or shorts (gym pants) look and you feel like girl, the clothes are too wide, this is incorrect; business jacket, pants and underwear from stores in the 1980s were too wide at the hips, make narrower (tighter fitting) here by a few to 5 millimetres with sewing to make these look and feel more masculine at the hips and waist. A point is we wear clothing not too be naked in public and to keep warm, but equally important is that it is gender specific (very masculine for men) and visually attractive to improve the quality of life and confidence with members of the opposite sex and dignity. Some men's underwear tend to stretch over time giving a slight feminine look; use men's underwear that is tight fitting to give a masculine look and feel. Decent quality men's underwear does not stretch much over a year, and become loose fitting and baggy or faminine looking. Dignified here means clothes not funny looking, oversized clothing not hiding your true look to appear better, feeling proud of the shape of your male clothing and body profile even if you are not the cutest of the bunch. Some say appearance is not important, but this is incorrect, optimize your look even if you are not handsome with proper fit clothing here to get confidence, personal talk starting emotional power and ease of feeling when starting personal talk with any woman. Optimize and dignify your appearance with clothes with proper fit to get emotional ability and confidence to start personal talk with any woman on the streets even if your are not handsome or not popular. Proper fit clothing is not over sized, too loose fitting, not too puffy (over padded), contour dimensions not too large as shown here without being too revealing. You do not need money or a fancy top of the line apartment with a swimming pool to make personal talk with women easier; it may help, but all you need is this rule for clothing and a sewing machine to do rule for chase. Remove those shoulder pads inside your business suit to show your natural masculinity and to avoid this puffy look; to a more dignified look, this will make starting personal talk with her live easier. Make your (man) apparal and shoes from 90 % masculinity to 100 % masculinity by not making these over sized, too loose fitting, to bulky, and not feminine in shape; and then life becomes good. Some commercial North America business jackets for men of the 1970s, 1980s had a slight feminine cut also (about 90 % masculine); instead the cuts and contours must be 100 % masculine. Dress from 90% masculine to 100% masculine to: become more manly, dominant, more powerfull; get better respect from female office receptionists, see example cartoon skits in figures 4. This rule 1 is the most important part of this page, because you cannot make her like you or control your salary, but you can control what you wear and so help your self in this way. Perhaps business and dating expectations seem poor with angst like a mouse living under an eagle's nest and near a gardner snake's winter den; now with this rule and other methods here perhaps feel like a lion the king of the savanna who can drag away his fawn: feel like the life of the party, feel like a king in a school playground, that is start personal chat in person with impunity, get almost total conrol of your girl(s).
You (a man) need to date her a quality girl friend to be on her terms (speed of chase), to get a great and steady courtship; but you do not have the courage, confidence, power and skills to do it; this rule of being 100% masculine may help. You may be slightly over weight which means you may have to buy clothing that is slightly oversized. The confidence, power and stress reduction of chasing women should be the same anywhere, any era and with any contact method; the secret of confidence to talk, feeling at ease in chase, power to make personal requests is in the grooming and dress; the clothing for a male must be masculine, not oversized, not over padded, and not funny looking; look in a large mirror and use your intuition, feeling and intellect just before you go out the door to determine when the clothing dimensions are just right. Use this to chase a woman in any situation. After about a year that she rejected you as a sweetheart, you make a comeback to chase her as a sweetheart at her work place without your fears, under confidence, heavy emotions, unhappiness, powerlessness of the last meetings with her with this rule and being well prepared with these informations. Simple secrets to change your appearance and apparal to have women instantly physically attracted to you, without being naked. Tired of being a spectator, second banana or helpless passerby in many brief street encounters; dress nice, dress masculine and take care of your body, and look great and confident. In a more formal or proffesional setting like in a public library a tidy, single colour, light neutral coloured shirt that is more difficult to keep clean draws more attention (breaks the official barrier) and draws quicker service, and makes the start of the chase and getting her telephone number a lot easier. The clothes depends on the setting; more formal fresh clothes can break professional barriers like in public libraries much easier for personal talks than casual worn multi-coloured shirts. Then, to get the courage, confidence and power to initiate personal talk to women in any situation, within any dating policies, any age difference, and any culture, the man's clothes must not fully hide his gender and not be funny looking by making the clothes and shoes masculine, not over sized, not too loose fitting and not to long downwards, should be semi-formal or more formal. With a pot belly and a puffy wood's jacket, the clothes are oversized, too loose fitting and too puffy (bulky, padded) and may not look good, reduce the hurt or sting of being mocked if this happens by not wearing oversized, too loose fitting and overly puffy clothing. By dressing masculine, not funny looking, dressing that makes you feel your look good in can improve your confidence, emotions and emotional strength to talk to her there even while just spying on her
or doing a pre-chase recconnaisance in the shopping mall or on her street; by doing this, checking out (spying) her area (mall sugar shack) does not feel as bad as it seems to be. Improve or re-gain your confidence, courage and emotional powers to initiate social activities, to flirt and kiss a new woman by wearing clothes and shoes that are masculine, with proper fit (not over sized, not too loose fitting, not too bulky). Proper fit is when the clothing and shoes are not over sized, too loose firring and too bulky (puffy); check examples for recommended maximum dimension ratios. A statue in the park, manikin, android or photograph cannot replace a real, live man in person; dress masculine with proper fit to increase physical attraction in women to draw in women without being too sexual in public. Gain confidence in your appearance and feel more desirable as a man with this, by taking care of your body and by improving the quality of your grooming. He appears conceited (too good for girl) in school or confident on television; feel more confident about your looks, more attractive to women, more conceited (too good for girl) by dressing very masculine, clothes and shows must fit properly by not being oversized and too loose fitting, and by taking care of your body; then with a few friendly words or being chatty, and occasionally focusing your attention on her live let the girl(s) chase you and beg for you. Increase confidence and emotional ability to start personal talks in person with anyone in any safe situation, reduce telephone speaker fears and imbarrasements with those difficult telephone calls, talk about girls with a new buddy on the streets; is a lot about upper body clothing dimensions; the clothing dimensions and cuts must be attractive, dignified and masculine for man by not making these fittings over sized, too loose fitting, too puffy (padded). Reduce social unhappiness with others that are beyond control of others, reduce speaking fears with women in person to a tolerable level by making upper body clothing attractive, dignified and masculine for man by giving the clothes proper fit such as the shoulder width; the top of the shoulder width of your winter coat is ww and your height is h, if you upper body is average built then the coat shoulder width to height ratio as ww/h<0.299. If the shoulder width at top of you inner shirt is ws, and your shoulder built is average then the ratio of shirt shoulder width to height is ws/h <0.273. Stay guest ready with this and feel more comfortable answering your front door to strangers, and feel more comfortable doing the getting her name and home telephone number routine there. Is a lot about upper body clothing dimensions (cuts). Men's business suit with proper fit with great cuts, attractive, dignified, masculine, perhaps the greatest men's clothing ever: wearing it makes you feel good about your apearance; improve confidence and ability to start personal chats with women in person; with cologne drive the ladies to physical attraction when you try to get her as girlfriend face to face even if you do not have the ideal, stereotype, Western, Arian face. See business suit with proper fit dimensions .
To get a girl as sweetheart or wife women may think a man needs to show confidence to fo personal talk in person and pass the important tests as mentioned here; you might think you need to finish school first to show your abilities, but this may not be so. Yes, is true you will need to courage and skill to talk to women, she might make you pass some tests first and may make dating difficult for you, and you will need formal schooling for married life, but the real power starts with your clothing. The man's clothing shapes must be masculine, human and dignified by not making these over sized, too loose fitting and too puffy (packed with padding). Older people or overweight people usually look better when the clothes and shoes are not oversized and too loose fitting anyways; is alo about feeling attractive to oppositve sex with clothing. Also the clothing at all times must be good enough to leave the front yard of the house with, be guest ready at home. By doing this and with chasing the right women reduce the negative feelings, hurt, fear and imbarrasement of rejection as sweetheart to a pittance or none at all; reduce the negative feelings, unfounded fear, imbarrasment and low quality feeling do to personal talk with women or to follow her on street to a pittance or none at all. Improve your confidence for persistence to call her with her business telephone number. Make emotions less negative or reduce fears when aswering door bells or visiting family members. Reduce this emotional stress of chase with this independent of your looks, age, gender, wealth, culture, education level, weight, timidness, shyness, and aloneness. No confidence and no feelings of ease to start personal talk with women in person affects all other relationships. Be cautious still when she wants you to ask her telephone number in person without you using business as an excuse to talk; pass the important tests mentioned below. With this mke telephone speaking fears, talk negative feelings, telephone feelings of alienation and stuttering with women is practically nearly zero.", ....
When one is older and a little over weight, web camera video images can look poor due to image shape distortion and discolouration. Improve the confidcnce to show her your web camera video with this rule and by taking care of your appearance. Example: ..., "Do you have a webcam? ", "Yes.", "Let me see your on webcam? , "Allright.", .... This is your measuring tool at home, if you can do this and talk easy and confidently on the telephone with her you nearly got it. Webcamera is similar to live personal chat with women; if you are comfortable to show yourself on webcamera to the women by making your clothes not over sized you are close of having confidence and comfortable personal chats with women live, in person. Only this rule can do this, no amount of much money can do this except buy the girl.
On your street about nine houses away you saw this young woman doing front yard maintenance with a man who is perhaps her grandfather, father, or husband, or perhaps she is a border in the basement; you were inhibited to offset the apple cart (interfere), affraid and imbarrased to knock on her door and to find out her story. This rule may reduce this fear. If you are affraid one can do this: excersize once or twice a month by taking a walk pass her house especially just after a snow fall. One would hope that she would notice your foot steps in the snow. When reaching the front of her house on side walk one would pause for five to thirty minutes as long as one dare can and look for indications of movements. When you see movement in the house one would pretend to walk on to avoid being alarming and imposing. As soon as you see her one would attempt to do the getting her home telephone number routine. From what you saw you have an inkling that she is single, looking for similar physical features of her and the man you have an inkling that he is her grandfather, but you are not sure. When she sees your foot steps in the snow and sees you for the second time there, she will know you are interested.
Do you dare to look at your new date's, girlfriend's or new wife's eye and smile at her?; probably not, is perfectly normal, most men do not have the confidence and ideal qualities to do it, expecially if your teeth are yellow; this rule may help give this confidence like a movie star, or pop music star.
You are afraid, imbarrased and feeling corny to show your true self on webcamera to her; and you know who you are; reduce the widths of the sleeves, shoulders, breast, waist of clothes to proper dimensions to give a more dignified look to improve your confidence, reduce negative feelings when showing yourself on webcamera to the ladies even if you are older and slightly over weight. Improve the quality of your room decor, design and maintainance; it is a reflection of you, it is bound to improve your confidence as a person and provider, prestige and pride. Example: "Do you have a webcam?", "Yes.", "Turn on your webcam.", "Yes. My webcamera image is poor. What do you think; am I the same as online and texting, or are my online photographs a lucky shot angle?", "Yes; okay.", "I like your room. You are a great man.", "I see. Is nice of you to say, dear.", ... .
Is mainly about having pride in you upper body profile, the features that are in your control as proper shirt, jacket, sweater and coat proper sleeve, chest, breast, shoulder, shoulder blade widths. These upper body shirt dimensions cannot be oversized; due to many required sizes an the cost of much precision work, the medium cost commercial shirts in North America in 1980s through 2010s were/are oversized. As one is older, slightly overweight with extra neck fat, how visually attractive one feels depends on the dimensions or widths of your sleeve widths, breast width, shoulder width and shoulder blade width of your shirt or jacket; then by making these widths the proper sizes, that is not oversized, not too loose fitting, not puffy, masculine, the better one feels about one's(man) appearance, then the more confident and ease to start personal talk with women in person; required proper shirt dimensions example 5 with non-husky but masculine shirt cuts or contours for upper body. Then as one gets older and more over weight, the less over sized, less too loose fitting, and the less padded (puffy) the clothing and shoes has to be. We assume that when a man dresses like a woman he would feel more visually attractive, but this is not the case; in reality is the opposite, as a man dresses more masculine and dignified he would feel better on how he looks, and get more confidence and ease to start personal talks with women in person. All the mind power, psychic power, motivational talks, match makers and your squires looking for your Cinderella will not do it (to gain confidence to start live in person talk); only this rule can do it. The relative dimensions of your clothing and shoes can affect how you feel about your self and your appearance, your confidence in your appearance; then improve confidence in your appearance, feel more attractive, feel more romantic with women by using proper fit of clothing. Proper fit of clothing is when the clothes are attractive, dignified and masculine by not making the clothes not over ized, not too loose fitting, not too puffy (padded). With proper fit, the shape of the clothing looks more natural without being to revealing. If your shoes are over sized like a clown, your trousers are too baggy (wide), shirt sleeve too wide, and shirt's shoulder width too wide then you might not feel as good about your appearance, and the difficult telephone call to her becomes even very more difficult emotionally. Succeed not in eight years from now but into two to three days; takes about one to two days to give your clothes proper fit to these standards; then we shall go to the shopping mall, chat with some girls and get their telephone numbers, I get the blond girl; are your ready to go?; answer honestly.
Showing this confidence to start personal talk with new ladies can also increase your chances of geting a girlfrind, payed employment or a business deal by many times.
As you dress like this to get and do confidence to engage in person, become more masculine, chase ladies gently as sweetheart persistently, initiate friendly personal talk and communication face to face that is not required for the business with your women, take the lead with your women, strong masculinity in her life then they can become more feminine: her walk and arm movements will become more natural and feminne, her clothing and its colours bcome more feminine, her hair grooming will become more feminine. When a woman becomes more feminine she can only become more attractive to a man.
You do not have a extra million dollars, top aircraft engineering job or that $3000 electric guitar to impress her now; one could use your manly glamour of your youth which is the girl chasing confidence perhaps like portrayed in the love songs of the pop music stars.
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Most women only will have an intimate relationship with a man she respects so do not talk about your problems, failures, weaknesses, your medical problems and dislikes in front of her even if she asks and tells it is allright. To get faster results (get her home telephone number, sweetheart status) she needs to admire you a little or have neutral feelings for you, and this is done by not revealing anything negative about you that were and are in your control, if full concealment of your behaviour weaknesses is possible. She is the physically weaker gender and does not know you now, and when she knows you more, likes you, gains trust in you, admires you and knows your allegiances by you following this rule, she will allow her physical attraction for you develop easier, and when this happens with a persistent chase she will want to be with you and stop avoiding you, usually. Be financially self reliant. She will have an inkling or assumptions that you will have and had some problems and failures in life. but do not verity it and discuss it detail now too soon. When you were a teenager with your friends and then talking to girls on the streets, it is a natural behaviour not to reveal anything negative about you to the girls such as being a very poor soccer player; this is the correct intuition and feeling of you to try to make yourself not look bad. Not revealing negative things about you to girls is common sense, but sometimes you may be persuaded to do otherwise in difficult times. If you are forced to talk about your problems like long term unemployment; minimize its negativity; give information based on a need to know basis; bring the problem up and out of mind with a solution. For example, if you have to say: "I do not have an automobile; I am getting one soon". Do not reveal anything unusuall about yourself such as a diaper wearing fetish. You do not know if you will be interested in this girl later. Do not reveal or imply anything negative about yourself such as your aloneness and depression, or anger with family members in the past; you cannot have the risk of receivng the blame for this, this may put a little more uncertainty in your relationship if you tell her. You have to show that you are in control over your life; showing that you are a mental patient, all these financial problems and relationship problems you had is not a good idea. If you cannot get employment or business in your own business you have to show that you are in control by doing what is needed to survive, within the law offcourse. You must not tell her about your failures like you failed university too soon, she probbaly does not need to know this; wait at least five years after marriage to tell. The closer the union might become physically, the more difficult for her, so make sure avoid negative talk, heavy topics for talk, professional and business talk and game playing at later stages of the apparent courtship process; when the heavy topic or questions does not feel just right to talk about do not use. If you have professional meetings with her and you got her work street address be especially carefull in following this rule. Answer all her questions about you positively. She may have an inkling that you have some problems, but do not confirm it and do not give any details about it if she does not need to know. Do not talk about any negativities with her even if it is true; this is not the time and situation to complain; doing so is risky; you should be able to sense before talking if this (information) should be said to her. Do not talk or imply about your past poor dating life to please her but stay quiet on this topic; idealy you should be dating at least once a month but you have not, so do not tell you have either a poor, or great dating live to her. For online dating do not use those negative emoticons; not even for a joke. Do not pretend to cry or pretend to be angry even for a joke. If you talk about your mental illness of the past which you no longer have, it is game over for you as a sweetheart so resist talking about your illnesses or mental problems of the past. If you can only get a female psychiatrist for your mental problems, family problems treatments, and you are an older man, you must accept the reality that you and her will probably never become an item if you talk about your problems and weaknesses, so you must decide ahead of the talks with her (therapist) that you want this girl as a possible sweetheart or therapist. Never talk about your weaknesses in dating or work interviews; your past weaknesses are no longer relevant. Do not have a date(s) for solving your problems like looking for work when not able to find work for years; this is a bad idea, too much negativity about you, you are not working; what you should do instead is solve your problems with someone else and then date this woman. Do not reveal your insecurities too early such as: "I will probably not get any of these employments", "No one his hired me for three years", "I could not get a girl for sweetheart for ten years; your sister probably is not interested in me". Do not tell or imply to her that you need her financially (need her place to live in), to make you a better man, and/or to save you; you know what I mean. Do not imply that you cannot make your own decisions, or that you are needy; do not throw your money problems at her feet; you will have to find employment using someone else. If she is your therapist or psychiatrist you will need to talk about your needs, problems, unhappiness and medical records, and this will likely be game over for you as a sweetheart. If your actions shows that you do not have the ability, power and confidence to sustain or start a personal chat after a professional meeting with her, this could mean game over for you as a sweetheart with her, and later you could get a humiliating rejection as a sweetheart from her if you ask personal questions by email; so all personal friendly chats with her should be done in person when you have the physical chance and ability do to say. For most relationship types, do not tell about negative news before the third date such as a loss of a loved one, you cannot find work, your visits to a psychiatrist, you cannot find an apartment to stay, illegitimate pregnancy of your niece, your fights with siblings, you cannot afford to buy food, if so; it is too much information, a female could back off from the dates. If she is your therapist and you as her patient, you will probably share some negative information and now you make a poor candidate as a sweetheart with her; you will probably have her work street address now, do not ask her personal questions or initiate a personal relationship now while your are a patient; stop the therapy meetings as soon as possible, do not talk to her for about eight to twelve months to allow you to resolve you medical (mental) and financial problems, and her to get over the burden of this negative information about you; then do only in person personal talk with her, do not remind of your problems, if she ask if you resolved the money problems say yes; do the focus attention on her routine, chat and ask if you can get a personal date;
if declines this time, you still gained some points of having the courage to ask these in person. You cannot ask for a serious personal relationship in an ambigous way; she is going to think: "he is a patient of mine, he cannot even get his house in order in all this time, will it work out, is he really interested in me, can he fullfill his obligations (money)?; he finally got some back bone and got his finances in order well, he has the guts to ask in person, perhaps yes to a sweetheart relationship". Think this: "Girl, now I show not my leaky metal chimney, and reality, but dream of us with silver watch, flowers and gold tiara standing on wings of metal (jet), then in our new nice large house with hardwood flooring, travertine walls, marble bathrooms and silk sheets in the future". You cannot risk of receiving the blame of making your own problems even if the cause of problem is not mainly due to you. The more the amount of negative information you reveal about yourself even if the financial and dating adversities are not totally your fault, the longer the waiting time to sweethart status with her, usually. If she is your therapist and you her patient in emotional stress and having to tell negative information about yourself, it is probably game over for you as sweetheart even if you are in a similar league as her.
If you have to fill out those professional questionares that determine your emotions, attitude, personality, stress coping skills, avoid filling in or pen checks negative truths about you even if she asks sweetly and convincingly, or business coerces you. You do not want negative information about you on paper circulating in the office to perhaps to another potential sweetheart. She may also use this professional questionare as a test, so be carefull what you write. You have to decide what is more important, her for a sweetheart or showing this negative information. Do not reveal or checkmark anything negative about you in dating, professional, work application, or poll questionares; if you do the computer will reject you. Negative polls can be used against the public by business to raise prices and lower wages, and personal dating processes; information and capability is power. If you disobey this rule before her you may regret it. Get better ownership of this personal relationship with her by following this rule and the other more important dating rules here.
If the professional or business meetings with her did not go successful like you looking for work and you do not sense any movement towards a personal relationship, then you may have to stop these professional meetings with her as soon as possible after you got her contact information. Love and poor business are sometimes best kept separate; accentuate the positive, and hide the negative even if negative like unemployment is out of your control.
If you had a recent death in the family, a family member is very sick, or you had extreme grief like nearly freezing to death while being homeless, do not mention this to her; she does not need to know at this point if she cannot help solve this problem; this can emotionally depress the relationship for months. Do not talk about recent deaths of your loved ones; this takes down the romance, positive talk, fun as you cannot show fun, frivolity, happiness or the joy of speaking with her at a funeral or when she is in a state of grief.
Need to consider the truth; is easier to get local online women at a paying online dating sites than on free ones; this may perhaps indicate that some sort of money inheritance or income is needed; this is why you should not admit that you have money getting problems to potential sweethearts (women). If you do not have money or employement at the moment may be easier to get a girl on the streets (in person) than online and see if you can follow her home.
If your doctor wants consent from you to share your medical records to other professionals, make sure you ask to who the medical record goes to, how much information is given, and how far your record will be passed on. You want to make sure that your medical records are not circulated amoung potential sweethearts after its gets out from your doctor. All your medical record should be given on a need to know basis. Do not tell the whole story; which are your lows and highs until after five years after the wedding, and even then do not tell all.
Do not say or reveal anything unusuall about yourself like picking your nose in public, but say and do what is required in the girl chasing, personal interview and dating process. Answer her questions and avoid acting eccentric at these first meetings.
Some say men lie to their ladies to protect his reputation while the women lie to make him feel better.
Perhaps you are emotionaly broken because family relationships were not good, no one wll give you a job and you have not talked with a woman in ten years; but to avoid a rejection as sweetheart do not come in crying, complaining, grunting from discomfort, fearfull, or joking; instead stand up straight dignified, treat her like a lady: say hello, bow and kiss her hand, give her flowers, ask her out, make her emotionaly feel real good, hold her hand, do not let go, give her time to know and love you. If you had the chance to speak to a beautiful lady like Marilyn Monroe on the streets what would you say and do; would you complain about the wheather, spit near her shoe, let your warm cigarette ashes blow onto her arm, would you tell her that your son sold your televison set without your permission, or ask her bluntly for sex?; probably not; then treat her like a lady.
Do not reveal negative parts of your life in the form of poetry or plain language on public dating profiles or in love letters; if you you do and you use to get one to two electronic mails from women, may take a month or two to recover from this. Keep all personal information neutral or positive in public and professional meetings with potential sweethearts until after the marriage. If you reveal negative things about you such as your failures and problems to a woman in professional meetings such as if she is your therapist and you her patient, may take at least one and a half years to recover from this; if you did, do not ask her personal qustions until after this recovery period. This if you have the time to recover, but below may be a method to gain such courtship time in difficult situations.The problems and conflicts with ladies one sees in fiction are not real and so is not a good idea to copy those kind of love stories; experience trumps psychological models, assumptions and theories, then this is a correct dating rule.
If the professional relationship is not great with her, avoid being indecisive before her such as by saying to her: "I am not sure if should take the electronics course or the electrical engineering course. There were so many students in these fields; I am not sure I can compete with the young ladies to find work". Being indecisive about your career or business is not a dominant male characteristic.
When asked, do not tell your potential sweetheart or girl friend that you have no money or that you have been unemployed for more than four months no matter how nice her sweet talk was online, or tell you its allright, but carefully change this conversation topic to something else. Example textings: wrong response: ..., "My love when are you bringing me over to your place? Did you loose your job, hun? ", "Yes. I was not able to find a job for three years now. I cannot afford to bring you here.", ... . A better response: ..., "My love when are you bringing me over to your place? Did you loose your job, hun?", "Not yet visit me here in Spokane. I am busy a lot, dear; I still have to prepare for a marriage."., "What kind of prepare, dear ?", "How was your day at work today?", ... .
Seems women prefer romance, then the last topic you want to talk about is your psychiatric problems; revealling your psychiatric medical records to her is the worst thing you can do for dating. When you do have to give away or sign out your medical records make shure you inquire how far it will travel (to whom).
Some say some women are frightened by powefull and aggressive men; to remedy this one would show one's tender, weak and humble sides; these cannot be real weaknesses, weaknesses that you cannot recover from, and showing too much weaknesses; even if you do this play make sure you pass the four most important tests below.
Do not let your psychiatrist, occupational therapist or any other service like this come for observations at your work place, school or parties or personal dating activities where the ladies are; if you do you will hint that you have a problem and you will definitetly sense a decline in your potentional sweetheart status, and small change in your reputation. Sometimes hiding your financial or medical problems at the work place is not easy, but you can avoid dwelling on these topics and then bring it up with a solution.
Do not talk about your medical problems that can go grevious when it does not heal such as about your sore foot too soon; she may let you know depending on the girl.
To get this "you are the love of my life" attitude from her (potential sweetheart) do not reveal anything negative about you that is big such as: revealing your medical records showing your past mental problem, telling her that you failed university, telling her that you were in jail, you failed grade twelve high school two times, you were unemployed for twelve years. If you had such a problem do not tell or verify information but let her keep guessing about it for now. Some of these problems may not be your fault, but you cannot take the risk of getting blamed for these.
Implications of fame, fortune, film oscars for her and media power via you may help get a girl, but you do not have that, you do not have someone to tell her that you are a big boy, but you can control avoiding telling negative information about you.
Do not talk about money or reveal you financial income levels to girls on dates or online unless your income is good or above twice the poverty line. If she asks then tell about your formal education level and carefully change the conversation topic. If you tell online that you have only partime employment with just above the mimimum wage she may not respond to you calls easy. Is better not to say anything about this matter than to say something poor about yourself. Experience shows that this dating rule is valid in many cases, and common sense and your heart tells you so just before you want to say it. Talking about your financial problems to you girl or dates, takes your heart a little down for a brief time. If she asks what you for a living and your income is poor do not give details, but say in a way that does not reveal your level of income; example: "..., " What do you do for a living?", "Yes; I work in a hardware store. I took mechanical technology at school.", .... To get more responses in texting from her, actually is better that you do tell at all online about your current employment as that will reveal your income level or that you are not a millionare.
For long distance dating when you must live at your mom's place for economic reasons do not tell her that you live with your mother or parents. Is easier to get a local woman to visit your place when you live alone in your own place. Make sure that your telephone identification does not tell your parent's first name. Bring it up with a solution; example response: "I live at home; I pay room and board; I save my money until I find the right girl.".
3: Do Not Make Her Jealous
One good way if startng a difficult courtship such as when she does not want to reveal her marital status and when you are unsure of your status as sweetheart with her or professional meetings only is the make her think and believe that she is: your only girl, your number one girl, your queen; and by passing the three most important tests below. Here is how to do it without begging for her affection. When a woman wants to know about your dating past, or if she vaguely indicates that she does not want you to see other girls, this is usually a good indication that she is interested in you, but rule number two do not tell about your current and past dates or relationships with other women whether it was very small or great, even is she asks sweetly again and again, but instead carefully change the conversation topic. If you need to meet other women do not show or tell her that you are seeing or meeting with other women or trying to get contact information of this other girl, but play as a lonely and working man that is available. If you are at the workplace and you have to talk to other visually attractive women, try to make it so the other women do not find out if possible. You cannot control the presence of other women at the workplace or restaurant, but what is important that you do not chase them in front of her. If you are looking at other women with eye shifting here and there at women in a work place, mall or restaurant to check them out at your meeting or date with girl, this may show that you are a player with women and shows that you are insensitive and inconsidered. You are trying to look at your beautiful dream girl (another woman) in her presence, this is probably not a good idea. If he does this, they say leave him, so practice not looking at other women directly when on a date. Relationships are probably very high in priority to some people especially single women; the girl will always be the star of the show (movies); so be carefull about telling about your relationships anywhere to other girls or dad. She is not your sweetheart yet as you see it; looking the wrong way at another girl with desire in front of her, responding to her personal advances too late, not paying enough visual attention on her in relation to other girls there, and complaining, then the window for fun tonight or for the rest of the month may be closed. Do not talk about other girl friends in the past and present even if she begs to know and she says it is allright, especially if she is not chasing other men in front of you. Do not talk about ex relationships with other women or current dates and talk about how wonderfull your life was with her (with past woman) even if she begs to know. When he is telephoning his ex wife and other women for personal reasons in front of her a lot, this is seen by some as a problem for her.
It is said that a woman is very good in detecting that her man is cheating on her; if she senses or detects that you are playing games or is indecisive about this relationship such as other texting (keyboard) activity with other women she sees you do, there is a good possibility that she will no longer answer your calls (online or telephone cals). Do not tell, imply or hint that you were or are live texting to other women even if she asks about it again and again; this other talk if she finds out may reduce her romantic talk to you if any. Not telling or showing about seeing others girls or talk with other girls will make the relation go better faster especially if the relationship was not so great; let her think that she is the only woman in your life and that the course of the relationship is true; if you do, you will probably regret it. If she saw that you were friends with other lovely girl (your number two girl) in school, she may not answer your telephone calls or door rings so easily later. Women are more tender hearted than men and cannot handle minor unfaithfulness by companion as men can, so do not under estimate her fury if you get caught cheating on her and reject you. If she asks: "You must have taking many girls to a restaurant?", do not say "some" or "many", but do not respond and change the subject. If she asks: "Any luck online dating", do not say "yes", but do not answer like this and carefully change conversation topic. Do not tell about any activities you are going to do that likely involve other women; your plans with other people must be given to her on a need to know basis if at all. This rule must be used during the early stages of the relationship. Do not get tricked into talking about you past relationships with women. If you do get caught trying to connect with another girl, would it be better the try and succeed, or try and fail?
Show sensitivity to her love needs even if you are not sure of her personal motives with you if you feel you have a chance with her such as not showing her that you are seeing other girls unless you have no choice. Get contact information from other girl discreetly (other girls not knowing). If she knows other women will likely be involved and your personal motives with her are not clear; getting a meeting with her may be a little more difficult. This is one reason why business or professional meetings should not be used as dates. If you did not have dates or social activity with women before this may reduce you status as a social being, reduce your confidence and may make you look like a looser. If she asks if you had other dates with girls in the past do not say no or yes. If you say no she may think you are a looser and may loose respect for you, and if you say yes she may get jealous and upset, and loose that "you are my one and only sweetheart" feeling; say nothing on this and carefully change the conversation topic. Do not tell the intensity and details of your past loves with other women to her even if she begs to know; I believe a woman prefers her man to be her one and only true love; and you as a man probably likewise with a woman. Then do not chase other women in front of her, chase that she knows might happen or chase that did happen while you knew her. If she finds out, the threat of her retaliation may reduce your chasing confidence. If she has a hunge that you want to romantically connect with the other woman, she will unlikely answer your electronic mail to her. Work place romance can be difficult; there may be obligations to others, pressures for romance to her by other men, office politics, apparent game playing; if you have to work in the same building with her and you have a personal relationship with her; try not to show your activities with all these other women in the place to her if you have a choice and show up to see her only at the end of the work day, but do not loiter there and instead make verbal contact to get into her talk space. Avoid crowds when you do not feel great; do one date at a time. On your online dating site do not show to public (women) your friends especially female friends; if you do you will probably not get any emails from women; facebook.com allows your friends to be seen via applications so do not link to friends on non-private sites like this. Do not talk about your busy places like city centre where you need to go where there will be a lot of women with her. You can have female friends or coworkers around you and her as long if you are not chasing them or have serious relationships with them, but this is still risky, especially if your female friends are physically beautiful; is better to appear to only date one woamn at a time in front of her. Love, talk and a kiss is not enough, a woman wants a man only for herself sexually, and vice versa for you; so do not show love (sweetheart) interest for other women in front of her, even if you are the most desirable man on earth. If you do not believe this, imagine if the roles were reversed: you had a poor relationship with her, no other women in your life, you tried to see her at her workplace and you saw her follow another man at her parking lot, she seemed conquered and elated by him. Would you feel happy for her, or would you feel imbarrased, jealous and disappointed?
If you tried to chase other girls in front of her and you fail, leaving her as the only option, this can be even worse for you; so make sure you are able to get this girl's telephone number in the other workplace in front of her. Stop dating games (misleading) to your number one girl, stop chasing other girls in front of her, return to this first girl to save her heart. Due to human nature most people will probably not have a threesome (affair) no matter how great the friendship is, specifically love not fully returned. By following this rule she will feel more secure about this relationship, and when she feels secure in this relationship the magic (sweet talk on her own) may happen. Telling about your past dates, ex fiance or ex girlfriends would tell her that you loved another girl and showing this before marriage is forbidden in personal dating with women. Do not underestimate the importance of this dating rule; it is important that you not make her think that you love and prefer another girl, and that your heart is with this other dream girl. At encounter talks in public she expects all your attention; then do not turn around and keep starring at the other girl there before her; date only one girl at the same time and place when possible. A dream girl is a fair, ideal woman that you always wanted.
You were imbarrased that you did not have any dates before her; its is always better if you had dates with other girls before and look like a succesful man as long if you did not have serious sexual relationships with them for the new girl to know; as long if these non-sexual dates were in the past these could be acceptable to her, but avoid telling about current chases with other girls. If you do not have a steady sweetheart, fiance or wife it is not good to be lonely (without female company). A man may want to date two or more women in same time period like girl 2 and girl 3 to get a better social life, to look like a better man and have options for girls. Courtship rapport with girl 1 was not going well. If girl number 1 leaves him, then he will not feel so bad since he still has girl 2, in his experience. Girl number 1 knows he is dating girl number 2 and girl number 1 sees that girl number 2 is great and now girl number 1 wants him too or is very jealous. Girl number 1 thinks he can get girl number 2, then perhaps he is not so bad. This may work if there are no sexual relationships or serious relationships with girls 2 and 3. If girl 1 believes you are trying to get sex with girl 2 or 3 then this will not work. You are not sure about the personal motives of girl number 1, then showing interest in girls 2 and 3 may have been the right thing to do for you in the long run. As a rule: if you do not know the personal motives or marital status of the woman (girl 1) you want, have other girls around; watch and listen very carefally and as soon as she shows the slightest personal interest in you and if she is available (single), stop chasing other women in front of her. She thinks she is my only interest; this is not my style; I only abandon the chases to other girls only if personal relationship with girl 1 is certain. This is risky; a sweetheart wants her man only for herself; making a girl jealous is not a good idea; look and listen for clues and use your intuition and if these say seeing other women is not a good idea, do not reveal this other woman to her, or chase other women in front of her, pretend to be a lonely and working man in front of her (girl 1). Some say if the woman you want is dating another man or men, then you should date another woman also, then in this situation maybe a natural urge is to reveal that you were, are and will be seeing other women, but even then if you need to meet other women is better not the reveal that you are or will be seeing other women to her or any other potential sweetheart (girl); by doing this and some personal contact attempts mentioned here you likely may be able to stop or delay cheating (her seeking romantic and intimate encounters with other men) by her even if the personal relationship between her and you is poor. You may likely help her not seeking romantic and intimate encounters with other man or men by: not revealing about your other past, current and future dates with other women to her; by making occasional personal contact attempts that she will know about, in person (live verbal contact attempts) has the better effect than electronic mail for this, if you have a chance to talk use good communicatins skills mentioned here, at first personal talk make good eye contact if possible, do not talk about your problems with her and complain. By making good personal contact attemps with impact here as a dominant male her other boyfriend will become much less relevant as a suiter; these dating guidelines used may give you the advantage over her other male suiters. When the girls you know and want were or are dating other men, and the relationship development with her is not to your liking, you may feel good when you get another girl's name and telephone number there in front of her in a public place, but allowing her to see you getting another woman's telephone number and trying to start a new relationship is a risky act, if you made the mistake of trying to chase two girls at the same time and place you may be able to mend this by personal contact attempts with her, and if you got her street address thss must be done in person (face to face). Remember this dating rule: when she did not reveal her actual past and current sweethearts or lovers to you; then you must not reveal you other sweethearts to her and not chase other women for sweetheart in front of her. By doing this in professional meetings, this reduces the chases of rejection of you as sweetheart, and accelerates the speed of the live relationship into live sweethart status. The more she likes you and wants you, or the more she is in love with you, the greater her anger or hurt if you try to chase another girl(s) in front of her; I heard they usually cannot stand it if their man cheats on her; so watch your wandering eye before her; avoid talking about any other activites that you had with other people now; focus the conversation topic on her and you on these early stages of the relationship. Before marriage with her when she asks is or is asking information never reveal about your activities or business activities when she knows other lady(s) or your number two girl might be there; but instead carefully change the conversation topic from this. Example: changing the conversation topic, hiding the truth without lying: "Did you do work search at the X employment centre this month ?", "I am still looking for work in automotive mechanics.".
If you have to talk to other girls at her work place, give her the best and longest focus and attention than the others in her communication range; if not, getting her telephone number may go from yes to maybe and that is worrysome for you. You maybe able to use subliminal focus and attention on her to make her feel that she is the only woman you are interested at that place and time, and this should reduce the chances of not getting her last name and telephone number. Once personal interest was shouwn many girls can be quite loyal if you attempt occasional personal contact attempts that she can learn about, and you do not chase other girls before her; this is used to avoid her cheating on you too soon during the difficult chase. Secret of success in these matters: where your were from, your work history, your age are out of your control; instead make her believe that she is the only girl in your life even if you have to date other girls secretly. Hiding from her in another room or around the corner at her workplace trying to get another girl's telephone number is not enough; she knows you are there.
Do not get caught dating or smooching another girl at the workplace by the girl you realy want and then leaving her unhosted (unattended by you) there. If this happened to you vice versa you trying to start a relationship you probably will be dissappointed also.
Do not tell about your one night stand in the past if any; keep a lid on it and hope it never comes up; she may say it was fine, but it will always be like an anvil an a spouse's back.
Also do not tell or reveal relationships of friends and online friends to dates (the girl) or potential sweethearts; hide your online friends, and their friends with hanky panky, if any; you do not want to make her jealous and upset by your control. Your date(s) must not learn about relationships (hanky panky) of other men she may like by your control, if this is possible. Your words must match your actions; you are trying to date this girl, but then get caught trying to get another girl's telephone number. Do not show your friends and famility members and their spouses, sweethearts and love childs especially if family members were problematic until after the second live date or consummation of this relationship; the texting were exclusive and now you show your entire life almost. If you are not sure of this rule, imagine if she showed her sisters and female friends online with all their sweethearts; some information is best kept private for a while. When a girl asks about your past relationships or professonal meeting ( chase disguised as an academic meeting) at a place she knows that you hinted about means that she is interestd in you; then do not reveal about this attempt to get a girl's telephone number to her live. When you show personal interest and she is interested she will usually eventually ask about your past relationships or activities you hinted about; if you had do not tell, but carefully change the conversation topic; if not you might say something like "I did not have serious relationships; only some acquaintances and chats.".
Local women seem to like to chase men privately and exclusively (only her doing the chasing on you, only you and her in personal relationship), but you not incoqnito; for this reason only show your first name only and not to much information about you in shared documents and public publications that she has access to. Sufficient information in office questionare are: your first name only, telephone number or email address, marital status, employment title only if you have this. Most of the remainder information about you should be shared privately in person, so she feels your personal information is for her eyes and ears only at this time. Was wondering why one could not get local online women by electronic mail from online dating sites; the problem was one shared one's last name, too much personal information, and contact information with too many women online. Men accept relationships with women easier than vice versa, so sharing too much information shared to public by man is much more personal in her point of view. Also, the first private introduction letter was to short in quantity of words. Then to initiate chase of an online woman, include most of your personal information, full name, and contact information only in first private introduction email.
Do not tell or reveal about your past, current, or future business, professional, formal educational relationships, work place or shopping activites to potential sweethearts even if she is asking; you are single with hormones and ego looking for a lady and there will likely be other nice looking women along the way in town, especially if the personal relationship has not even started yet. If she is not your sweetheart yet, I believe is better to avoid telling about any of your activities to her or show that you are telling about your activities to others, but if you must tell something tell only what is required, do not tell the whole story yet, I mean avoid showing that this information is public or shown to others duirng the early stages of this relationship while the relationship is very weak. When she, the girl is not your sweetheart yet, avoid telling about you business activities with others even if it is her job to know unless it is very good news such as you just got a million dollar a year salary, even then tell only once. Do not reveal that you are showing your information to public unless there is no other way; she does not need to see that you are sharing your information and activities with others; try to keep all information exchange with her private; for example she does not need to know about your plans and past activities in the public library that is written in the questionare before you got her telephone number and first personal chat. Do not tell too much details about your business activity today, she has a hunch there will be a lot of girls that you want to verbally connect to on the busy streets; if you must tell keep it to only one sentence long; example texting: ..., "I bought a new alarm clock today here in Spokane.", "Don't talk to people (girls). Bye .", "Wait. I am still single.", .... Do not tell about your business activity of the day especially if the chase was in disguise as this business meeting; do not under estimate her analyzing ability in these matters
before the first personal date. If you must have a professional encounter(s) with her avoid telling about your past professional or business meetings to her; if you must tell minimize information you give, make story (information) vague (do not give a detailed report), do not mention names (people, business, schools, street addresses, cities, etcetera) even if she asks. Do not mention specific plans, activites (business or personal) to do with others, and names even if she demands. She probably has a hunge or assumption that you are interested in her or some other lady there, and if your financial income and personal life is pathetic; avoid telling anything about your people activities in professional relationship with her: that you went there, details, names, street names; even if she says they are important but may not be important. Example for when you do not know her marital status and she allready said her first name: her talk is in Italic font, "Hello. How do you do today?", ..., "You have been looking for work?", "Yes; mainly on the internet; is easiest there.", "You had help here from Susan?", avoid telling or referencing names, "_", try going to the next conversation topic so you do not have to tell names, not admit the encounter and not tell this full story, ..., avoid showing achievements like on resume not neccessary for her to know for the meeting, "What kind of work were you looking for?", "Appliance warehouse work, grocery stock person, seismic electronic assembler, downtown office cleaning or farming mechanical technology.", ..., "Did you bring the list of the places of where you looked for work last week? ", "No.", this list is not really needed for her, you do not know her dating protocol and intentions now, be carefull of the acttivity information you give to her, ..., "Do you still need help to look for work? ", "Yes; I need work; I would like to keep looking on the internet", ..., "Thank you for your time.", next try to start a personal chat but avoid asking important personal questions now, "Were you from Spokane or from another city?". Do not try to impress her by telling how many business or academic meetings you had with other ladies in these early stages of this aquantance, especially in live (face to face) meetings; she still did not accept personal dates with you yet. If you sense no movement towards a personal relationship and the professional meeting goal is showing not much success, then may be better to stop professional meetings or minimize quantity of professional meetings as soon as possible after you got her contact information. Is a lot about making it appear that all your attention is focused on her without saying so in the early stages of this aquantance. Avoid talking about professional activities especially that were younger than two years with the potential sweetheart(s) (woman). Another example about taking resume writing classes where a beautiful woman works that she knows about: at a professional meeting at a shopping mall with the woman you want, your wrong response: "Did you take the resume writing classes last week?", "Yes. I wanted to hear their verson of resume writing."; the correct response: "Did you take the resume writing classes last week? ", "No.". Imagine if the roles were reversed; you are the professional helping in work search and she gives you a list of names where she applied for work; how would you think, was she having a good time? If you do not have her last name and telephone number, and your business is not doing well, avoid giving her clues about your professional activities with other people by not writing down anything except her name and telephone number in professional meeting in front of her, unless there is no other choice; you have to decide whether this business information your write down on paper is more important than her at this time.
I believe one of the main causes of early rejection of the man as a sweetheart is getting caught trying to get other girls, or seeing other girls; so it is imparative that your online friends, friends of friends, and profile statistics are not shown in your online profile(s). Do not talk to other girl if talk is for professional reasons there or lear at other girl in front of her. The main causes of divorce are finincial problems and infidelity before marriage and current; then infidelity dating like pornography and threesomes is not going to help this marriage. This is why adult, pornographic dating sites produces the least results; women want a serious long term exclusive (you and her only) relationship.
Do not worry about things that are out of your control like too many girls (potential sweethearts) at her work place or in the shopping mall; instead watch your own actions, focus all your attention on her that you dare do when you are there, do not let her see your eyes wander looking at potential sweethearts like beautiful girls in the shopping mall. On the wireless: "Yes Captain Kirk, focus, focus your attention, ..., start doing the telephone number getting routine, do not let you eyes wander to the other girls, keep eye contact when you talk, ... , you got it, walk out of the place with her or alone (when you leave her for the day leave her as you without another girl)".
Do not even mention or speak another woman's name who is not part of your family to her even if the other woman is the same girl (her), but if you must say tell only the other woman's last name. Example electronic mails: poor realtionship: "I am going to tell your doctor Marylin Baker that your work search activity sessions with me will be transfered to another worker.", "Okay, tell Marylin."; a better relationship: "I am going to tell your doctor Baker that your work search activity sessions with me will be completed.", "Fine; is not neccessay to tell my doctor, but if you must, give this information to my doctor. Thank you for this help.".
Example two, texting:
"Jonathan Doe: Hello Jane Susan (Mandy Baker).
Jane Susan: Hi.
Jonathan Doe: How do you do today at home?
Jane Susan: I am fine. Who is Mandy?
Jonathan Doe: Mandy Baker is you also; your alias name.
Jane Susan: Forget about her; talk to me here instead.".
This rule is nearly the same for most relationship types such online texting or seemingly strickly business professional relationships.
May be worried she may give a difficult time in giving her telephone number, and so you loose some confidence. To help sustain your confidence avoid meeting and talking with other women there in front of her until after you got her first and last name, and her telephone number directly from her hand. Again, use your mind, experience, intuition, feeling and sense that you need to stop focusing attention (chasing) on other women there (workplace) before her, during the early and sensitive stages of this pre-relationship with her.
Avoid spending too much time there at her work place with other women; she can probably sense this, at least before you got her telephone number. When you walk into her visual space do not look at other people there if possible, especially other women. Then as you approach her focus all your attention on her now: point the front of your body in her direction, do not look at other objects, the floor or other people when you face her this close, but look at her head area or eyes during the chase session, make strong eye contact when either of you speak even if she is not looking at your eyes, then start the getting her name and telephone number routine.
For texting do not mention other girls to her even if the other girl is the same girl; you will want to avoid any unecessary dating games and playing hard to get.
If she asks if you have given your heart here before to another girl online do not say yes; if you do say yes this shows that you are a player and looks like that you do not care about her.
You do not want to accidently show a picure of a past sweetheart; she may pack her luggage, not respond to your calls or reject you as a sweetheart.
If the texting relationship is very close, pretending that the online relationship is exclusive with her, and then she saw your Facebook.com female friends she can stop talking to you, perhaps permanantly. Facebook.com does not hide friends and you have to be very carefull who your Facebook.com online friends are; if you do have online friends there, use a phoney last name. Friends and families online tend to show how great or poor their lives are which may be too soon for her to see; avoid letting her meet your family to soon (before second live personal date). Here is a guideline for this rule: avoid letting her see that your life is better with other women, friends and family than you and her's before the marriage or third live (in person) personal date. Pretend to be a lonely, boring, working man in the early stages of the courtship and that she is the queen of your life figuretively speaking. This has to be done carefully, because you do not want to alienate other people in front of her; actually, as a dominant male and to show that this relationship is strong you want to avoid alienating avoiding other people in front of her in live dates. When looking for work is best to de-personalize your online social pages by using a phoney name. If one is one of two suiters or number two of two suiters this makes sweetheart behaviour more difficult; you want to avoid giving her this level of uncertaintity by not revealing your other dates, female friends and other failed chases when the relationship is still weak before third in person (face to face) personal date.
If you do not have the home telephone number yet of the local girl, do not reveal information or hints about your business activities with others or that you are living with others (family), the personal relationship starts when you are able to get her home telephone number live directly from her hand; is always better to pretend to be a lonely man at first in front of her or to potential sweetheart until after you got her home telephone number; she can use you postal code to guess your living arrangements too soon, no guessing about you for her now.
If you do try to chase another woman at her work place, do not leave indications of your presence there, like pieces of paper, books bought; even if you did not leave physical evidence, she might be able to guess by the behaviour of the other people there.
Some or experts say if she is dating other men to your knowledge then you should see another woman also. If she is seeing other men romantically your natural reaction is to do the same thing; you may want to get another woman's name and telephone number in front of her. If you do need to see other women, do not reveal or tell her that you are or will be seeing other women. Whether you can chase or touch other women in front of her depends if she did a similar thing whether it is real or pretend; and here is this rule: if she did not reveal her sweetheart, past boyfriend, other actual personal dates, or public physical affections with others to you then you must also not reveal similarly. If she did not reveal and you did reveal, she will unlikely answer your calls for a long time. If she did reveal her main man or other men, you may have a greater privilege to reveal about your chase, or to get another woman's name and telephone number in front of her, a fairr play for you, but this is still risky. Example: after four professional meetings or school classes with her you finally found out that she is married or allready has a suiter; this means you have now the privilege of chasing other women in front of her without reprocussions in future personal relationship if any; fair play, "fair is fair". The girls there (on streets or work place) are not talking to you and answering personal questions but talking to other males before you; being frustrated and feeling alone you get another girl's name and telephone number before these girls. A good guideline for the courtships: return the loyalty what she gave you: if she did not date and smootch another man before you, then do not chase another girl for sweetheart before her too, date only one girl at the same time and place on your part.
You should never reveal your female friends, ex girlfriends or other girl friends to her a sweety before real face to face consummation of this relationship or marriage; this might show that you cannot get a girl friend, cannot hold on to a girl friend and that your are perhaps a player, or have been leading her on, respectiviely, and if you do she might test your commitment to her by not responding to your calls for a long time. As the relationship gets stronger when she responds to all your calls we might assume that this rule becomes less important, but this may actually be the opposite; when she gets to know you, gain trust in you, allows here feelings of attraction to develop and accepts you, you may want to follow this rule even more carefully such as avoiding talking about other peoples work like music, your aspirations too much which probably involves other people until after he face to face consummation of this relationship. Instead you may have to focus the porsonal chats on her and this relationship more.
Is human nature to be sometimes attracted to more than one person of the opposite sex at the same time; she could be dating or be married to another man and still feel upset or jealous when you (her potential sweetheart) kissed another girl; this is another reason why business advertisements should not be over personalized. This is another reason why past private personal dating life should not be revealed to other ladies. When the girl is jealous because you want another girl this shows that she cares; you want to make her jealous to see if she cares, but making the girl (potential sweetheart) jealous before getting her home telephone number and street address directly from her hand is usualy not a good idea.
The more intimate her mode with encounters with you, the more exclusive (only you and her in relationship) and private the encounters have to be. Then do not reveal your personal information to strangers and act you are trying to get every girl there or other girl there before her. Give only some personal information only to her privately, directly. At her work place do not give texts evidence of you visits and personal information for others to see there; instead go to her work place, school or home and ask her verbally for a personal date in person, live, and face to face. At this point she should not know your age yet.
When you initiate talk for chase online for the first time, the more exclusive (only uou and her) the interaction with her, the better the chances of success; do not give your real or phoney name on public profile, not give other names, and not tell to much information about you for other ladies to see on pulbic profile; most information has to be shared in private introducations when online.
When a woman believes you are interested in her due to your behaviour she knows about, she will check if you have also been chasing other women when she can. When she asks, the proper answer is: "no I did not" or, say nothing and carefully change the conversation topic. Example in third professional meeting in restaurant: ..., "Did you go to the computer program class yesterday? ", "I know enough about this accounting program. Do you watch television a often?", "_.", ... ."
When a woman believes you are after her as sweetheart especially after briefly and occasionaly focusing your attention on her that she knows about, she will check if you are trying to chase as sweetheart another woman there when she can but for no more than once per visit; always make sure she can find you easily within a minute there at that public place. On other days repeat this process and wait patiently, she will have a difficult time to resist checking. This usually works at the public library, at her work place or perhaps is just my imagination. When you are dating a woman she will ask about your past personal relationships with women; do not reveal about your past and current dates with other women if any even if she asks over and over again, but carefully change the conversation topic. At professional meetings when she believes you are after her for sweetheart she will usually check about your meetings with other women that she knows about and if you did attend these meetings to try to get another girl's telephone number there, do not tell that you went to meeting(s) but carefully change the conversaton topic. When you try to chase a woman as sweetheart they will usually want to know if you are dating other women and will be trying to meet and date other women. If she asks you may have an desire to be honest or show off, but do not tell about your past, current and future girls chasing, dating activities or relationships, but carefully change the conversation topic. By following this dating rule this will help save her pride, make her feel not less important with you, will reduce the chances of rejection of you as sweetheart, the fiance status will develop faster and stronger. Imagine if the roles were reversed, and she said she has a personal dinner date tonight with another man? You will probably feel: dissapointed, less important with her, perhaps I am her number two or three prospect, perhaps I should find another girl.
You should not tell a potential sweetheart or new sweetheart about you entertainent activities like walking on streets, playing baseball with friends before the consummation of this relationship; she will know that you have one eye on the ladies along the way. If you do to tell about your business activities, do not give the details to her too soon if you think you might want her as sweetheart; there will usually be ladies along the way which she assumes. Do not talk about other women in electronic mail and letters to her; focus talk on her and you; example what not to write: "You look like a fashion model in a K-mart clothing catalog; is nice to meet you.". In professional meetings with her do not talk about other ladies or her female co-workers unless you have to; example what not to say: "Sue the other lady here was helping me write my work resume about two months ago.". She may allready know, but do not remind her and tell more details about other lady (other chase for sweetheart) unless you have to.
No one wants to be second or third sweetheart or be second choice with a particular person; so for this reason you should not reveal your past sweethearts, chase and date other girls in front of her (the girl), or speak highly of your exs too soon.
Online women on their public dating profiles say: "Must not be looking for Other Relationship"; meaning: to get local online girls with you initiating talk, keep the quantity and magnitude of your personal informations to a minimum to
public and ladies on public online dating sites; show most of your information and love poetry only in private with her before her.
The longer in time your female online friends are on your public profile the less the number of electronic mails from women initiating talk; hide all your online friends especially female friends from public view on your public online dating profile pages for girls to chase you.
In professional, work place or academic meetings and your feelings here are not ideal, court only one potential sweetheart at the same time and place (in front of each other the girls), this should reduce the chances of rejection of you as sweetheart or not responding to your calls later.
The pre-dating courtship or early part of the personal dating with the individual can have a lot of uncertainty; do not talk about your intimate talks, situations and kisses with exes (such as engagements that did not work out) of the past in front of others and her at the same time too soon; it might imbarrass her and make her feel a little uncomfortable and make her compete with your past exes now, or vice versa; leave your intimate past behind and private for now until the bond and affection is two way and stronger. Date only one girl at a single time and place; do not let your eyes wander to check out other girls in front of her. You may want to try to get the waitress' (other woman) telephone number later when you are alone in this example. Example problem at a restaurant: ..., "You keep looking and staring at the waitress.", " I am sorry."," Allright; go to her." ,"No; I was just admiring her eyes and hair. She probably is married. I am interested in you, dear.". Do not talk about your past relationship problems with women or other peoples relationship problems you know to her too soon; allow the stormy seas to calm down if any and see the shoreline figuretivily speaking; allow her time (time from first time seeing you) to talk to you so that both of your hearts can warm up, heads to cool down (negative emotions to reduce); the gentle emotional type of love takes time develop.
When the encounters like looking for work with the potential sweetheart were not well especially at her work place, it is very important that you do not reveal your past, current and future activities to her whether these are personal, leisure, business, work hisrtory in resume and even hobbies or imaginary activities; you will be hot, bothered and lonely in heart at those activities; there will likely be some handsomes, beauties, irresistables, cuties there; there can be suiters, romance, sexual tensions, and falling in love with members of the opposite sex. Then when trying to get her home telephone number or asking other personal questions focus all your attention on her (or vice versa when you are the female suiter) then: there and then at talk point the front of your body in her direction, sit or stand as close as possible as prototcol and manners allows, keep looking at her face or eyes; do not let your eyes wander to look down at floor, at your hands, at ceiling, other girl's office, at male buddy. Make strong eye contact when either of you is speaking even if she is not looking at you. You are trying to make up (repair the relationship) there by trying to make the relationship exclusive (only you and her), and this should increase the success rate dramatically. This means for best results, on online dating profiles you cannot show photographs of your hobbies, home, workplace, and holiday trips to the single ladies as potential sweethearts publically; the background of your head take photographs should be plain. You cannot mention other girls or the words "girls" or "my favorite women" in poetry on it whether real or imaginary on dating profile.
Is more difficult to work or go to school with exs; unless you watch your behaviour and take the appropriate actions you may never see her again: pass the four tests below, get her home contact information; when paths intersect out of your control greet and focus your attention on her; avoid visiting too often and revealing to much now, avoid saying unusual or weird thoughts before her now.
When your group at work start to discuss about boyfriends, girlfriends, do not admit and reveal about your girlfriend, potential sweethearts, failed girl chasing atttempts, and dates with women; if you do, the girl will have another excuse to go with the other man; make this dating life with other woman uncertain to her so not to give a firm ending with her. When you know a new girl has allready a love and suiter, it is usually more difficult to show sweetheart affection to her.
What happens if your personal relationship status with her is uncertain and she takes you to a professional meeting with a woman, a girl as another potential sweetheart at her work place. Imagine if the roles were reversed; idealy she should not choose sides then. In such a testing situation one would avoid looking at both of them except for brief eye contact when either one talks. Say only what is neccessary then before the both of them. Both would receive equal attention from you at the same encounter and place, because your sweetheart status with the both of them is uncertain at this time.
When sitting at a table with her at a professional meeting do not disrupt the meeting or romance by turning around and staring for about ten seconds at this other girl there before her. Disrupting this romance with her and making her feel less desirable by taking away this attention that should be her's for now can be a critical mistake in pre-dating situations. Complete the meeting and wait until she leaves before talking to this other girl there; only one date at the same time and place. Imagine if the roles were reversed: she keeps turning around to look or stare at a another man in a restaurant with she hoping the connect with this man; how would you feel; would you say "Allright, go to him."?
A girl will test the loyalty of her male suiter, potential fiance, fiance or potential boyfriend when she can and she will find a way when you make your move; when she takes you into this situation at her workplace, academic meeting or with her female friends: point the front of your body in her direction throughout the encounter, focus your attention on her, give her most of your talk then, keep your eyes off the other female beauties there before her, you must make up your mind and choose to ignore your other woman if she is present. Avoid giving a smootch to either one before them now, just in case you need to switch girls.
Dating advice in books and magazines deal only when you allready have a sweetheart or willing daters, your personal life is decent; many women writers do not tell the full truth about dating; in public professional meetings my status with the new girls as sweetheart is unknown and perhaps low; watch my eyes, relative location to girls, my words if any, and movement language, I do not show any favor to any particular girl there until a have discovered and snatched the right girl for me from the group.
You do not know the girls' dating schedules and if she will be available next week; you can go to her work place next month and then find her with a different last name. Then do not give her an excuse to leave you by revealing your other female prospects; when you must meet or date two to three girls at the same place such as at her work place, keep the girls in separate rooms during encounters if possible, and talk to each for about fifteen minutes separately. Keep the girls guesing about your dating and personal chats with other women. You do not have her home telephone number and her real home address yet, then make each girl believe that she is your only girl during pre-dating stages; then you will be smiling for real and not frowning on the inside later. This should make getting her home telephone number easier later. Asking about her marital status is an akward question to strangers; and some women may only reveal this after first encounter. When you do not know her dating schedule, marital status and where you stand as sweetheart like this, avoid getting emotionally attached to much to her, do not get your hopes upto high now; you do not know if you she will have a new last name at next month's encounter at her work place.
At professional, business or academic encounter(s) with potential sweetheart or girlfriend, the encounters must be only about you and her; other than your clothing do not carry and show any other objects such as magazines on your there. Here are some things you must not do with potential sweetheart or girlfriend and professional or business encounters in a group.
Do not:
1: have or wear a name tag; if you are forced to have a name tag on your desk then only write your first name. That is show
your full name to other ladies there before her.
2: do not show book, video, magazine, or paper with a picture of another lady(s) on it, directly or indirectly. If she pretends
she does not care but realy cares at this difficult situation this (other lady) will drive her crazy and she will leave your
desk side.
3: talk to other ladies before her in group.
Any indication of apparent interest in another woman before her could reduce your chances of in person success. If you get caught doing lovy dovy (holding hands) with another woman on the streets by her then only time and persistance of chase can repair the emotional damage: time allows her negative emotions to cool down or decrease, the persistant and exclusive chase to repair her pride.
When you do not need to get a woman or not looking to get a girlfriend then you can say what you want or act silly, do girl watching on the streets, but when you are trying to get a fiance or a serious relationship you will have to fess up a little (please her, specicially follow the dating rules and protocol). Experience has shown the less silly you act, the less details you reveal or hint about your activities, the more likely you will get her home telephone number in person or online. You will probably be at professional, academic or party meeting for the chase for a girlfriend and then so do not talk to the group unless you have to, but focus the encounter only on you and her now until you got her home telephone number. Gving to much details, telling or revealing details about your life and activities or telling too many words there now tells her that you have been busy and probably with others and perhaps with a little romance. Avoid asking dumb questions in group, showing your unusual or weird side now or acting childish. Keep the greetings too others there that need to be done polite but short and then return your focus on her. If you are not carefull: "I heard there is a new girl in town (office, online). Now my baby is nowhere around; yeah. Now you think you are in dispair; being in the air. Well, do no good to cry; yeah, yeah.".
4: Confidence In A Man Is What Women Admire
Some men seem to be scared to chase a new woman on ths streets; you need to show that you are not scared to start personal talk with a woman in person. Having a nice personality, being smart and financially ambitious may help but alone is not enough to get her as sweethart, usually; you need to show confidence and powers to make personal requests in person, live also at least once when you have the physical opportunities to do so. Lost the number one, two, three and number four girls (potential sweethearts) of the past, could not get a local woman to respond to electronic mail, got a few verbal rejections as sweetheart, still working on getting a new girl's (a sweetie) home telephone number, but someone else who is younger not even a teenage cutie, no high school diploma, no job, sometimes not nice to grandma, he has a kid and tries to sneak in three other teenage girls into uncle's place; how does he do it?; is lot about having the confidence to start personal talk in person, conceiling his weaknesses, being not sophisticated. Having the confidence to ask personal information and request, her home telephone number in person, live, face to face, verbally is key of getting a girl as sweetheart when you have the physical ability to do so. Merely doing the act (confidence, power to chase in person, live) is enough to get her home telephone number. Not having the confidence to meet new people especially women is some men's greatest weakness and can result in not finding a mate early in life, business deal, or entry into a college course; she knows this, and you know this. Sending her an electronc mail may not be enough; just asking her out to a personal date in person, live at her work place may be enough to recover from a rejection as a sweetheart via electronic mail. Show courage, confidence, emotional strength, feeling at ease and the power to do the chase in person (face to face); start the chase talk face to face (in person) unless in person access is not available to you. Some men do not chase women much as sweetheart because they are scared of rejection or are simply too shy. Use the most difficult contact method given to you. Id you knbow her street address do not use electrponic mail or telephone to ask for the first date or to askpersonal questions. Difficulty in order of most difficult: face to face, by telephone, by webcam, by texting, electronic mail or post mail. For example if you had professional meetings with her and you got her work street address and electronic mail address, do not use the electronic electronic mail to ask her personal questions; show courage and start the personal talk at her work place in person. Asking her personal questions in many cases indicates your personal interest in her. Getting online long distance ladies may be easy, but you still do not have the face to face personal talk with her so required.
Get her telephone number directly from her mouth, and then since you only have her telephone number, this number must only be used to schedule personal dates in the early stages of the relationship. You do not want to get caught sneakily looking around for her telephone number on the roster or over her shoulders, this does not feel good and you know it; ask it directly in first person (from her mouth or hand (pen)) if you have the chance to do so. You may be able to get her telephone number form a telephone book, but is best to get her telephone number and her name directly from her mouth which shows your courage. When you go out of your comfort zone and into someone else's territory there may perhaps be a small risk and unpredictability, and this may make you a little nervous; show courage and confidence by starting the chase talk face to face. If you are nervous or scared in this new territory, remind yourself that you have the privilege to courtship and assemble peacefully like anyone else. People are social beings, remind yourself that you do not need and excuse or reason to talk to a woman, be with a woman, or walk on the streets with a woman. If you got her address from the telephone book, check out her place and start the personal talk there face to face. If you only have her texting eelectronic mail address, then you can only use that until you get her telephone number and street address. I you have her telephone number use that only to sechedule personal meting, and save the personal information exchange for face to face personal dates. Once you have her home street address then only do personal talks and ask important requests in person. You just started post seconday education, always be ready and prepared on the streets, mall, work, school, home, etcetera to initiate the personal chase and initiate the getting her name and telephone number routine by yourself in person; being ready at all times should improve the quality of your life. Women seem to prefer and like confidence and presistence of chase; and a high value should increase the chances of success. Trying to get her home telephone number impromtu directly from her mouth, live, face to face at her workplace can be a tremendous emotional stress on you especially when not following these dating guidelines; having the courage and ability to do this is likely going to give you points toward sweetheart status. He cannot hold onto an apartment, does not have a high school diploma, is only pure potential, is average looking, is not tall; how does he get the girls?; is all about having confidence to do personal talk face to face (in person), not revealing negative information about one's mental state, having the time to gain trust in him. This is the follow buddies, talk (personal talk), getting her home telephone number and wait method.
A woman does not want to be an easy catch, so it seems; always communicate and make requests or ask for personal information face to face (in person) when you have the ability do so, and not doing so (showing courage and high chase effort) could lead to your rejection. Do not use mail, telephone, electronic mail, webcam (web camera) when you allready have the street address; doing so will lead to failure; you must show courage and confidence by communicating in person (face to face). The best contact method is her home street address. You are required to show courage to initiate face to face talk when you have the physical ability to do so and your best effort to make contact; never use electronic mail or mail for personal communication when you allready have the contact address. A home address is prefered where she is more tranquil, rested and where there are less other women involved which usually gets a more favorable result, but a workplace address may be better when feelings are still neutral and light, because she will not be able to hide as easy. Contact methods in order of most personal and best are: home street address, home telephone number, her work place street address, her workplace telephone number, live texting to her home, her home electronic mail address, letter to her home, workplace email address. The workplace in person is the most difficult contact method, because you will have to get past the receptionist and the company doors, and she sometimes is not there. The workplace electronic mail address is the worst and must be avoided when it was given to you for professional reasons unless there is not other way. Live texting with her home electronic mail address is a good way to communicate if you do not have her home street address and for long distance relationship. Use the free to see rule: if you have free and unrestricted access to her work location then you must ask for dates, ask personal questions or other personal request in person; you must show the courage and courtesy of making these requests in person; if not you will likely get no response or get a rejection. The after trying rule is: when you have tried to see her at her work place and you cannot get past the receptionist and the company doors, then it is perhaps acceptable to ask her for dates on the telephone; you tell the truth to her, say: "I tried to reach you yesterday at Bata Shoes but I was not allowed through; can you let me through tomorrow?"; this is a situation that you want to avoid, use the free to see rule instead. If she is not at work, companies usually do not tell anything about their employees, so avoid asking when she will be in; if you ask when she will be in and receptionist does not answer, do not ask again; try again another day; you need to avoid her absence from work and carefully time your meeting. Do not use work electronic mail to ask for her personal information when you have her street address and have the ability to talk in person (face to face) with her; doing this (email) probably will lead to failure. Always use the most difficult live contact method for personal advances; in this order: faca to face, webcam, telephone; then you should will feel better about effort if you failed. Ask only for dates using live contact method: webcam or telephone where feelings and behaviour are live (immediate); do not use static electronic mail. For an adult man (over twenty five), to get her visit her at her workplace and only just for her, focus only on her, dress decently, start chat, ask her over to your place after her work, and if she senses both of you are an item then the chase is nearly complete. Only tell or reveal that she is the woman for you in person; then showing a surprise interest in her like asking her for a date or personal information must be done in person when you have the ability to do so. You need to give her at least four sentences of personal information about you other than age, your address to insure that she will give you important personal information about her. She may want you to try very hard to get her; this probably means trying to contact her in person with the most difficult contact method, her work place. Her work place is the most difficult contact method; there will be the receptionist, company doors, office dating policies to get past through and then there may be other suiters there occupying her free time also. Two advantages of live texting is feelings are immediate then, and talk is private, which allows better intimacy from her.
You do not have to be a dominant male and be commanding, or have a high school diploma to get a girls many times; you just have to do personal talk live, face to face, show genuine interest in her and use your personality. When you ask for her name telephone number on the streets she does not know if you have a university degree or not.
If she is not yet your sweetheart or fiance, minimize the quantity of any business communications with electronc mail and ordinary mail with your number one local girl; do not try to talk every day with electronic means before the intimate stage of her behaviour in relationship; instead do all business and personal communications live, face to face, in person with her when you have the physical ability to do so, and you know and sense this. You must show the confidence, courage and emotional ability to do the talks in person, face to face, live. When she is not yet your sweetheart, all personal and business communications must be done live, face to face, in person when you have the physical ability to do so; for best results. Do not try to get her the local girl as sweetheart too hard by long distance electronic means. Avoid using business to get near her or to exchange personal information, and she will know this; do not try to hard the get her using business before receivng her home telephone number directly from her mouth to you.
She resisted telling her last name last time you talked with her in person during a professional meeting at a busy grocery store; the distance between your eye and her's were too far apart, and because there was a table between you and her. Women like and respect confidence to talk and confidence in the possible development of the relationship in man. Show confidence by speaking well. Show confidence in the development of the relationship by using the lover's stance while doing the getting her name and telephone number routine. The lover's stance is when you stand close as possible to her without touching her, and with the front of your body pointing in her direction. The distance between you and here must not be more than half a metre between eyes; and walk as close as you dare can without overwhelming her private space. Focus your attention on her then with strong eye contact when either one of you speak even if she is not looking at you. During this stance and talk there must be no large objects between you and her like a table, chair, shopping cart, bicycle or a vacuum cleaner. When one is affraid to come into a persons talk space, one may stand far away from a person subconsiously; standing or sitting close to her without touching, but no more than half a metre apart from eye to eye shows the level of confidence you have with her as potential sweetheart.
Be confident or show confidence and maturity: women prefer men who are confident. They want to feel that you are capable of dealing with the complexities of life. Show confidence by initiating personal talk with her in person, by taking leadership in the courtship with her and with determination in your making a living career development.
No more envying couples in movies, or internet photographs, the young man with the young pretty blond girl following him in the electronic parts store; no more online girls that are afraid to meet you, no shows ar downtown stores or women that play hard to get to the maximum. Instead get a girlfriend soon within three months of first sight who will give your romantic talk, will do things for you without a lot of money like meeting at a restaurant, go to family parties, at least get those powers. It is a lot about having the confidence and ability to initiate the courtship and its talks in person, face to face; action speaks louder than your public information. No more saving money for those $1000 flight tickets to see her. Do it without begging her, she has an inkling of what you want, let her ask and answer the questions that you want to hear on the telephone.
What do women like in a man that is allow her attraction of him develop; some are: confidence and ability to start personal talk in person (the act of doing the chase routines face to face, on person, live alone); knowing his marital status, showing personal interest and attention to her; his committment in financial goals, personal dating with her; masculine (attractive, dignified, masculine clothing), being nice to her.
5: Romantic Communications Skills
The power of language: is plain, simply, ordinary daily English (language) enough to get a girl as a sweetheart?; usually not; a single sentence of about ten words or less is usually not enough; when the sentence is unclear, ambiguous or too short in length this may sometimes may be worse than saying nothing. For example if a girl is blurting a complaint about the cold wheather with a sentence of short length, one might think that me the listener is part of the problem; clarification of this complaining by her as another sentence or two on this topic from her is needed. This is why you should not complain while on a personal date with a woman. Do not be ambiguous (unclear) with your talk especially with verbal intimacy or personal talk, and when personal relationship is poor. When the sentence is unclear or ambiguous this may frustrate some people due to misunderstanding and perhaps even offend some people when they do not know the speaker. Talking unclear, inaccurate and not to the point can frustrate some people. Talk or write clearly, accurately, to the point, honestly, gently in electronic mail or post mail to reduce the chances of rejection of you as a sweetheart. Is better to ask for intimacy clearly, accurately and honestly with a lot of words than with shy, ambiguous and short talk in talk. The words must match your true intentions. The topic or paragraph should have at least three sentences, and each sentence must have at least ten words when possible. At least three topics per letter should be send like in personal letter C below. Do not combine professional mail and personal mail; keeps these topics and moods separate to avoid confusion and negative business news in personal writings. Hinting that you want intimacy with her in a shy, unclear and ambiguous way with only one or two sentences is forbidden; instead ask clearly, accurately, the the point, honetly, gently, with a lot of words. An example email: poor talk: "I would like to get to know you more."; better talk: "I would like to get to know you more; like tell me where you were from, tell me if you are single. Tell me which city you were from; did you grew up in Spokane? Come over to my place for about an hour and tell me; we can talk alone here". You may not get an written response here from her, but your personal intentions have been revealed and outright verbal rejection of you was avoided; you have planted a seed for sweetheart development figuretivily speaking. Describe this event accurately: with who, when, where, do what, for how long. The believe that asking a girl for intimacy would shock her, offend her, make her lock her doors and make her hide under her bed is simply not true; in fact when a male receives an intimate invitation from a woman this can be emotionaly pleasing to him, or a woman receives a love letter from a man can be emotionally pleasing to her within any culture (men are all human). Avoid frustration of the listener and unhappiness of you by writting not ambigously which is speak clearly, accurately, the the point, understand-able. I mean to say, hinting to a woman that you want intimate personal relationship with her in a shy, unclear, ambiguous way and simple way is a poor method when the relationship was allready poor. Your task in chasing a woman for a sweetheart is to avoid verbal rejection of you as a sweetheart, then keep her talking (responding to your telephone, email, texting, door ring calls), and next to get friendship and sweet talk from her or ready for a long term relationship (marriage). Write without ambiguity, write throuroughly with complexity to reduce the chances of verbal rejection as a sweetheart, to trump manipulations using official moods and excuses not to date you like public health care organization dating policies, and any professional documents. I mean write really well making it difficult to use professional dating policies not to date you and to make you feel bad from rejection, or make difficult to use professional dating policies to belittle you. If your personal letter is short in length and weak combined with a professional letter within a poor professional relationship, you may get whipped (receive a painfull, humiliating rejection of you as a sweetheart) by her; stop this whip or reduce its sting by writing vey well like this to command better respect. Actually, you should not combine a personal letter with a professional letter to her in the same send, keep negative information in professional letter separate from love letter; below tells why. When talking (verbal communication) to her or friends use at least seventeen words per topic; this should increase your image, confidence, happiness, gain respect for you to reduce testing of you, and success in getting a sweetheart (woman) or new friends. By writing or talking very well like this with power you may increase respect for you, get faster sweetheart love and reduce her courage of testing you by a small amount like asking for money. For written communcations use more words per topic or paragraph as mentioned above. The extra words are not gibberish or empty filler texts, but are content for clarification of thought, reveal specificity of intention, for calming the mind (to assure), and/or to convince, etcetera. Examples at a hardware store in 2010: a decent talk of decent length: "Hello. Can you tell me where the water supply plumbing supplies are in this store. I want to install a designer level faucet for my bathroom sink in my house today. I am looking for a modern style faucet made of real metal for about $150."' a poor version of short length: "Hey. Can you tell me where the water supply plumbing supplies are here?; want a faucet.".
Communicate clearly with no ambiguity, do not leave her guessing: all photographs must be labelled or titled in a simple way, text clear, avoiding the wrong words in sentences online to improve the quality of the talk or relationship, to help increase your confidence, reduce the sting of rejection as sweetheart such as when she breaks the electronic mail link and your age range of you and improving the chances of getting what you want.
Does your sentences match your personality and age, or does it sound too simple like a ten old, you sound like you are avoiding the true issues? When you are affraid to admit the truth (attraction to her), say what you want without actually saying and asking it directly and without being too blunt. Sound more manly and confident by writing and talking in a more complex way (not too simple and ambiguous) like this.
For the getting her name and telephone number routine, the more intelligent and mature your conversation or your words to her, the better the chances of success especially in professional meetings when finances of you are not good.
To avoid looking weird, strange, absent minded, look like you do not know how to talk to people, overly shy or angry at first encounter use: the proper greeting, introduction and inviting protocols and manners; keep the talk positive or neutral; use good communications skills mentioned here; avoid unusual behaviour or talk too soon; focus on the task at hand. Make a good impression during the beginning parts of the first encounter. The conversation should flow smoothly from topic to topic; make her focus on the conversation. Keep like topics close together in time. each topic has its own paragraph, making sure to pause talk a little (four to six seconds) after each paragraph. Example talk paragraph topics: greeting and introduction; invitation, request or state purpose of meeting; professional talks; at end of professional talks start personal chat; do the getting her home telephone number routine; invite to another personal meeting. Always ask or invite to a personal date after getting her home telephone number directly from her hand in person.
Information and good communicaitons skills in advertisements is used to de-alienate, clearify and comfort the listener; if she allows then get chatty just enough with her.
When the professional encounter or pre-dating encounter did not go ideal with here, then when you use lower level greetings and lower level language, and you do not know what to say with her, it could be game over of getting her home telephone number today, and that means if she says no you will be imbarrased and emotionally hurt today. Then only use the higher level greetings to women like: "Good day.", " Good afternoon. How do you do today?", "Good evening. I am Johnathan Doe. Do you remember me?", "Yes .", "How do you do today?".
Ambiguity in talk depending on what you stand for and perception of you can be damaging. Then to avoid ambiguity in any communications, each sentence should have no less than nine words and each topic or paragraph at least two sentences. There is usually a way of giving new information, title or love poetry at least nine words.
For many of us good communications skills, introduction, sharing three to five personal quesions and getting her personal contact information in person directly from her hand is one step of chase for getting fiance status with her later quicker. Some men get fiance status after three or more years after first sight; reduce the waiting time to less that two years with these methods on this page.
6: Dating Schedule and Personal Relationhip Development Pace
You can ask for in person (live) dates only five to seven days in advance they say; one to four days asking in advance is too early and not allowed according to some, and the rush scheduling may lead to rejection. She may also need this time to get ready emotionaly and physically for this date. More than eight days in advance is too long, especially if she does not take your talk too seriously. This asking five days in advance rule may only apply if the past personal meetings went well and your financial life is good. In actuall, asking for a live date three to five days in advance seems fine. This depends on the woman; simply ask if she is available in two days from now for a personal meeting. Most single women can make time two days in advance for a man. Do not use electronic mail to make a date when you allready have the voice telephone number. Electronic mail has a time difference which does not allow current and shared emotions. If the relationship has not gone well, ask only for personal dates in person to show your courage, and for showing courtesy. Now use your experience, these guidelines, intuition and feeling to guess how many days in advance you can ask before going on a personal date with her. You need to give her sufficient preparation time; ask at least four days in advance for personal meeting. In online texting, long distance relationships, contact attempts within less than one week intervals.
How many times per month do you have to attempt to make personal contact (personal date) with her? Some say at one and a half week intervals if you know she has interest in you as a sweetheart or husband. Actually if she is a long distance online girl and she wants to be with you, you will have to respond to her calls within about three days; if not this will show a poor interest and in her, and then she could stop talking to you online. If you have a professional relationship with her and she opens a door (flirts, personal chat) into a personal relationhip with her, you may have to take it (a serious, exclusive, long term raltionship) on the very same day. If she rejected you as a sweetheart you may have to wait for a year or two to attempt to start chase if it is not too late. If the relationship did not go well you may have to increase the time intervals between personal dates by about a week; use your experience, intuition and feeling to determine when and where to ask for personal meetings, and the words you should say.
For the early stages of texting; one would text her as much as she wants to; then when she goes into her playing hard to get routine, testing your patients and persistence routine, pretending that she does not appreciate you too much by not answering your calls; one would reduce the contact attempts to her to once to twice a month, but making sure she can detect those contact attempts. Once you have talked with her in dating format or have seen any indications in favor for you, she very likely wants a persistent chase of her as sweetheart; then do courtship or difficult chase slowly, gently, not try to hard, but steadily. Give local or long distance woman time to truly know you, gain trust in you, admire you if possible. Again use your mind, experience, this guideline, your intuittion, feeling, sense to know when, where, what to say to her; you know when you are trying to hard to impress her, saying not enough, saying too much and showing not enough courage to talk.
Some people (man and woman) marry within one month of first sight, while others marry in two to five years of first sight. There may be a certain period of time that you must develop the relationship for some; perhaps within a few weeks. If the speed of the chase is slower than she expected there may be a time limit. If the relationship is neglected, she may no longer respond to your advances. If you neglect the relationship for six month; getting her to respond to your telephone calls or texting may be more difficult. You may sense this time period; perhaps six months with talks. This depends on the level of interest in you as a sweetheart, and is better to meet or talk sooner than later. As soon as you made first contact and got the contact information you must act without a specific time period. Not doing so you can lose her. Once you got the contact information you must make the next contact within two weeks of the first meeting. For face to face meetings you must make contact attempts in one and a half to two weeks. In live texting you need to make contact within three days. The number of personal meetings per month with her depends on how well the relationship is and what she wants. If the relationship is just starting out and is uncertain you may want try to attempt to meet every one and a half weeks. if the past meetings did not go well you may want to try to met face to face every two and a half weeks. If you were rejected you should attempt face to face meetings only once every two to three months. If the relationship goes better and the lovy dovy behaviour by both of you start, you may try visiting once a week. If the relationship goes really well you may want to try to visit each day if she wants so and have permission to do so. There may be no time limit on the personal relationship if you know how to handle it. To handle: talk clearly, sufficiently (sufficient information you give) while minimizing abiguity in talk, follow these dating rules and protocols. For a woman to get a man she may start talk and be friendly in the beginning and as soon as she detects interest for her in you she may play hard to get. If she wants you she may want instant results, this seems. Get all her contact information (home telephone number and her home street address) that you can before this stage starts. Playing hard to get by her is usually an intelectual choice when she thinks interest in her is reduced, but sweetheart love may not go away as quickly for some. For online dating your will need to see the girl in person within a few months of first talk. If you try talk once every two weeks
for six months she may no longer respond to live texting. This means you have to try to get her home street address some where on the third to fifth online chat.
The pace or speed of the development is usually done at her speed. Usually, the more genuine your interest in her as a wife, and the further perceived sex seems to be, the faster the pace of the chase can be. In other words, make her believe you are interested in a long term relationship and do not let her believe that you are only interested in sex with her, if this is possible. May not be possible to make her believe your true intentions when you say this; she may try to see by testing your persistence of chase by delaying the sweet talk parts of the relationhip or by not responding to your calls. Even lionesses like some manners, a smart dominant male lion waits calmly and patiently at a safe distance: the security guard or supervisor is making his walking rounds so avoid looking like a seductive patient, client or aquantance by avoiding talking about sex, hinting for sex or asking for sex too soon at medical meetings, at the work place, school, in public too soon with the women; instead stay calm without invading her private space, focus on passing your three most important tests below, share a few personal questions in person first, she has an inkling of what you want so avoid nagging or begging her for a relationship, do the courtship slow, easy, dignified, and steady and wait patiently for now.
To get her telephone number do not end the first texting session too soon; the texting session should not be less than an hour long. You can ask for her cellular telephone number near the end of a long texting session. The longer the duration (more words exchanged) of your first texting session is, the easier it is to get her other contact information like telephone number and street address. Share all the basic information and a little more in first texting session. Here it is: if she initiated the online talks, the length of the duration of the first texting session should be as long as she wants, and when she wants to come over to your place today, do it to avoid the dating dramas and games. In other words, do the speed of the relationship development at her speed when possible. Sharing personal information as much as possible at first personal talks improves the chances of success. This is why when she initiates personal chat after professional meetings you should sustain this personal chat very a long time, at least for fifteen minutes and not leave the meeting too soon. Is possible if you have not text her for about a year she may no longer respond to your texting calls.
The pre-dating encounters when your sweetheart status with her is unknown or uncertain may be a complex interaction consisting of her needs for male company, the testing of you, the checking of your level of intellect, personality, and culture. It may involve a kiss, a small slap and pushing suiter back in line figuritively speaking, she wants this of you but not that; it is quite beautiful in a way, and then returning another day for more. When she avoids further talk, or does not repsond to your call, you have to know when to stop talking, to not force talk, to back off and slow down the speed of the chase. Each woman and situation is different so you will have to use your mind, this information, experience, intuition, sense, feeling to determine what to say, what not to say, where to say, when to say, how much to say, when to stop talking for the day, know when to back off and to slow down the speed of the chase. A guide rule is no more than one contact attempt a week that she can learn about; attempt at one and a half to two week intervals is better, unless she wants otherwise. Follow the more inportant dating rules and pass you three most important tests mentioned below as soon as possible.
You must wait for her to start personal relationship or pre-marriage courtship, but you must not make her wait for this; when you detect indications favorable for you as sweetheart or flirts from her, respond as soon as possible, respond appropriately, treat her right. When she intiates personal chat after professional meeting, sustain the chat as long as possible, for at least ten minutes or at least two topics with at least two sentences each if possible, and then do the getting her home telephone nmber routine. If you do not talk now, and talk appropriatetly or treat her right she will change her mind, you wil loose that girl, assume this seventy percent of the time, especially for local women. You must be prepared to talk before hand; a proper talk here when she initiated personal talk just after professional or academic meeting(s). Do not initiate talk about sex now, even if she does talk about sex do not sustain this talk in front of everybody there; you are trying to win her as sweetheart; the talk topics should be sensitive to this sweetheart goal; talk should not dwell on world problems or talk about poor family relationships (no gossip). Treat her right: be respectfull, kind and honest as you can, give her the relationship development pace that she wants; but at the same time you do not want to over do it (talk and affection) and look desparate to get her. You must do all this personal talk face to face, in person, live when you have the physical ability to do so; doing this talk instead by electronic mail because you are affraid or have no confidence to do it live, in person, she can change her mind, and you loose that girl. For online dating, when you respond to her electronic mail there on online dating site, respond properly and treat her right; adding her to your friend list and giving her an electronic wink is not enough when you cannot pay money for this site. Once you respond to her call she will probably not leave you, but her loyalty to you will not determine the relationship in her view; it is how you respond to her calls that will make or break this relationship, she will usually act as if he will not wait for you, mind these dating guidelines. Add her to your friends list and give electronic wink online, send the short electronic mail message and wait for a few minutes; with the new instant mesenger service she will be online soon, and respond to her instant messenger ring or pop up window. If you do not talk and do proper online aquantance talk on instant messenger she will change her mind and you will loose that girl, seems so about seventy percent of the time. Dating feelings and situations with others involved can change in minutes or days; you know that; do not make her wait for personal relationship if you know that is what she wants.
When you are trying to get a woman's telephone number at her work place, you know her work schedule, you can see her a lot there (most of the time), and you are affraid to talk to her, the number of contact should be no more than three times a month. The contact attemps are done at twelve to forteen day intervals; this avoid the situation being to familier before she talks to you and help improve your prestige by not trying to hard to get her. The contact attempts should be quality rather than quantity, unless she says other wise; first build your confidence and easy feeling for talk with her.
Minimize the quantity of any business communications with electronc mail and ordinary mail with the number one local girl; do not try to talk every day with electronic means; instead do all business and personal communications live, face to face, in person with her when you have the physical ability to do so, and you know and sense this. You must show the confidence, courage and emotional ability to do the talks in person, face to face, live. All personal and business communications must be done live, face to face, in person when you have the physical ability to do so; for best results. She can sense there is a weakness in the professional relationhip with you when you did not follow the more important dating rules here, so be carefull. Do not try to get her the local girl as sweetheart too hard by long distance electronic means by calling once a week. In the beginning of the courtship when finances are not well for you and relationship is uncertain, do not try to contact her more than twice a month at her work place, especially by long distance electronic mail means; give her time to prepare after each personal chat encounter, and if you expect a business response then patiently wait and try to get a face to face, live meeting out of this response. When she accepts your telephone call to her home telephone with the number that she specifially gave to you, then she is almost ready for a serious relationship. After you passing each test give her the local number one girl some time (two to four weeks) to prepare and get accustomed to the idea of relationship with you; after passing each test with personal chat she will realize that the relationship is getting closer, the relationship is no longer just in your imagination. When you had professional relationships with her by now you have allready shared contact information and after passing these four tests, simply wait for her telephone call. When you get the telephone call, set up another live meeting in person at her work place to attempt to pass the next test and get chatty.
You can sense if the girl does not want to hear more or not talk too much more; do not tell too much too soon, do not get too personal too soon, avoid your boyish and child side to come out too soon before her; again, use your experience, intuition, sense, feeling to determine how much to say, how many call attempts to do per month, where to say, when to say, what not to say, what to say, how much affection for her to reveal.
If she resists electronic mail talk, avoids telling her last name, she wants some time off, do not force the talks, instead back off, slow down the speed of the chase, be patient; when you follow the more dating rules here she will now what you want. Some women may want to slow down the speed of the chase of her as sweetheart by aggressive men; then td the speed of the chase for her as swetheart slowly, but steadily and gently; be patient. When you feel the time is right (two weeks to two years) restart the personal talk in person and do the getting her home telephone number routine.
Did you see on television?; he got about six apparent girlfriends at his bakery, another has three cheerleaders at the stadium, another young fellow seems to have five girls following him on the street sidewalks, to get such girls (who show their other men) as sweetheart you probably do not want to beg, do skywriting and follow her all over town to win her as sweetheart; instead give yourself some pride and dignity by not trying to hard to get girls like that who have other men by not saying to much too soon and by not trying to visit too many times per month too soon. What would you do if you knew that your favorite number one girl had other dates before or likes another man; would you beg for her love and loyalty? Probably not beg; here is the proper way that one might go about it. As a guideline, the less favorable your personal dating situation with her, the less harder one tries to get her as sweetheart; instead do the chase slowly, but steadily and gently. For a start try personal contact attemps at four to six week intervals at her workplace; then after passing the three most important tests below (getting her name and telephone number) try contact attempts at three to four week intervals, then after the first personal date and kiss, and passing these three tests try contact attempts at two week intervals. When was the last time your spoke to a woman or had a personal date at a restaurant with a woman?; almost none. Your wages are probably less than $40000 per year. At family parties with friends every is always there and you were too imbarrased and weak to go after the young girls there, or were too imbarrsed and afraid to ask who she was. The girls there met, worked with, and dated many men: attractive men, wealthy men, well educated men, tall men, attractive born wealth educated men who have never felt sorry for himself before: rock star, Green Hornet, Batman, Superman. Here comes you perhaps not in the most elligible bachelor class trying to impress her and scared due to uncertainty that she is interested in you. So you are not suppose to look desparate to get a girlfriend, and try not too hard to get a girl as fiance; for best results: respond no less than four days to her electronic mail, make texting attempts no more the once a week to girl, to local girl make call attempts at one and a half to four week intervals. If she evades you, does not answer personal question or does not respond to your professional electronic mail any more, do not try again the next day, instead back off, slow down chase, try again in about two weeks. First pass your three most important tests below discreetly, share no more than six personal questions before knowing her personal relationhip status and her home address unless she wants more questions; do not tell all about you too soon to her in public until after the second in person date and knowing her home address. When she reveals her true home address at your requests directly to you especially when she lives alone, this tells where you stand as sweetheart and is usually a positive indication. I believe most men can sense in their minds when she a local girl will reveal her true home address; and it is usually after passing your three or four most important tests below, having this personal chat of sharing at least three personal questions and after about a month from first sight. Avoid trying to impress her too much too soon; let her put her foot forward a little (show some personal interest in you), give you some leeway in this matter as other men get; focus more on passing your three or four most important tests first mentioned below; you should get better results this way: do that brief personal chat and the getting her home telephone number routine in person, live, face to face with her.
A man knows if asking for her home address is not the right time yet when your financial situation is not good. If one asks too soon she might say: "I am not interested in a relationship right now .". The right time is usually after sharing the fourth pieee of personal information that is after the fourth personal question and after three weeks from first sight. When is right time to ask for a local woman's street address when your financial situation is not good and when she lives alone? Tell your friend the answer or rule is number 3 3 3. It means after asking at least the fourth personal question and getting the answers, after at least three weeks from first sight, and after passing the three most important tests below here. If she does not knew anything bad about you (financial, medical records) take away a point or two to perhaps 3 2 3. There can be exceptions, but a safe number is 4 4 4, which means after asking the fourth personal question, after at least four weeks of first sight, after passing your four most imprtant tests below. Example after getting her direct telephone number directly from her hand in person, at end of third professional encounter, third and fourth personal question here, following the more important dating rules here: ..., "What course did you take in school to get work here?, "Business and economics.", "I went to school at Spokane College for internet computer programming.", "Do you have any brothers and sisters in Spokane?", " I have one brother and a sister.", "I have one brother and one sister. What part of town do you live in?", "South.", "Can I have you home address?", "Yes. ", ... . At the end of a professional or academic meeting follow her to a more private area there and when she intitiates a personal chat after this meeting stretch the duration of the talk to at least three personal questions. The ask for her home telephone number there in person. Answer the same personal questions. Most of the questions cannot be too trivial and they cannot be uncomfortable topics now. You do not have to sound sultry and super romantic to ask they questions; instead take it easy, calm down, give yourself time to pronounce the words correctly and to think. Example at third professional encounter and after looking for work, at the parking lot: ..., "Where are you heading now?", I want to see if I can find a music store around here to buy some violin strings. "My brother plays the piano.", "Do you play a musical instrument also?" ,"No.", "For how long have your lived in Spokane?", "About ten years."," I have lived in Spokane for about five years; I was from Coere deAlene.", "What course did you take in school to get work here at _?", "Business and economics", " I went to Spokane College for automotive mechanical technology", "Do you have any brothers and sisters in Spokane?", "I have a brother and a sister.", " I have one brother and one sister.", "May I have your home telephone number?", "Yes ." ... .
One dating rule is not to talk about sex, ask for sex, or hint for sex too soon at first encounter such as gyrating at a rock concert, standing naked in front of your bedroom window, online dating adult information in your profile, cat calls (verbal or whislting hints of sexual interest at construction sites to walkers by). Give the person time to get to know you, assess your situation, start to care for you, find ways to reach you, time to share contact information, get a sense of some exclusive verbal connection, get a sense of the genuineness of your personal advances. Sexual harrasment by woman on man at the work place can be interpreted as anger; this is the type of feeling you (chaser) want to avoid in the chasee; a private gentle wisper in the ear to the friend chasee speaks louder than a cat call to a stranger in front of everybody. Give her time to get you pass her receptionist, security guard or body guard at her work place or apartment building figuretivly speaking.
They say one cannot but love with money, you cannot make a girl love you, not even with heroics; then be patient, take it easy, do the chase slowly; do not appear too aggresive in personal advances, choose your actions and word carefully, follow the more important dating rules here very carefully as possible.
You cannot make a girl or anyone else like you; you cannot buy love with money, so then take it easy, do not try so hard to get her as sweetheart; do not tell all about you too soon, do the chase slow, gently, steady, share one to three personal questions per live visit unless she wants more talk. Get personal chats and dates even if you think you are not her type or when she is not in love with you. At first or early encounters with her take it easy, do not try to hard to get her as sweetheart, avoid talking too much such as reciting your work resume, or visit her work station every day so you do not look too eager to get her into the bedroom or look desparate to get her as sweetheart, avoid making excessive demands now such as "Come over for dinner tonight?", a simple greeting, introduction and sharing one personal question should do. If this is your last chance then get her contact information. If you sense that she will no longer respond to your calls, then you will have to make a stronger connection here now. Do the chase with dignity and genuiness, easy going (no serious or large commitments now) for better chances of success. At first suprise encounter she may be in a panic; then take it easy; give her some time to think, to get to know you, to gain trust in you, to size up your allegiances and interests which only time can give. I cannot compete against Bob the town cutie, Henk the six foot tall muscle man/body builder on the beach, or Thomas the handsome young millionare in the downtown tower. Instead of jumping up and down to get her attention and reciting my education level choose the opposite route: take it easy, do the chase slowly, calmly, keep it simple; example on the street: quickly study the girls there and choose one carefully, make good eye contact when either of you talk even if she is not looking at you, "Good afternoon. My name is Johnathan. What is your name?", "Jane.", "I work at the end of the street. Do you work in this building?, "Yes.", I was from Maple Ridge. Did you grew up in Vancouver here?", "No; Saskatchewan.", "Can I have your telephone number?", "Sure, ..., 334 7665 .", ... .
You do not know her dating schedule and when she will still be single next month, women are not suppose to reveal personal information to new men at work or on the streets too soon; so you want to discover where you stand as sweetheart as soon as possible and if she has another man, but ask not too soon or nag her for the information. You still do not have personal dating status with her; seems like you are just like two ships in the night that have passed each other a few times now. You should know her personal relationship status before the end of the third pre-dating encounter.
Acellerating the speed of the dating: choose the single woman very carefully because a dominant woman is less likely to be afraid of being alone with a man; tell only information about you that is positive or neutral, that is not negative; do not chase other girls for sweetheart in front of her; do all talks and requests in person, live, face to face; visit with chats more frequently, that is one to twice a week at her work place, school or home. Focus conversation topics now only about her and you now; avoid talking about activities with others too soon. Take the lead in the dating; do not wait for the right moment to talk; as soon as she is seen or heard, approach and do the chase chat routines.
Be carefull, following the wrong dating advice can be disasterous concerning relatonhips. One or a few might say to do the dating slowly, take your time, do not try to hard the get her as girlfriend, but this does not apply to all situations. The speed of the dating progress depends on who made the first move or who initiated the chase: if you (man) initiated the chase (made the fist move) for her as sweetheart, then do the chase or development of the relationship slowly; when she initiated the chase (made the first move) then do the development of the chase or the key moves soon as possible. When she made the first move or initiated the personal chat or encounter she usually wants results or make a social connection and exclusive relationship on the spot (now, soon as possible). You must take the appropriate actions now that will give you the privilege of asking for her home telephone. The actions are: greet, introduce names, share at least one personal quetion, and reveal your marital status within fifteen minutes of start of encounter. If your marital status was allready known to her then do the getting her home telephone number routine. If you delay this chase process (routine) she might feel imbarrased, and with the other ladies there she might decline giving your her home telephone number later. An example when your marital status is unknown to her, for academic meeting to start a business, second encounter: just before class starts, look at her as much as you dare can, keep her in your field of view, do not avoid her by turning away your eyes, head and body, "Hi Johnathan.", "Good afternoon. How do you do today?", "_.", "Your last name is Susan, right?", "Susan.", "I hear you are from France?", " No; my mother is.", " For how long have you lived in Spokane?" ,"Four years.", " I have been here for about ten years.", "Do you have any children?", "Yes; a son.", "I do not have any children. I am single.", ..., "Class is starting; let us go there?", sit next to her in class, ..., near the end of class, "Will you be taking the next class Small Business 20?, "Yes.", ..., May I have your telephone number?", ... . Text in Italics in exampples here are directly to you. Share a few personal questions, ask about marital status second last, ask for her home telephone number late as possible. Seems women like to show off their sweetheart relationships, wedding, if she does not mention her husband by now, then she is probably single or divorced.
Timing of Your Communications Responses
When some people including some women want to date a member of the opposite sex they may want instant results. Respond verbally too soon and you may look to desparate for a relationship or too eager for intimacy, but wait too long and you like you do not care for a relationship. The ideal speed of the courtship development is at her speed, but you do not know the speed. Need to be patient for online dating; the greater the potential of intimacy and phsyical contact, the longer the waiting time to get full sweetheart status; may need to wait as long as one and half years for those local girls to send electronic mail. A smart lion waits persistentl,y patiently, calmly, dignified at a safe distance without turning his back on the pride until the lionesses are ready to accept him. For a sensitive relationship status or uncertain situation, the timing of your first electronic mail reponse is precise: respond too soon and you look too desparate for a relationship or too eager for intimacy, but respond too late on you like like you do not care; the repond time delay to her electronic mail is about a day or overnight, and second electronic mail no longer than three days away. When she allows personal chat after second professional meeting at parking lot or campus then sustain the duration of the chat by an extra ten minutes there in person, avoid walking away to soon, share three to four personal questions and then ask for her home telephone number. At very first contact or communciation, always pretend, talk in a way, write in a way is if you are not interested in sex now. The first respond text should be intelligent, mature, show interest, but not look to eager for intimacy, not look needy for love.
g) Tell sufficient personal information about yourself at in person talk after you got her contact information. Keep talk simple but more than enough to learn about you, for example do not give a technical lecture on the elements of home interior design; do not boast about or show off your great achievements, great plans, large numbers. Demonstrate your communication skills; do not boast verbally, but let the quality and magnificance of your work speak softly for itself, if any. Action speaks louder than words like your great plan; avoid talking about your great plans; your plan may not be achieved; your great plan with or without her probably will not stop a rejection of you as a sweetheart. For example, avoid saying "I want to start a business for us.", but instead say "The book store business will ready next week."; action rather than words. If you want to show your intellect to her or anyone, avoid speaking, writing or boasting about your work resume, great academic achievements like two university degrees and large numbers, like a $250,000 a year salary, but rather let the quality and magnificence of your work speak softly for itself, if any. I am not sure that you should speak about high level engineering and change to mood of the talk; if you have to keep high technical talk short and not too detailed. Talk clearly about yourself; you need to give the basics such as: your real name, your age, where you are from, what you do for a living or formal education, what you want in the relationship (clarify personal motives), where you live, your height, at least two usefull personal interests and photograph if required. Do not reveal too much like your work resume, diary, official behaviour (your authority), deepest treasures and your high level philosophies at this point. Some might go into tears of joy or tears of nervousness; do not reveal your great and mighty feelings, especially about past loves. The only place where you can tell or boast about your super great work and academic achievements are when necessary such as going to between starving or getting work such as in a employment resume. In a work resume you would tell only your great work information required for this position, if living depends on it. Showing your work resume cannot stop a rejection as a sweetheart; instead tell your basic information, but not too much information too soon. Avoid overwhelming the world by not revealing too much personal information, too much sex on public, too much philosphies, and telling about your great achievements to public; then reveal only what is needed, de-personalize the business page.
Taking The Lead in Chase
Man takes the lead in your courship activities and his household; men decide when the date ends, when personal talk ends, what activity is done during date, man initiate next date with woman. If the business, academic or medical meeting has also become a personal meeting to you; do not allow her to end the meeting; you must gauge and exert your dominance; this will help you get a date later with her. End the meeting in a reasonable time. Showing leadership in the courtship and marriage is usually a required way to win her heart for a sweetheart. By excerting dominance in your courtship with women reduces the chances of rejection of you later. For example, if she wants to bring her other male suiters to your date with her, say: perhaps on another time, I would like to have more time to talk when we meet later.
The man grabs her attention at the work place and initiates the getting her home telephone number routine. Do not allow her to come to you and start conversation first in person. You must show your confidence and ability to get her attention and start talk first. Once you started the talk you must complete the procedure to a level where you are able to get her home telephone number near the end of this coming professional encounter. A decent example at second encounter at class to start a business:
"Hello. Sit here.", ...," How do you do today?" "_."You are from France?", "No. My mother was.", " Are you taking the business start class 10 here?" "Yes. ", ..., "Do you have any children?", "Yes; a son?", "I do not have any children. I am single.", ..., near the end of this academic encounter, "Will you be taking the next classes business start 20?, "Yes.", "May I have your telephone number?, "Yes; 334 5678.". Note that marital statuses are clearer here.
In the getting her home telephone number routine and sharing personal questions, the man always asks the woman the question first and then immediately answers the same question next. Example near the end of the encounter: ..., "Do you have any children?", "No.", "Me neither. I am single.", ..., May I have your telephone number?", "_.".
You must forster respect for you, you must achieve the getting fiance status power especially in February-December flings; she must sit at your knees in the living room before others if you are much older than you figuretivily or physically.You must not allow the girls to take control of the personal encounter. Take the lead in the encounter: initiate it, take the dominant role with her, enter the front door of the house last, end encounter on your terms.
i) Do not wear smelly, dirty, and tattered (torn) clothing for the meeting. Avoid wearing old faded (colour faded) clothing; make sure its fabric is not too casual like flannel. Avoid wearing dirty, worn, faded and damaged work clothing during the chase if possible; you do not want her to look away from imbarrasment.
You Must Use Opportunies Given To You To Talk
When she opens a door like for like starting a personal chat you step through it, do not walk away or find excuses to walk away. If a converasion is permitted find things to say and sustain the talk as long as possible; do not walk away to soon, let her end the conversation if the conversation duration was long, but preferably you should end the conversation. There was a possibility that you started the personal relation making process too late, if she opens a door to start a personal relationship within the business activity, take it; you do not know for sure that she may be the girl; and this moment could be your first and last chance for a satisfactory relationship with her. She usually starts personal conversations when you are alone together or when others are signficantly out (difficult to see, cannot be heard) of your talk space; so if you can get a few minutes alone with her in the parking lot after a professional meeting you have a chance of getting such a door opened. After a professional meeting with her when she opens a door by startting some personal talk, sustain the talk and then use the getting her home telephone number routine; this may be you first and only chance to do the chase properly; being scared and not doing so could very much lead to the rejection of you as a sweetheart later. Seems most women rarely initiate personal talk before she knows a little about you and you initiated the meeting, so if you can get (give) short introduction you are one step closer to success later. When she initiates the personal talk, some women may be impatient and then you dwoddling on this topic, checking other women in front of her and you scared to start personal talk could lead to your rejection as a sweetheart later. Example telephone getting sentences after some personal talk: "Are you from here (Toronto)?", "Where were you from?", "I was from _.", "Can I give you a telephone call?", "May I have your home telephone number?". Use proper language (English) format: full and clear sentences. Even if you did not get her home telephone number at this time; the talk and you ability to contruct language (full sentences) sets you up for better success later on. If she starts this talk at end of business meeting, you sustain the talk well and got her home telephone number in person, and then if you can invite yourself to follow her home, you almost got it made; a woman responses most favorably to your verbal advances when she is at her own home alone with you. When after the second or third professional meeting she starts personal talk like asking you where your are going now, this could be a pass, you are not sure; do not walk away; if you do not take this opportunity she will probably think you have another female in mind and you may suffer a rejection as a sweetheart later. Sustain the chat, and see if you can get her home telephone number, see if you can get yourself invited to her place for this evening or invite her to your place. If you can get some privacy for an hour or two at her place where she can talk freely, you are in luck. Not going through this door wich is a chance for a personal chat, may hsow that you do not have the confidence, courage, powers and skills to sustain or start a friendly personal chat, and this weakness may lead to the rejection of you as a sweetheart.
Do Not Pay A Dowry of Five Cows When She Knows She Is Worth At Least Seven Cows
She made an effort to see you a few times, then find ways to spend some money on her, perhaps a lunch; the dowry cannot be too low; your cost (money) for the communication effort must not be too low. The girl may feel less worth or less valued if she has to do all the paying while others get more from you; do you understand? Do not buy her but pay what is expected if she takes you to a shopping mall, then buy something in the mall for her. You paid only two cows for her hand in marriage but they expected ten cows; pay eleven instead to make sure she is not insulted. It is the role and tradition of a man to pay for the date. Always have money (at least about $60 Canadian in 2010) handy for such an occasion even if you are unemployed. If the talk did not go well, she wraps up (ends) the date and pays for it all; this may be an indication that you will not see her again; do not let her end the date and pay for it. If the date did not go went well, or there was to personal chat, when wraps up (ends) the date and pays for it all; you probably will not see her again. Always find a personal or non-profesional chat (sentence) to push into the end of conversation, do not allow her to end the date, and always have money handy to pay for a date even if you are not expecting talk to happen when you go out. Showering (giving) woman with gifts like flowers, expensive dinners is the usually way to accelerate the closeness of the relationship. You do not want to give too many gifts to early because you do not want to look you are trying to buy her love. You cannot buy love with money; do not pay the dowry until after acceptance of marriage proposal. The dowry may be anywhere from five to fifty percent of your net worth.
The form of payment may change, but the story remains the same regardles of her looks, age, or culture; the chase for her as sweetheart or wife cannot be too easy and too low cost; the chase must be expensive and difficult emotionally and physically; get her home telephone number directly from her mouth live, in person in front of everybody there which talk can be difficult for chaser.
When she gives hints be taking professional or academic meeting to a restaurant or shopping mall make sure you ask her to buy her lunch, even if you expects to say no to lunch and when others are with her.
When she takes you to a restaurant or cafe for a professional meeting always ask to pay for her drink or meal especially if she forgot her wallet in her automobile no matter what she will say then. Ask her if she wants a drink or meal there at your expense. Women do not seem to like to owe money to men; if she allows you to pay for her drink or meal at professional meeting you have an advantage now.
Be Carefull What You Say To Her
Personal communications can be very stressfull for the both of you especially if personal intentions are not known; do not ask questions or anything uncomfortable; if a question has become too sensitive do not ask it especially with electronic mail. If she does not answer the sensitive question the first time do not ask again. For example, if you want to know that she is expecting and you do not feel good in in asking, do not ask. Do not get her upset; if you try to ask for a date later it is better to receive no answer, than a nasty rejection. Do not try too hard to ger her if you sense problems in potential personal relationship or resistance to you as a sweetheart; personal contact attempts should be quality rather than quantity. There are some reasons for not trying to hard if she shows no clear interest in you as a sweetheart, or you made some dating mistakes; the reasons are: it wll make you look less desparate, reduces free attention to reduce her impertinence, allows her to get accustomed to you and gain trust in you who she does not know well enough. How she feels like uncomfortable, surprised, worried or scared from your personal advances to her is irrelevent; you have no control over her feelings and thoughts then; want counts is you got clear permission for the activity. In many cases when the man starts the chase, the woman will not answer personal questions such as on her martial status without first knowing the man a little.
Getting To Know You and Developing Trust In You
Is usually more difficult for a woman to give a new man as a stranger what he wants than vice versa; a man may want to be with a woman at first site while a woman might think perhaps in a week to two years; she must first get to know him, gain trust in him, gain some respect for him, this takes time and chat. Usually a serious relationship with a member of the opposite sex for free does not start over night; her mind and society dictates she must get to know the man for some time, at least three months assumed. Is a little about knowing you during this specific time period or trial period that your initial words and behaviour cannot show. Some women seem to feel nervous and uncomfortable when sex is expected or sex is perceived to be near especially if she detects relationship games or uncertainty in this relationship, even if there was no intention for sex by you. Is usually not polite to talk about sex with mixed company, so is best as a man not to initiate talk about sex in texting and electronic mail, especially if your personal relationship status with her is not clear. You do not want your request and hints for sex for exchange of something else as seen as an indecent proposal. Do not use even minute sexual connotations in your language; do not ask for sex; do not expect sex; do not let your talk be ambiguous in the work place, make sure that your compliments to her are not too erotic. Do not initiate talk of sex or initiate seduction on her if the relationship is not so strong; if she is unhappy about these moves she may talk about her dislikes or try to slow down the speed of the development of this relationship. When a woman responds to your telephone call(s), she is probably expecting more of a prince charming like behaviour from you (a man); look more like a prince charming by not initiating talk about sex to early in the relationship. If she is very young she may not be ready for an older man; so may be best for a man of forty five years to go after a woman older than age twenty. The whole personal scenario may be stressfull for her so do not talk about sex online even if she initiated the talk; if you sustain the sex talk she may not come back. Most women seem not to want to give a man an intimate relationship until she knows him and develops trust in him; so if she is expecting sex, your are within easy reach to her phsyically and she is not ready for you; this could mean rejection of you if you talk sexual. You may be thinking about a nice relationship with a girl in your new, large, nice looking house, but her point of view may be completely different; a new man in her life or a new step father in your life can be a chalenging emotional task. I believe many women dream at least once in her young life of marrying her prince charming or man of her dreams, but reality such as with you is quite different, she will not know if you are the man of her dreams until she gets to know and trust you a little more and learns about your allegiances, so proceed with chase carefully and slowly. If she is physically close to you such as with a professional relationship, you did not follow some of these dating expectations, you have access to her address, and you were not happy on how the personal relationship went, this may be a difficult relationship, then follow these dating rules and protocols, and proceed slowly and carefully. You need to give her time to get accustomed to you, to the idea of a relationship with you and to truly get to know your personality. She must develop trust in you and feel comfortable with you; and this may take on average more than eight months with a few friendly personal chats for a local in person relationship. Try to get her contact information and try to develop the relationship slow and easy but steady. Look for clues for a possible difficult personal relation with her such as not responding to your personal requests and personal questions during professional meetings and your own feelings. If you sense a difficult personal relationship to come from this, reduce the professional relationship with her and finish it as soon as possible after you got her contact information, because obviously this professional relationship is hindering the personal relationship with her. Make sure she does not get any more information about your professional activities that might be with other women. You must advance with the chase at her speed carefully; you are only human and she may think you are doing sexual advances even if you are not; look and listen for clues and listen to your own intuition and feelings at the moment. If the professional relationships with her did not go well, do not force this issue until after (eight to twenty four months) she gets to know you, learns your allegiances, gains trust and respect for you, after you passed the most important tests (courage to initiate face to face personal talk, self-reliance, loyalty to her, mental wellness, how you handle emotional stress), and after negative emotions in the both of you have declined. Is usually not a good idea to invoke sexual attraction and create a conflict of feelings (sexual attraction and a poor relationship) in a woman without first developing intellectual and emotional attraction to you; she needs to develop confidence and trust in the man and know his allegiances. For example: your did not say what should have been said in person a few days ago; should I electronic mail her now and let her think I am looking for an easy, discreet one night stand, or visit her at her work place in about a month's time with expected public romance and courtship? If you suspect that the relationship will not start great, get her street address perhaps from a business card and do the chase slow but steady to allow her to get accustomed to you. Getting the nice romance novel type of personal relationship with her is a lot about first getting to know you, gain trust and confidence in you (time), love, commitment to relationship. In romance novels, usualy the relationship did not start over night; it started a year or two ago at some school, work or farm. The developing relationship was private and exclusive (only her and him as the main characters of the story). He makes a few correct moves and words, and the relationship develops in her mind. He usually is a dominant male; commanding. At the right moment and place with a few actions and words she expects he consolidates the personal relationship. Who initiated the sexual relationship is not clearly known; she wanted and initiated the sex in the fictional romance novel. The story ending in the novel is happily ever after together (having a nuclear family probably), the dream wishes of the woman. This is the type of chase some women may expect which you may want to follow. If the online relationship is poor and chase is difficult do not use sexual talk and mention any words like "your are sexy", "sexy". If you have a professional only relationship with her do not talk about sex until after the first personal date and her talk becomes more personal; if she does not like the sex talk or wants to slow down the speed of your personal advance, recovering from it may be a problem, these sexual talk developments must be done at her speed. Man initiating talk about sex to tender woman too soon can seem harsh to her; only the girl can start talk about sex, if any; the man can only look and listen. An easy getting love for free to an older male is only in fiction, the professional meetings with her were business only now because a woman usually will only give personal talk and be open for passion (lovy dovy talk), and give her true home street address to man when in a trusting relationship and when she feels safe and comfortable; this takes time and a few friendly chats, answer her personal questions, avoid talking about your financial and family problems and failures now, mind the more important dating rules here, avoid making her insecure by chasing other women as sweetheart before her, make her feel that she is in control of her self; be patient but persistent and gentle in chase for her as sweetheart. Make her feel she is in control of her life by not forcing (pushing) your will, being excessively controlling, giving ultimatums such as: "You cannot see your siblings; I want you home at nights", "You cannot see your mother once a month; is too expensive, and then who is going to cook for me.".
If your professional and pre-courtship relationship did not go well personally, you are a low level client and she does not seem interested in you as a sweetheart, you can only ask for sex about twelve months from second or third professional meeting with her (local girl). You do not have to ask for sex, but what this means is you can ask for a personal date at about that time, if it is not too late. Try to get her street information and during this wait, make sure you follow the most important dating rules here. When she says she feels uncomfortable in answering personal questions, this probably means the man did not past the most important tests, she does not have enough trust him; if this happened, wait in silence for a few months at then try again by asking the personal questions or for personal date only face to face with the courage and independence of a lion.
When will a woman sweetheart status with a particular man or do most of his personal requests like going on a first personal date with him?; indepenent of amount of words said and type of relationship. It is believed that a woman is affraid of sex, but this may not be so; instead she is affraid of the violence that may be, or being abandoned by the man after sex. You are not here for sex particularly, but this concept may help you judge when a woman will do for free what you ask. A woman will only accept a man (a man not a boy)as sweetheart or husband who she trusts, knows, cares for and feels more secure about this relationship, but fully trusting a new man and knowing if he is truly sincere about this long term relationship that she wants is nearly impossible. When a woman is willing to give this level of intimacy, she may be ready for a serious relationship (marrriage with you). Then, when does a woman accept a mann as sweetheart or husband and give sweetralk with a particular man or do his personal requests like responding to his telephone calls to her? You are not much of a talker; does the amount of words you say to her count? Perhaps quantity of words shared counts, but you do not have to say too much, because your words may not have been accurate also; rather trust and care for you may build over time. If she allows verbal intimacy (sweet talk, love talk, treats you like a husband) after particular length of time, than asking for dates would be easier. It is believed that a woman will allow personal requests for free with a man she knows a little after about four months after the second or third friendly meeting and after giving her street address to this man if personal dates were good. About six month in good professional meetings, about eight months after a poor (unhappy) professional meeting, or about twelve months after the rejection of you as a sweetheart if you managed to get her street address. Assuming you tried to get friendly meetings. It is all about the words, quality of information, right quantity of words you say, and your dominance and will for this; see how to here. Then if you can get her business card, her name, street address during a few friendly professional meetings, and a short introduction you are in luck if she is still avallable later; now all you have to do is wait for about eight months, ask for a date face to face and make this request on date. Remember, during this wait do not reveal any more negative information about you and do not get caught chasing other women by her. Some women may have been taught to know a man for a long time (at least eight months) before being intimate with him; this is a good idea, but may work against you when you try to make first personal contact attempts. Usually a woman will not allow herself to feel emotional and physical affection for a man until she trusts him and knows him, at least openly (to you), seemingly so. After getting her name and business telephone number during professional meeting(s), a few more non verbal encounters at her work place later and following these dating rules, when will a man be able to get a personal meeting with her using this telephone number?; without a previous verbal rejection as sweetheart assume between six to eighteen months; use your experience, intuition, sense, feeling to know when to call using her business telephone number and what to say to her. Asking for a personal meeting using here business number isn ot very couragous and your pride (feeling0 tells you so; instead get her home telephone number live at her work place, directly from her hand. The only way to build trust is with time with some personal contact attempts preferably with chats. You need about four to twelve months from first personal attempt to develop trust and reduce resistance to you as a sweetheart depending on how the previous relationship time went, if she or you was doing the chasing, and physical distance to her. A good quality love letter to her may perhaps improve her feelings for you and help develop trust for you using time. When she reduces resistance to affection for you with time, getting a personal date from her should be easy. Here need to do the chase slowly with small steps, but steady, and then after one and a half years of being rejected as a sweetheart she may accept the first personal date with you when asking her in person. You need to slow down the speed of chase, but be persistant, do not abandon the chase too early; in person (real) trust and attraction in a women for a man develops slower than in a man; a man may want to be with a woman at first sight, while a woman may perhaps feel: perhaps in a week to a year. After a month or two of online chats twice a week she (a local girl) may finally give him her telephone number, and that probably means an in person meeting could be arranged soon. Usually a woman will only allow sexual attraction when she likes, trusts and admires the man; if you can sense her pheromones in public places means she likes you. When will a local woman trust, get accustomed to and know a new man and accept personal requests from a him?; in personal relationship: about one to five weeks after personal chat; for business relations: two to eight months after personal chat; after rejection: about one to two years after personal chat. You met this girl in a professional or business relationhip or meeting for the first time about six months ago, and at last business meeting three months ago you had sa very brief personal chat, along the way you managed to improve your weak reputation slightly; will she give you a personal date now?; perhaps waiting another month after the coming business and a short personal sentences after this meeting will be better. For this same reason; for how long do you (your profile) have to be an a large dating site before local women email you? at least one and a half months, even with education level and country of origin not shown; I guess it takes time for women to make a decision about an online relationship with a man; is mainly about your language and how well you groom your hair. Some men may get a kiss from a girl with in a day, while others receive this after at least one your of first meeting. The notion that a woman does not want to please her new man within one month of first personal chat may not always be true; this depends on his level of confidence to chase her live and level of rapport with her. Is a lot about demonstrating your courage, confidence and powers do to the chase face to face (in person, live), being intelligently chatty, persistence in chase and demonstrating that your chase is genuine to get her as a sweetheart. What are the minimum things a man must say and do to get the intimacies he wants from a woman? Here is a clue: he must pass one to three of the most important tests, when a man wants a sweetheart, the largest impediment is he is scared and does not have the confidence, courage and powers to initiate the chase and personal chat in person like the getting her name and telephone routine. For a man to get this he must: initiate the chase and personal chat with her in person (do the getting her name and telephone number routine face to face); not chase other girls in front of her, do not reveal to her your past and current dates with other women if any; tell your name to her; ask for her name and home telephone number directly from her mouth. This is it; your employment in a company and where you grew up are usually out of your control. If you are trying to recover from a rejection of you as a sweetheart you may have to work on your test failures; you can ask her to go to a lunch to show that you are no longer stingy with money before asking her home telephone number; only you know exactly the actions to do there. An example chase at her work place, one year after rejection of you: focus your attention on her there by facing the front of your body in her direction and making strong eye contact when either of you speak even if she is not looking at you, make sure you have the courage to say her name here, "Hello Jane. Do you remember me?", "__ .", "How are things?", "_ .", "Have lunch with me in the mall accross the street next week?", "Sure.", "May I have your home telephone number?, "Sure; 345 1234. ".
In general or usually the more information about yourself and your personality you reveal about yourself in private talks, the faster you can get her true street address and the faster you can get invited into her home. If she reveals her personality with private talk then one should reveal about your personality and difinitions of love similarly. If she wants to continue chat, you chat as much as possible. Offcourse be carefull what you say such as do not tell about your activities with other women, not say anything negative about your self, not boast about your great achievements. Usualy sharing too much information in one meeting and increasing the speed and forcing of the conversation should not be done; she can sign out too soon from texting if done. A work resume revealed too soon could not stop a rejection as a sweetheart; the manner the information is revealed may be as important as its content. This may be done in three to fice texting sessions. Again, each situation is a little different, use your mind, experience, these guidelines, intuition, sense to determine what to say, the manner and tone to say it, when to say, where to say, how much to say, what not to say to potential sweetheart or ask; and your body language. If you can somehow encourage her to talk, make her ask you personal questions and do this talk at first meeting, you may be able to get her true telephone number, home street address after this long talk and follow her to her home. A woman will usually only do sweet talk and ask personal questions or love behaviour in private so if you can get a chat in the parking lot, school yard, quiet area at work partitioned area of a restaurant where there is sufficient audio and visual privacy where she still feels safe you are in luck. Sweet talk she does in texting usually happens faster and with more intensity because of the high level of privacy and security it has. When at her home and private she will more likely respond more favorable to personal requests. Acually, you do not have to tell too much information about you and force the personal conversion to get her true street address; sharing the basic information is usually enough; below may show how to get her true home street address in texting and live. One does not usually go into a restaurant, her work office or a ball room dance and give a half hour long speech about one self, this much talk is sually against men's feelings; this much talk is usually not needed to get her contact information.
A sweetheart or even a potential sweetheart will watch your every move; especially that which you are not telling; so: brush your teeth, watch for food stains on your clothes if any, make sure the wind does not blow your hair into a funny way, make sure your pants are not oversized, hug her grandma, greet her dad, say hello to her children. She will probably check at her work place if you are trying to chase for sweetheart another girl there if she can estimate your location there. See here how to make her into a potential sweetheart without verbally asking her for this.
When will a woman visit a man at his telephone call, travel around the world with him, or wants to live at his place?; I believe usually she will after the first personal date and sharing the basic information for face to face relationship; and usually after second texting session and sharing the basic information for long distance relationship when she initiated the personal talk. If she is a local online girl and you intitiated talk, she will usually wants to please him near the end first personal face to face meeting and after sharing the basic information, even is she said she was only looking for a friendship.
With local women or with professional meetings when the possibility of sex or perceived sex is great and the encounters were not so great there is a possibility of no show, no personal meeting or rejection as sweetheart of you. Then do the chase slow but steady, do not reveal too much information too soon like showing her your work resume, do not say anything negative about you. Humble yourself down a little bit by not talking about your great achievements if any, wear a lower cost watch, reduce the high business protocol if any. To help gain time so she will not run away from you, try to make personal contact attempts that she will know about; you do not have to say anything now, try to greet her, you do not have to say too much now; which usually works. Like the songs says: "hold her hand, give her a hug, give her time to love you". Imaginary example that can likely happen: after about the twentieth texting session or electronic mail within a period of about eight months you finally got her home telephone number of a local women; after about four months of texting and telephone calls once a week you finally see her face to face, live. Then after about one and a half years from initial contact day you finally step into her house or her step into you house.
Long distance dating and texting can be real and the online girls are beautiful, but her private photographs and long distance texting is not at all the same as live, face to face dating, because giving verbal love is a lot easier with long distance; she does not have to worry about your scruples or high mindedness, temper, your financial problems and sexual advances. Actions speaks louder than words; in texting, and telephone you and she can say things that you and her will usualy not say face to face, live, or in public; so long distance dating is not the same as face to face, live dating. For online or long distance dating, do not ask for sex or sex advice, especially videos, is easier to give a private photographs than a live, face to face kiss; if you do there is a possibility that she will post her private photographs online; once she does is difficult to get her to take the photographs down.
Women are not always avoiding men, playing hard to get, and hiding under the bed in fear of man; how to make her respond to your calls or even call you; how? Use these dating guidelines; be visible, visit, make occasional contact attempts that she can know about, introduce and get her home telephone number live and directly from her hand: give her time to get to know you, build trust in you, admire you, love you.
Are you alone that is without a woman who will visit your house or open her front door to you because you have to or because you want to? Get the latter here; give her time to get to know you, do the chase for her as sweetheart slow and easy, do not try too hard to get her, but do chase steadily and gently. Two mistakes in trying to find a woman for sweertheart is quiting the chase for her as sweetheart too soon and trying too hard to get her; she needs time to get to know you. Be patient, for online dating, it takes time for women to know you by time and to decide to send you electronic mails from moment first sight: usually two to four weeks for long distance girls on free dating sites; two to six months for local women on paid dating sites even with your minimum public profile content and even without your photograph. Waiting period to get incoming electronic mails from local women at non-free adult dating sites with no pictures of others on your public profile, adult parts of profile disabled from public, with your simple public profile and depending on popularity of site is: three to eight months. You have been there for six months; let her believe that you are lonely; this improves the chances of her giving you electronic mail. The closer your physical access to her, to poorer your financial situation, and the more your want her, the more of this time you have to give her, assume usually. The site's title and format is important; you must have sufficient control of your public profile content, though. This waiting time to get to know you for live, in person local women with your finances poor and as older man is eight to eighteen months, usually, but there can be an exception.
A local girl can still be afraid of sex even if she knows you and trusts you; then to reduce these fears of sex do not give hints for sex, do not try to hard to get her as sweetheart, reduce the contacts attempts and talks per month to no more than two per month, avoid revealing anything negative about you such as money problems, medical records. The worst the early stages of the courtship, the less number of times per month one would try to see her.
Building trust in you even if professional meetings with her were not ideal: in professional meetings, academic meetings or fun office part with her do not talk about sex, do not be too sexual, not too casual; mind the most important dating rules here; if you do this, to your suprise you might find her home telephone number in the telephone book.
A man knows if asking for her home address is not the right time yet when your financial situation is not good. The right time is usually after sharing the fourth pieee of personal information that is after the fourth personal question and after three weeks from first sight. When is right time to ask for a local woman's street address when your financial situation is not good and when she lives alone? Tell your friend the answer or rule is number 4 3 3. It means after asking at least the fourth personal question and getting the answers, after at least three weeks from first sight, and after passing the three most important tests below here.
n) not giving to much information to quickly by woman is the usual protocol by women before the seventees, so you cannot ask important personal questions to quickly in person such as: are you married, are you in a relationship, where did you go to school, especially in a professional only relationship; if she does not answer the question at first, do not force it; you will have to find clues to guess this information in the beginning. The man must first give some information about himself before she answers personal questions to him. When she does not anwer important personal questions like about her marital status this indicates that this relationship may be a difficult one to start. Do not assume that you will be automatically adored, and respected by her when you meet for first time; and that the relationship will get better over time even if you are from the same culture as her's. Breaking some of the rules will cause the relationship to go bad. For mending the relationship there may be somethings you need to do. These things are called the magic words and actions. There are clues of what the magic words and actions are. For example, the magic words may be: get a job, drop the other girls, talk only face to face (in person) with her, live alone to show self-reliance; do not use sexual language, you need to do personal chats face to face (in person) if can do it physically and do not ask uncomfortable questions such as: are you expecting. Some loyalty (time) is required especially by woman to allow the relationship to be repaired by suiter; this may be done by obtaining her contact information, specically her work street address. Is possible to get her name and telephone number
without asking too many personal questions.
Personal Dating Protocols
Dating protocols by women for men, in order of importance. Some of these past dating protocols may not always be true depending on the women, but can give you some ideas when dealing with women. Read on; the chase routines to get her as sweetheart are not the same for every pre-dating situation. These protocols and information about what women like from articles, personal ads, motion pictures and organizational dating policies possibly are not her words, she actually would enjoy meeting new men, but would be better to be prepared; here these are:
When To Make the Key Moves
Is usually considered impolite or rude to ask for a woman's home telephone number to soon in person at the very first live talk with her especially when your marital status and personal intentions (dating) are not known to her. When you ask to soon she feels it as a request for intimacy or sexual advances that is too soon when she does not know your well, even if there was no intention of sex on your part. Do not ask for her home telephone number too soon unless you have no other choice but to ask early, always ask for her home telephone number at last minute of the encounter, or at the last minute of the last encounter if you know there will be a last professional encounter. This is because her home telephone or personal home telephone is a very intimate way of communicating with a woman. A woman usually nay resist giving her home telephone number too soon to strangers; you must get acquainted with talk first before asking for her home telephone number. You do not have to tell all now; just a little. Asking for her home telephone number too soon is seen as asking for intimacy too soon, perhaps a little to invasive too soon for her, because the home telephone is an intimate way of verbally connecting with a woman. The voice verification and the privacy enables the man to have special attraction powers over the woman. A woman feels most comfortable at her home; a personal connection via her home telephone, the audio privacy (exclusiveness) and your voice verification can be personal. Getting her home telephone directly from her mouth is a privilege. Ask for her home telephone number after 80% of the encounter's time has lapsed; for example if the encounter is four hours long ask after lapse of three and a quarter hours. A woman does not show her true feelings (attraction) for a new man too soon in person so do not ask for her home telephone number too soon unless you have no choice. Do not make excessive demands to soon from a new woman. Think carefully, quickly and before hand when she will leave the encounter; sometimes in professional encounters there may be a way of predicting when she will leave the encounter(s). You need to share some information about marital status. Her home telephone talk is the next best thing to private conversations in her own home; seems some or many women may feel it is too personal or improper to give a new man her home telephone number too soon when she does not known him enough; then to get her home telephone your will have to give something in return, tell at least: tell your full (first and last) name and reveal your marital status. The key moves are: telling her the information in person that will give you the privilege of asking for her home telephone number later, getting her home telephone number in person and directly from her hand. There is a carefull way of discreetly sharing marital status information without trying to prove yourself good enough for her. Some girls may it is perfectly allright to give a stranger her home telephone number, but just in case she does not is better to be prepared: tell your name and marital status first. There is always an exception to this protocol of not giving her home telephone number too soon to strangers, but is better to be prepared to talk for this. The solution is simple: get the courage to share marital status information and a few other personal pieces of personal information with women in person; ask for her telephone number late as possible at encounter(s). Behave like a single man in front of ladies when trying to find a fiance; how does one act like a single man? Appear single and available by: wearing a good quality cologne that you like, wear your neck collar open at top button only, wear cheerfull and stylish clothing, comb your hair nicely, shave off your beard, look around occassionally before the women; this should improve your chances of getting her home telephone number in person. What are they keys to your success in these matters?: where you were from, your work history, your age, your appearance are out of your control, harmless hobbies you have are not a deal breaker, instead make her believe that she is the only girl in your life even if you have to try to date other girls secretly; for this in this talk keep the front of your body and head pointing in her direction at chat, keep your eyes on her then, avoid talking to other girls there in front of her starting even just before the first encounter starts unless you have to. Hiding from her in another room or around the corner at her workplace trying to get another girl's telephone number is not enough; she knows you are there. The talk here should feel emotionally easy to do, feel aatural, if you feel uncomfortable sharing the questions then you are not ready, then follow above dating rule 1 more, do the physical excersize plan below. Here is an example geting her home telephone number routine at business starting classes: on day one, "Good day. I am Johnathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane.", ..., "I was from Coure deAlene. You were from Spain?", "No; Brazil.", ..., "Are you coming to the second class here tomorrow?", "Yes.", ..., more chat, use the information heared there as conversation topics, "Did you have schooling for this business?", "No.", ..., "Do you have any children?", "No." ,"Me neither. I am single.", ..., , near the end of last encounter, "May I have your telephone number?", "Yes; 345 6675.". If she says why, why give number to you then do not argue why she should give her home telephone number while or give any specific plans that might be a reason to decline, but simple imply that you want to meet again such as saying: "Perhaps we can meet again.". This is the truth without being too personal, without an excessive demand. Same example again modified: on day one, "Good day. I am Johnathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane.", ..., "I was from Coure deAlene. You were from Spain?", "No; Brazil.", ..., "Are you coming to the second class here tomorrow?", "Yes.", ..., more chat, use the information heared there as conversation topics, "Did you have schooling for this business?", "No.", ..., "Do you have any children?", "No." ,"Me neither. I am single.", ..., , near the end of last encounter, "May I have your telephone number?", "No; why?", "Perhaps we can meet someday again.", ..., "May I have your telephone number?", "_.". The number of personal information shared is are least two other than your marital status. Take your time; give yourself about half a minute between each question.Telling how many information and exactly what to say now permits women to do counter measures; you will have to use your own feeling and intellect to determine exactly what to say. Avoid moving too fast and look like you are trying to get sex too quickly; take your time. There is always the exception to the dating rules and protocol, but to avoid imbarrassment before the group is a good idea to be aware of this dating protocol. Ladies; do not leave the chase scene too soon, need to allow time for this dating protocol and chase routines to play through. Always choose a woman you really want and need who is your number one girl; she knows this, she will sense your genuineness; then this dating protocol will have less power over you, and so you will have better success and verbal connection this way. Avoid trying to get the telephone numbers of each woman you meet to avoid those painfull declines of sharing home telephone numbers; instead take a good look at the women and listen, study and choose the girl very carefully; choose the one you need, sufficient, a sweetie to reduce the chances of rejection a sweetheart. Give yourself about half a minute to study her and think; use your intuition, intellect, experience, feeling to choose the girl; a man knows or senses if she will be an easy catch. A woman cannot show to much personal interest for a new man; then always make your important or key moves to get her home telephone number in person late as possible. There is nothing wrong in asking for her home telephone number, because all you are asking is for a brief chat on the telephone, she can always choose not to answer the telephone. Some women may feel that giving her home telephone number is a serious relationship, but this may not be so; it is only a request to talk or to possibly verbally connect.
The most important question to share is not about your carreer goals, and work resume; but it is about the marital status and personal dating intentions. By revealing your marital status and personal dating intentions this brings you closer of receiving the privilege of asking for her home telephone number. Resisting a serious relationship with a new man is an natural intellectual and emotional process; she is afraid the man will go to bed with her and then leave for good, or perhaps she does not want to give you to much love and sweet talk too soon in person. Do not be in a rush to get her home telephone number when you have the time and know where she works at, goes to school at, or where she lives; try a greeting, sharing one piece of personal information per visit per month. After your first personal question she probably has an inkling of what you want; when you have the time avoid trying to hard to get her home telephone number; avoid excessive demands on her too soon such as live sweet talk, a dinner date, visiting her at her house alone. Greet her, tell your name, be chatty, find a way to reveal your marital status, but do not ask for her home telephone number too soon. Figure 2q shows a chart for chances of getting her home telephone number face to face to number of personal questions shared. Sharing four to five personal questions in person to get her home telephone number at first encounter should be adequate.
Figure 2q.
Experience has shown the less silly you act, the less details you reveal about your activities, the more likely you will get her home telephone number in person or online. You will probably be at professional, academic or party meeting for the chase for a girlfriend and then so do not talk to the group unless you have to but focus the encounter only on you ond her now until you got her home telephone number. Telling or revealing details about your life and activities or telling too many words there now tells her that you have been busy with others. Avoid asking dumb questions in group, showing your unusual side now or acting childish. Keep the greetings too others there that need to be done polite but short and then return your focus on her. Avoid telling too much information too soon; experience has shown that too much information online too soon, or showing your work resume, medical records, professional interview combined in person too soon can reduce success; tell only just enough information. Keep your information positive or neutral, normal (not unusual) for now. Sharing four to seven pieces of information other than name and marital status in person should be enough to get important contact information.
Not all girls follow this protocol; then if you feel uncomfortable sharing marital status information and information about children, try sharing a less personal question and wait to ask for her telephone number when she tries to leave encounter; at start of encounter keep looking at her a lot. At start of professional or public encounter keep looking at her and then when she makes the first move (approaches you) and starts personal chat for exchange of personal information then complete the above routine, keep your attention only on her until you got her home telephone number near end of chat.
When should a man ask for her home telephone number when she is in his academic classes? Is usually after sharing at least four personal questions, after midterm (middle of semester, two months of first sight) and at the end of the classroom encounter.
For texting do not ask for her home telephone number until after sharing the basic information. The basic information are about: marital status, personal intentions, employment positions, education levels, age, photographs, location city, countries you were from, height, some favorite entertainment activities.
With all these other ladies there also sometimes you may only have one chance to get the girl, only one chance to show that you prefer her over other women. Sometimes you may feel this way: an hour later circumstances change, being ignored over other men and you become too upset to talk. When she makes the first move or initiates the personal chat you need to quickly take the appropriate actions mentioned here. When she makes the first move you must complete the getting her home telephone number as soon as possible and on the spot.
Do not ask for her home telephone in a group, in an active inclusive group or with many others in your talk space; she might feel a strange sense of loyalty to the group or other men there and so she might not give you her home telephone number. Your desire to do the personal talk in private is a natural and best way to do it; the maximum groups size who will see what is going on there should be not more than three. The smaller the group the more humble she will be at chase encounter. Is allright to be with others there as slong if they cannot hear you speak, read your lips, and hear her rejection words. The talk space is when communication becomes understand-able. Not receiving her home telephone number or being rejected as sweetheart in private face to face, in person is the most respectfull way to be declined and least painfull to a man.
There is Nothing Like A Live In Person Man
A dating protocol that usually exists is that if a man knows the woman's work street address or/and home street address she must only accept request for the first date or personal meeting in person from him, not by electronic mail, telephone or mail. You will have to learn and gain courage to do the chase at her work place. How does one get past the receptionist there;? getting into her work place to talk to her may seem difficult, but there is usualy a way of legally doing this chase. No matter how you feel and current dating protocols are dreamed up there, the chase and entry into the place must be done legally. Here is one example at a school office. To ask a woman for the first personal meeting by her home telephone number you must get her home telephone number in perosn and directly from her mouth. If she does not answer this telephone call or is reluctant to meet, you will have to ask in person at her work place. If you got her work telephone number at the profesional meeting, she probably is unlikely to come over to your place for a first visit when asked on this work telephone; you will need to ask her home telephone number face to face (in person). If you feel calling her at her work telephone will make the relationship worse after receiving a verbal rejection as a sweetheart, do not do it, instead meet in person at her work place.
She may not know it, but doing the chase (personal date request) in person and if you know how to do it, this relationship may be conquered very fast. Again, use your experieience, mind, intuition, feeling and sense to determine where and when to ask for a personal date with her; you know you did not have the courage to ask for a personal date face to face and she might know it also and you may pay for this mistake by a verbal rejection of you as a sweetheart by electronic mail. There is nothing like a live (in person) man to a woman; a manikin, android, photographs, posters of teen pop stars, movie stars that have passed away, love letters to her from other men, and even an engagement ring cannot replace a real, live in person man or live chase, when considering all this information. Meeting a potential sweetheart is much more exciting, complimenting and respectfull live (face to face) than online or from television. By doing the chase and personal chats in person (face to face) when you have the physical power to do gives you the advance and so goes furthest in getting a sweetheart. In other words if you got her street address is better that you go there instead of using electronic mail. Having live interaction with a girl like at her work place usually has the advantage over others who only have her electronic mail address; so the primary goal of the chase as sweetheart is to get her real home telephone number, name and home street address. Live dates usually trumps long distance relationships; so as soon as possible need to try to meet online date or woman in magazine in person as soon as possible. Do not ask for a wbcamera or picture sex show from her who you cannot visist now when she is with others (photographer); a live date (photographer) will trump a long distance date who is you in this case. She will even choose her female friends at the work place just to get a chance to get near your.
Giving Her High Value
Give her high value. No woman wants to be an easy prize, bargain basement deal, an easy catch, easy to get or quick to surrender to a man; she does not want to be paid only one penny for her when she feels she is worth a hundred pennies; she will want to make the chase of her difficult, so expect your credit card being charged for her, her to test you, you to make a large efford to chase her, expect her to use the play hard to get act. She will leave a door open such as a contact information but may not easily respond to your calls. If she makes getting her easy she may be unhappy with it for the rest of her life with you, because other girls get to full adoration and best efford during the chase from their men. Do not buy her used socks for a birthday gift when new socks are expected; do not buy her a plastic engagement ring when a real gold plated ring is culture-ally expected, you cannot have your girl go grocery shopping wearing a plastic (phoney gold) ring. Take courage and gain strength. Playing hard to get by a woman may be a natural process. It insures that the man is committed to her and that she is not just an impulsive fancy or side dish while you wait for a better girl to come along. Playing hard to get by woman only works if you allready know her contact address (street address). Getting her telephone number may be easier than you think; a difficulty is to make her respond to your telephone calls or texting. She is not allowed to show that she likes a man or is desparate for companionship at in person encounters. You will need emotional strength and swallow your pride to be persistent in the chase. Playing hard to get also tests you persistance and commitment to the relationship. She may also like it if you are persistent in call attempts that she will know about. If there is resistance to you or she is playing hard to get; avoid attempting contact more then twice a month. Do not electronic mail her every second day argueing for your self or begging for acceptance. A poor relationship should not be rewarded with too much attention for her. If there was a nasty rejection of you, attempt contact only once every two months initially; this will allow emotions to cool down (become more neutral) and you to fix your problems like financial problems. The nastier the resistance or the more humiliating rejection, the longer the time intervals between contact attempts. A woman is probably less likely to play hard to get if she believes that she is the only woman in your life, so pretend to be a lonely and working man in front of her. She may not even except a date on your first telephone call just to increase your efford to get her. She probably will not answer personal questions be email and post letter. Do not use business, professional relationships, academic activities, group buddies or especially medical acivities as dates, it is too easy to get such meetings, and does not reveal the personal motives; keep professional visits and personal visits separately; showing courage to do so (only personal visits separate, initiate personal dates) will gain you respect. Sometimes, the smaller the physical distance between you and her, the more difficult the chase. She may reject you as a suiter and you feel she wants nothing to do with you, but some other behaviours may perhaps say just the opposite. Relationships sometimes go less well, so look for previous clues indicating interests in you. You need to be persistant with the chase. You may have to send her flowers every three weeks for about four to six months depending on how well you dress before she accepts the first date with you. You may want to visit her at her workplace at two to three months intervals for about six months before she accepts the first date or personal meeting with you; you can try to visit at one month intervals, but if it does not feel right (expecting another rejection) do not do this this early. On line dating may take longer when the chaser is a man; he may have to try to contact her in three to four week intervals for about a year before even getting her telephone number. An easy (starts easy) and positive love life is only in your mind, in movies or romance novels; in real live this (getting a marriage) may be a lot more difficult. When a woman believes she looks attractive she may be harder to get; you need to four p: persistance, persuation, power (inner power to get through this) to get her telephone number online. The smaller the physical distance between you and her, the more difficult the online dating. If a women was easy to get she will loose respect and loose self-respect for her self, so playing hard to get is a normal thing; by overcoming the challenge when she plays hard get you will satisfied, she will keep her self respect and feel like a queen, and her parents are happy because of the commitment and seriousness of the relationship. Many sweethearts are probably similar; they might expect you to spend some money for her. If you cannot afford to pay, do not tell that you cannot afforsd to pay, but carefully change the conversation topic. If she is asking for money online to test you do not send it but carefully change the conversation topic. If you send this money she may not even admit that she received it, it may make you look like you have been fooled and desparate to get her, and may make this online relationship worse.
A woman or many women likes a man who can give occassionaly. A man who is giving is many times more likely to succeed; as much as one to six electronics mails a week from new girls. She will google (online search entry) your name or your sentences on the online search engine and check you out. She will be more likely to give you her home telephone number and sometimes even if you did not directly ask for it. Then when she takes you to a luncheon professional encounter always ask to pay for her meal or drink no matter what you expect her to say about it or or what the current dating protocol says. Buy her some flowers or a box of candy for the first personal date; you the man pays for the personal date even if she initiated this date. At professional encounters before her try to share information to the group. If she has a flat tire at her workplace, request to help change the tire. When you have a party at your apartment have lots of food for the guests.
There is a possibility that she does not want to give love or personal relationship too easy. She does want to give it at the snap of your fingers. The past rules of giving her flowers, or box of candy at personal meeting, and spending a lot of money on her for personal date stiill stand. Courtship and personal talk may be special moments in life, and asking her a simple, low cost question about her marital status within a professional electronic mail may not be enough and she may even be insluted. To persoanl letter, love letter, personal dating, and asking her personal questions must be as elaborate as possible. Make it elaborate, fancy and difficult as possible for you such as asking all personal questions and dating requests live, in person, face to face when you have the physical abililty do to so. When taking her on a personal date such as to a restaurant, it cannot be too cheap or low cost. Perhaps for the first personal date buy her some flowers or candy with the cost of the dinner no less than $10 in 2011, pay for transportation cost for date. Make her fell special by a lot of effort and saying a lot in the texting and electronic mails. Write the personal letters in proper form as mentioned with as much talk effort that you can in private. As a rule, never ask her personal questions within a professional electronci mail or letter, especially a plain electronic mail, unless there is not other physical way. May the chase effort as elaborate, special and expensive as possible.It does not have to be a helicopter ride to a fancy restaurant that you cannot afford, but it should not be your cheapest method and effort. Give her the respect by making a costly (emotionally and financially expensive) attempt by asking her face to face, in person, live. Do not give her a penny when she knows she is worth at least a dime that you can afford, figuratively speaking. Use your expereince, intuition, and sense deep and weakly in your mind to determine how much to give to get her as sweetheart or personal date. For example, perhaps you should have asked her if wanted a meal after the business meeting at the shopping mall food court. An example professional meeting at a shoppng mall food court on fourth encounter; your first peronal request with her at end of meeting: point the front of your body in her direction, look at her head or eyes, make good eye contact when either of you speak even if she is not looking at you, ..., "Keep looking for work. This is all I can do for you now.", "Yes, allright. We finished our meeting here? Thank you Jane Susan.", "Can I buy you a drink or a quick lunch here before you go?", "No. I have another meeting.", ... . Make the request clear: it tells where, do what, for how long, with who the date. Even if she declines now you have fullfilld three expectations and passed three important tests: the confidence to ask personal request in person and live, attempt to make the courtship elaborate (not cheap) above your ordinary behaviour, and show that you are not stingy with money as a host.
One dating protocol for a woman is not the return the man's telephone calls too much. No return call by woman to you may not mean rejection of you, but simply means she must not look to desparate by returning calls. Then be prepared to make many telephone calls to her. A woman in a face to face relationship is not suppose to admit that she realy wants you; so you will have do the chase and nurture the relationship on your own if she is willing to talkon other days. Do not expect a great relationship or loving relationship initially that you see in a romance novel before the marriage. A loving, free talking, comfortable and trusting relationship from her may take years to develop. This may not apply to texting; the texting links of women could be quite active. A woman controls her verbal responses and seems to have all the power, but this is not always the case; see how below. How to make a women tell you her telephone number, or answer your texting or telephone calls even if she does not want to talk. One method: do not end the personal chats too soon; share eventually the basic informations when she wants to. If she does not respond too telephone calls or texting again; try reducing the number of call attempts per month, but improve the quality and length of the text. As a dominant male when she gives no replies you can try to attempt contact attempts at specific (about once a week) intervals for months after her first personal contact attempt to you; a dominant male character may be irresistable to her and she may eventually respond again. Remember when a well mannered dominant male is looking for a wife, the women go after him. If a woman no longer responds to telephone calls or texting calls, one would reduce the amount of texting attempts per month; she allready knows your dating intentions.
Another protocol is that a woman can only love those who love her. For this show love to her. You will not have a chance to show her your heroic side. Show love by greeting her, take a brief glance in her direction, praise her for work well done, thank her for her efforts in the work place, talk to her in the lunch room, mildly flirt with her, and/or talk to her in the office party. Another dating protocol says: a woman should only love those who love her. Give love in person for this: perhaps a simple greeting, a glance in her direction (acknowledgement of her presence), perhaps phraise her for work well done, express appreciation for things she did for you like making time to talk to you, talk to her in the office party. You probably cannot give her loving hugs at work, but what you can do is greet her, and occasionaly give her friendly attention.
Time To Get To Know His Personality
Many believe one needs to know a potential spouse for at least nine months before marrying her or him. You may have to get prepared not to get a fast developing personal relationship, because she may want to learn your true self first with time. Marrying a girl within a month of first meeting her is probably not a good idea; you are not prepared for her weaknesses, and vice versa. Some may marry in about two to five years of first sight, and some within a year of first sight. When will a local woman follow or perform many of his personal requests such as personal dating after the first personal chat? I believe this time period is usually eight to twenty four months after first personal chat. You may think you are a decent man or a pillar of the community, but she probably needs this time period to get to know you, gain trust in you, know your abilities, and find out about your allegiances for herself. You will need this time period to build roots (strong acquaintances) in the workplace or school. The romance novel type of relationship level can probably start only after this waiting period. The women bureaucrats probably know this and so perhaps rotate their employees from their cases, and soldier locations within seven month periods to avoid building strong attachments. To get her as a sweetheart in the workplace or professional meetings try to get brief personal chats with her once a month for about a year if you have the time. As the personal relationship gets better in a year, then to the chase at her speed. Perhaps after a period of six moths of intermittent professional meetings she does not want anything to do with you at least verbally; perhaps she does not trust you and does not know you abilities and allegiances yet; then after sending her the first love letter and then after about a years you asked her for the first personal date in person and she accepts; then a few months later magic (possibly a romance novel level relationship) happens in this relationship. Is a lot about time getting to know you. If you have this time, then after this time to get aquanted, getting the girl as a sweeheart may be easier. Then the romance novel lovy dovy type of relations may start after one to two years of first chat.
Some say the woman knows if her male suiter is the man, even the people at her work place may know: she may know by her intuition and sense, her own confidence to sweetheat status with him; she may know by his: attempts to get her contact information, frequent visits at her work place or school, small changes in his expressions (a happier facial expression) and body language, his financial preparedness, he is in his best behaviour to his abilities, paying more than expected attention to her, attempts to verbally connect. Offcourse all this bebaviour can be faked by the man, and she may test test this by making the relationship difficult.
For a personal relationship to occur, the woman must gain trust in her man and give him her home street address; getting her home street adress directly from her hand in person tells you where you stand as sweetheart, and getting the private meeting time alone with her is a special privilege. Takes time for a woman to get to know and gain trust in a man; wait patiently; wait three, six, eight to forteen months until you have felt done the minimal required dating actions and you sense it is the right time to ask for her home street address. If you done the chase right it may be just a waiting game. Meanwhile follow the more dating guidelines and methods mentioned here. I think a man knows in his heart when it is the right time when she will accept serious personal requests such as marriage, but you are never certain until you ask.
For how long should a woman know her man before giving it all to him? From eight months to three years fro first contact, depending on how much he reveals about himself. If he is like a stone wall and she cannot decern his thoughts or avoids meeting her parents, then three or more years of waiting time.
Never ask her age during the in person courtship and if she has any medical conditions, mainly in live (in person) talks. This depends on the length and strength of the relationship; I mean do not ask to early or when the pleasant personal rapport is not there. This protocol of not asking for her age is not always true; this depends on here intentions. If she does not answer personal questions, this may indicate that the relationship as sweethearts is not doing well. If she asks what your age is and you answer then the man would have the privilege of asking her age.
Her Telling Problems, Asking Personal Questions
According to protocol a woman must not give too much information about her too soon. This is an idea from before the 1940s. This is fine if you have time and she is talking later. This may be so in the pre-personal-dating meetings such as professional encounters. You can ask her about her marital status only after the third personal sentence or question, but is possible to get her telephone nmber before this third sentence. Say at least three personal sentences that are not business sentences before asking an important personal question like on her marital status. If she does not answer the question, do not force her to answer by asking again. According to protocol a woman must not reveal her marital status to strangers or too men (coworkers) too soon when he asks. Actually, whether you can ask about her marital status and number of children she has depends on your communications status and skills; this takes from 15 minutes to a few days from first sight before your can ask. Experience has shown that women do tell about their marital status at first encounter after greeting, telling each other's names and sharing a mild trivial personal question or two; after this wait at least a few minutes before asking about her marital status. Always ask this about her marital status question directly with good eye contact even if she is not looking at you. She is not suppose to reveal her marital status too soon to new people in person when she does not know them well according the 1940s dating protocol, but there is a way of sharing marital status information at first encounter; this requires a special talk, or semi-formal chat; the talk includes: a greeting, name introductions, share at least two personal questions, discreetly share marital status information second last, ask for her home telephone number last and late as possible at encounter. Always ask with a gentle and polite tone of voice. It does not hurt much to ask if she has any children. If this is the case avoid getting emotionally attached to her or getting your hopes up to high before knowing your status as sweetheart and knowing her marital status. If she is married you will probably know by before the the end of the third encounter without asking her. If she is not available then you simply move on the the next girl since your emotional attachment to her is basically none. If one asks her about her marital status and she refuses to reveal about her marital status or single status then should one date other wonen?; yes, but do not reveal about your other dates (your number two or three girl). Some men may feel when men as strangers immediately ask him about his marital status is not good; perhaps the woman may feel similarly, so do not ask a woman about her marital status too soon but wait until you have given her some of your personal information. Men are not women, and may be possible to ask her name and telephone number without even knowing where you work and about your maritla status. One reason may be, if her marital status is married, decent men would stop chasing her or flirt with her, and she could lose the loyalty of other men as they make decisison on their social circles; and vice versa for men. My wisdom is do not mislead, and trying the get chases and friends by pretending that you are single. She probably will not answer questions to a man such as: "How was your holidays?". This depends on the type of meeting and what has been said by you. If this is a medical meeting such as you as a patient or a non-paying client avoid asking personal questions such as: "Are you maried?", "How was your holidays last week?", Where are you going for holidays?". If you are a coworker, meeting is a personal meeting or on online dating, you can ask personal questions after telling some personal information about you. If she does not answer non-professional questions like "How was your holidays last week?", this is an indication that the personal relationship seems not well and carefull actions need to be taken by you to get her. You probably should not ask personal questions such as: "Where are you going for holidays?", "What did you do for fun today?", "How was your holidays last week?", "How many passes from men do you get in a month?", she will probably never tell a man these. Do not ask personal questions like these during a business or professional talk; always ask at the end of such talk or at end of business meeting if you want. They usually never answer personal questions during such a profesional mood or ambiance. If you can keep the personal questions as confidential as posssible and separate from business talk, the better the chances of a response. Many times waiting to find about her marital status takes too long; you must get her home telephone number or learn that she is married at the current and last chat. Avoid trying to get too much information from her too soon like a photographs of her house and street via Google Maps; do not say: I can check your street with Google Maps when asking for her street address online. This idea of not giving information to a man to soon may not be always true; this depends what she wants. Accorfing to past protocols a woman cannot reveal her marital status too early. Knowing her marital status as soon s as posible is neccessary for courtship. Is not true that woman will not reveal her martial status at first talk. If she does not want to answer personal questions like on her marital status may mean that this personal relationship is not doing well. Take the appropriate actions; here are a few clues: bring up your problems that you said to her with a solutions, stop talking about your problems with her, use only your first name in shared documents and group (public) introductions that she may have access to. Seems most women will not give any persoanl information at first talk until you answered the question yourself. Here is and example for live first chat when you do not have much time together in a public building where she works: "Hello. My name is Jonathan. What is your name?", "Jane.", " I live here in Spokane. Have you lived in Spokane most of your life?", "_ ... .", "May I have your home telephone number?", "Yes; 346 1234.", ... .
When you initiate chase, make personal requests only after greeting, introductions and getting her name and home telephone number directly from her hand.
She may want to demonstrate that she is not willing to romantically please anyone or please men's egos, and so is not talking or responding to your electronic mail. Below shows how to get her home telephone number when she is not talking or laughing to your jokes on the streets.
The ladies are not talking to you and not answering personal questions, yet on the streets some girls keep talking and talking while the man says very little, and I do not think she knows him well. I missed out (lost contact opportunity, she is gone from you) then. How does one make a girl keep talking to you like this? I believe it is simple: use only a few words or a sentence, make a good verbal and body connection and invitation, follow her, she follows you on the strets, mutual follow (you folow her, and she follows you, body language connection) at encounter. Do not use silly talk; here are a few examples: wrong way: Hello. bee bee. What's new?"; a better way: ..., "Hi.", follow her, she follows you, do mutual follow, "... .". Body language connection: you say a few words, follow her to connect and invite, she follows you,, mutual follow (you follow her, then she follows you, next follow each other at the same time), she talks.
She did not reval anything about her personal dating and her marital status early. If your female aquantance or potential sweetheart at work looks pregnant and you are dissapointed by loss of her as sweetheart because by this suprise, then do not ask if she is pregnant.
One of the fears of giving you her home address is that you might become a nuiscance; do not visit more than once a week if there was no invitation and do not try to moniter her every move. Do not arrive too early at the meeting; no earlier than twenty minutes; to early does not look good with you loitering without action. Do not beg for acceptance on the telephone every day. If you are rejected as a sweetheart, try only visiting face to face every two to twelve months. Leave her place before 10:00 pm unless you have permisssion to stay or were invited to stay longer.
Duration of Personal Date
How long should a date last?; it was said for one to two hours, or about three hours if she seems to have a good time for the first date. You should not put yourself in a situation where she ends the date or meeting; the man must always take the lead in personal relationships. Actually you should not allow a woman to end any meeting with you unless she is in her own house, even business meetings, but you have to figure out when such a meeting should end. Avoid ending an online chat or in person date with a woman too soon; the extra time spend is worthwhile. If business, trivial tasks, hunger can wait, sustain the chat, slow its speed down, and allow her to talk in private. Midway in talk use the word "dear" at least once but no more than twice so that you do not sound so conceited and high minded if so; example: "Do you have any brothers and sisters, dear?". If you can stretch the duration of the private second date to two and a half to three and a half hours with her initiating intimate talk, you almost got it made. The date should last between two and a half to three hours; one and a half to two hours for the activity and about one half to one hour for the talk; near the end of the talk is interesting as she expresses her desires to be with you. Try to get the personal talk in the last hours of the date in audio privacy and partial vision privacy, or better yet in full privacy. The longer your talk time and the more information given by you; the more she is willing to please you or the greater the efford she might take to see you, so try to sustain the talk as long as posible on date. Date not longer than three and a half hours; if longer you look to desparate to keep her there. Do not undermind the relation be ending the date or personal talk too early, try to stretch the duration to two and a half to three hours depending if her chores were done for the day. You may avoid calling here more than twice a week; there were a lot of public activities going on at those places, and so you must give them for emotions to cool down (neutralize) and things (public activities) there to calm down. Actually, if the girl wants to chat like online you should avoid ending it when possible; a long chat may lead to favorable situation for you with her, if you are ready to see her in person. After a professional meeting, the ladies usually do not leave early, do not walk away, but try personal chats with women. The online talks are as long as she wants; usually less than three hours per day.
It was said a date or personal meeting with a woman should last between one to two hours. Perhaps a date for dinner at a quiet restaurant. A professional or business meeting cannot be considered as such a date, because the personal motives of the girl for you are not known. Date length up to three hours if she seems to have a good time. If you can stretch the duration of the date with talk to three to four hours and let her talk become more intimate; you are likely to get better attraction to you and better command of her. If she seems to want to talk for over two hours, do not end the date before four hours. In the third hour of talk allow her to lead the talk into more intimacy at the private table. If you cannot get privacy during the date, see if you can initiate this private chat in the automobile. If she initiates talk about sex, keep quantity down; do not sustain it for too long just in case she regrets the sexual talk later, or was just seeing how you react.
The first texting session should not be less than one hour long to allow the sharing of basic information plus a little more personal information. This improves the chances of getting her cellular telephone number. If she says her cellular telephone is broken; try to make the next tor current exting session at least an hour and half long, and then try to get her telephone number in next texting session. Idieally the basic information should be shared face to face (in person) on first personal date, but if you have no choice, you wil have to do it during texting or telephone call.
At any meetings with potential sweetheart women including at the getting her telephone number routine do not allow her to end the meeting to soon; you choose and appropriate time to end the meeting and you end it then. By doing this, this extra power will make you feel more secure about this relationship, will tell her your level of interest in her, that you are not willing to put up easily with her dating games, tells her that you are leading the courtship at most times and helps show your dominant male characteristics. You must show your assertiveness or strong will in finances and relationship development. By doing this, the chances rejection as sweetheart of you or no responses to your telephone calls are reduced.
Do not end the first texting session with her until after she tells her deeper thought on relationships, love and her personality, and verbally agree with her positive throughts. Women like to talk when given a chance; let her talk until she runs out of words; this may take about twenty minutes; this will be your first, only and last chance to get this intimate talk from her, give yourself enough time to text, take this talk. This talk is an indication in favor of you as sweetheart. Respond with simple, short encouragements and agreements to her deep thoughts, but do not go into your own deep thought talk yourself now. Stretch the initial talk as long as possible, that is share the basic information to get this deep talk; about an hour and then let her talk. This should reduce the chances of not responding to your calls later. Remember after talk to thank her for her time and nice talk. The first enitre texting session should last for about an hour and a half to two hours.
After end of professional, business, or academic meeting, do not leave the area too soon, you must show the courage to stay there longer and do personal talk. Do not allow her to end this live meeting; choose an appropriate. Before letting her go wait until she answers at least one personal question. This will reduce the chances of rejection of you as sweetheart later, and makes getting a perosnal date with her with telephone call easier.
Showing On the Personal Date On Time
When you arrive late at a personal date or a professional meeting with her she may briefly think that you have abandoned her, this is not allowed and may perhaps increase the chances of rejection of you as a sweetheart later. Never be late for the meeting or date; make sure; if late you will loose points that you cannot gain back. If you got wrong time and you arrive there after she left, you will loose even more points, even if she does not look upset. Never be late to any meeting; it says that meeting with person is not important enough and shows weakness of your will. Keep your meetings like a proefssional meeting and do the things you said you will do; if not you can look immature, are affraid, do not take things seriously, or are sloppy in book keeping and could lead to the rejection of you as a sweetheart. If somenone called you on the telephone and he does not keep his appointment may make you feel less important and you think what kind of man is this, and a woman may think can this man lead my family as a husband? Even if you made a timing mistake and become and hour late for the meeting, it still could be a point against you, so double check your alarm clock and appointment book. If you cannot make the meeting, try to explain why and apologize for the mistake. Have been reminded that one arrived to early for professional meeting. Do not arrive too early at professional meetings (not ealier than half an hour), or leave it too late; you are not suppose to see everything there; the girl chasing, romance, and lunchion dates might go an like crazy there. After the professional meeting do the getting her name and telephone number routine as soon as possible and then leave the place quickly.
Avoid procrastination; you do not want to wait four months before first talk with her and then finding out that she is expecting or has moved out of her place. If you want a girl you should start the chase or first personal meeting as soon as possible; she is looking for the right man and there are probably one to half a dozen men at her work place eager to have a lunch date and bond with her.
Communication Method Expectations
Some people never except a personal relationships or a large business deal on a terminal or computer screen, or be electronic mail (email); instead get face to face or physical contact as soon as possible, mainly in the past, and perhaps now too. Managers in the work place usually do not talk to the public directly. You may not like it either if women talk to you or sends infrmation about her only via a third party courier, by electronic mail or telephone only; you want a girl to talk to you face to face. Live texting relationships after first long texting session should be short (one to a few months) and followed up with in person (live) meetings. Electronic mail relationships can be easily trashed (falsified into a bad letter by someone on the internet), so never except a personal relationship rejection or acceptance by email, especially if the source cannot be verified. Love rejections by email or telephone are easy to reject and the worst kind of rejections. Is is easier to give nasty rejection by her on email than with eye to eye contact. Some people do not accept personal relationships by email or post and in turn you should not accept any business request from the same person by email. Do not use email or online forms for important activities like large business deal, school registration or personal relationships when you have you ability to do it in person. Applying for school registration online while you have the ability to meet in person (live) will grealy increase your chances of failure; always apply to college entry in person (live) when you have the capability to do so. Personal relationships to some people are more important for them than you think; no one wants to talk to terminals, automatic teller machines and computer screens all day. Use the contact method she accepts; but you do not know for certain so it is better to initiate a personal relationship in person (live). Emails can be easily falsified; avoid communication methods that can be easily falsified. If she lives locally, you have her street address and you have the ability to visit her physically, do not ask personal questions by electronic mail, telephone or mail. Telephone is only for asking for meetings when the relationship is good, not for asking personal questions when the relationship is poor. You both date, have fun and perhaps each fall in love in the workplace, school and/or mall many times, and there are company dating protocols that give her other men there the advantage over you; give your self and her respect by making requests and doing personal talk and dating only in person (face to face) with her, if you have the physical ability to do this offcourse. Go to her workplace or school and ask for date(s) and ask personal questions there only in person. I mean to say: do not accept just only electronic mail, business mail from her when the other men at her workplace or school get in person dates from her; get professional and personal meetings face to face only from her, if this is possible. Other men may get face to face lunch dates or chats from women at her workplace; and she may think giving you email is not enough; and this is why she may believe why she should only accept face to face talk when you have the ability to do so. For example; if she does professional work with you by email, telephone or mail, ask instead: "Lets us meet in person at your office and talk about it?". Make appointments for the next date with her after the current date in person; try to do all communciations in person as a token of respect to you. If she lives over seas (over 500 miles away), you cannot afford to fly there and you do not have her street address, then and only then is texting and telephoning her as dating acceptable; she must understand if the personal meeting is possible or not. The type of contact method depends on the genuineness of your message on how well she thinks the personal relationship is going. Show better genuineness by making personal requests, personal talk or dating in person when it is in your power to do so like when you live in the same city. Women care about the contact method you use for personal talk, so only use the best and most personal contact method (in person if address was given) given to you; me and some men probably do not care about the type of initial contact method she uses as long if the messages are genuine and the desired results are achieved. Contact methods in order of best and most personal are: in person (face to face, live), by voice telephone, by webcamera, by live texting messenger. Do not be a snob or have too much pride by only accepting face to face calls like a professional; she may be testing you and so you should accept all her calls with lower level contact methods like email, if not you could loose her as a sweetheart; the contact method and the intensity of the romantic dates currently does not matter much to the man, what matters is the results which is getting her to live in your house. I believe love is not limited by contact method and distance; you just have to find out if she accepts electronic mail for sharing personal information. Doing personal talk face to face may be more difficult on you, but is more humble and respectful than trying to order a girl to your area by telephone or email. Example: By telephone: "This is Tom from Frank Barristers. May I speak to Jane Susan?", "Yes .", "Are you still interested in position of secretary and receptionist at Frank Barristers?", "Can you give me a day to think about it?", "Yes; don't keep my waiting too long; there are many candidates for this position.", ... . Same talk in person at her door: "I am Tom Doe from Frank Barristers. Hello. Are you Jane Susan?", "Yes .", "You have applied for work here?", "I have applied for a position of receptionist there.", "Are you still interested in position of secretary and receptionist Frank Barristers?. This work is still available", "Can you give me a day to think about it? ", "Yes; can you let me know tomorrow by telephone call at our office? Let me you my business card with my telephone number.", ... . Can you imagine the difference between the telephone and face to face chase here? Actually, love is not limited by contact method and distance; is possible for a man to love a girl online without meeting in person before. Generally, people feel more privileged if the personal date is done face to face (in person); a date with a girl is better in a fancy restaurant than online talks, for example. Always identify yourself first on the telephone or texting, then request to speak to the person, then a greeting; combine the sentences into groups, one topic per group; example: "This is Jonathan Doe from Frank Barristers in Spokane. May I speak to Jane Susan?", "Hi. How are you doing?", "Hello. I am fine today. How do you do today?", ... . Long distance relatinship using electronic mail only does not seem to last long, usually. Texting relationships last longer, even better is texting and getting her telephone number; and best is face to face meetings with telephone, and texting abilities.
Do not try to mend personal relationships using electronic mail, texting, by telephone, by webcamera, by internet page, by newspaper, by television, or with a third party mesenger at a safe distance when your blew it live that is damaged it, neglect it, gave a brush off or gave an accidental brush off live face to face in person; instead go there live in person to repair it face to face. No one wants a long distance relationship when you had the opportunity to give a live, in person relationship. No one wants a long distance, electronic virtual kiss when you had the opportunity to give a real kiss live. No one wants a long distance electronic relationship when she is are affraid of a live in person, face to face relationship where she is affraid to say no to sex.
For a woman, sweetheart love is talk (personal talk that is not required for the business with her), romance, respect that genuineness and in person meetings gives her, close proximity, her man not courting other ladies, and usually not sex; then do not end the chase encounters too soon, talk and focus your attention on her as long as possible, and stand or sit close as possible to her to weaken her resistance of attraction to you. Go to her place live, face to face, in person meeting if you physically can visit for chase as her for sweetheart; make strong eye contact when either of you speak, face the front of your body in her direction, sit or stand as close as possible to her as standard protocol allows because you must still respect her space at this time. Then the more you folllow this rule and these other dating guidelines, the weaker her resistance to her physical attraction to you.
When you somehow managed to get an electronic mail address of a woman's workplace, this electronic mail must only be used to set up an appointment or physical meeting at her workplace; do not include in it your photograph, personal information, personal talk and your full street address; but simply only used it to request and apointment. The contact information is now not complete and should compel her to make the professional meeting with you, and avoids testing you too soon. Once you got this meeting you will have some private time to do personal chat and ask her for her home telephone number.
Action speaks louder than words; all the nice texting, electronic mail and love letters does not mean much unless she or you is willing to meet in person, live, face to face with identities verified. You have to prove that you are interested in personal relationship by showing courage too meet by meeting in person, face to face, by not hiding behind electronic mail.
For local women when you know her work address or home address, then the telephone, electronic, instant messenging must only be used to setup meetings. When she no longer responds to these methods, stop writing with these long distance methods and instead go to her work placed or home to do the pre-dating routines, or gettting her home telephone number routine in person, live, face to face with her. You must show your ability, confidence, courage to be able to start live personal talk with her in person; must verify your identity as you speak; must give her to honour of live, in person meeting. A low cost, easy electronic mail that is not face to face and live is not enough when you have the ability to meet her in person, and electronic mail appears cowardly and you know this if you only dare to talk or ask personal question by electronic mail.
Keeping It Cool (Composed)
Sometimes do not appear too eager to get her if you have the time; let her sweat (worry) a little, especially if she is playing hard to get, she acts like she is too good for you, or is moody during the early stages of the relationship. They figure, the faster the chase, and the more the words, the more fake (less sincere and committed) the chase. This depends on the woman and level of interest in you, but you cannot always tell the level of interest in you as a sweetheart by her words and actions. The is best if the is not done too slow at the begineeing of the personal relationship. Chase slow with small steps but steady. If you are too aggressive or too eager to get her she might become affraid of sex, and then withdraw. Getting a woman may be like fishing; if you reel in the fish too fast, the nylon line may break and you loose the fish; reel in the fish slowly, gently and steadilly instead. Do not attempt to ask her personal questions more than once a week in the work place, and if she does not respond to a personal question such as about her martial status do not ask again the next day. Attempt face to face contact no more than three times a month if the current relationship is not to your liking or is poor; contact more times only when it feels right. You want her to sing a tone lower (be a little more humble to you), then she will probably be a better wife this way. Attempt more contact attempts if expected. If she rejects you and you think she does not mean what she says, do not beg for acceptance every week; wait one or six months before attempting contact. Carefully look for clues on when and where you can see her again. If she is asking for money, she may be testing you; avoid responding to these requests and reduce the number of contacts to her per month. Avoid the word "please" in your sentences to her like "Please let me have your telephone number.", accept to make the request sound less commanding. For example instead of saying: "Please see me again next month, or "See me again next month", say instead "Can I see you again next month?". If you attempt to many contacts per week she will probably feel more highly about herself; you will look desperate and so you will probably never get her if you spend too much friendship time with her. You should not spend too much plutonic relationship time with her and her friends; guage her feelings about you as soon as possible. If you do want a plutonic relationship with her do only just the two of you and not with her female friends at the same time. Do not accept a plutonic relationship with her if you are really are interested in her as a marital partner and sweetheart, then it is better to make a clean (complete) break and not get hurt again by her. Do not show too many pictures and too much information about you online so you do not look so desparate. Two to three photographs is good; no more than three current photographs. Do not tell your life story and every single thing you like online. If adding more information to your online profile does not feel good, do not do it. Do not surrender or let down your guard too soon. Avoid the friends button on online dating and ordinary dating; when you give free attention and friendship she has less incentive to respond to your calls; record her webaddress and pictures, and cancel her online friendship link, and start only email contact attempts. Avoid being friends with the women you want; if you give free friendship, attention and free entertainment or a buddy relationship in a group they may have less incentive to respond positively to your romantic advances. Being a friend initially is a setup stage but can be risky if she in the meanwhile goes for another man. A man usually falls emotionally athached to a woman faster than a woman does; he may want to date her in four months from first sight, and she might say: mayby, I will be back here in eight months; so do the courtship slow but steady.
I believe a women will not give her home address online until she thinks the course (personal relationship) is true, very certain and you are trustworthly. How do you get this? Probably time with a lot of chat and tell about yourself. She will probably not give her street address untell you promise to meet her in person. You have to talk a lot to get her home address during texting on fourth or fifth talk attempt.
Avoid Asking Personal Questions Too Soon
A woman is not suppose to answer personal questions on electronic mail, post letter or telephone, especially before personal dating stage of the relationship at professional meetings to a new man unless there is no more time; so avoid asking personal questions like marital status using electronic mail or post letter too soon if you can talk face to face, in person. A woman is not suppose to answer personal questions to a new man in professional or business meetings too soon according to the book "". She is not to suppose to tell her age to a new man too soon especially at an uninvited talk. She is not suppose to reveal her marital status too soon to new people in person when she does not know them well according the 1940s dating protocol, but there is a way of sharing marital status information at first encounter; this requires a special talk, or semi-formal chat; the talk includes: a greeting, name introductions, share at least two personal questions, discreetly share marital status information second last, ask for her home telephone number last and late as possible at encounter. Always ask with a gentle and polite tone of voice. Do not ask her personal questions with communications method that can be easily falsified; someone could intercept your electronic mail and use it; make the question source indentity certain. You will probably be not very happy asking for personal information using email or post letter anyways. The love letter is only a prelude to the personal advances or chase; a love letter alone will not give you a great relationship. Asking personal question by electronic mail and live texting is only allowed for online dating, when it is expected to so and face to face talk is not possible. If you must send a letter or electronic mail, use verification information like your private photograph, hand written signature, your private street address, and use the formal love letter format below. If a woman answers your personal questions live, in person, face to face such as "What are you studying in school?" that is not required for the job tells where you stand as potential sweetheart, is usually in your favor, and tells you that you passed the test of confidence and ability to initiate live, in person personal chat. Do the chase for her as sweetheart slow, avoid asking important personal questions to soon. Your tone of voice must not be demanding and crasp, instead should be firm but gentle. Do not get too personal too soon with your words. Do the talk on completion of business encounter to avoid using business as an excuse to be there. Example: you as mechanic/plumber in her home, she is single: wrong way: "X Central Heating.", ..., "Where is your husband?", "_.", "Go out with me!", "_.", "You can't stay single forever.", "No.", ... . A better way using the proper greeting protocol: "Good morning. I am Johnathan Doe from X Central Heating to install heater furnace. Am I at the correct place?", "Yes.", ..., on completion of work and handing her the bill, "Here is our bill. May I have your signature?", ..., "Thank you.", "What is your first name?", "Jane.", "May I give you a telephone call?" ,"Yes.", ..., "Good bye.", "Bye .". Many women may want to follow this protocol, and if she does not want to answer any personal questions now you can ask for the required information which is her name and contact information, and use the proper greeting and introduction at first encounter. Seems not proper for a man to ask too many questions from a woman about her past such as asking about her past love life. Some women do not like to answer many questions to strangers; then when asking her personal questions you must introduce each other and answer your own questions to her that you ask her; the number of questions you share with her in person other than names and telephone numbers should be not more than four at the first encounter; in fact it may be impolite to ask more than twenty personal questions to a potential sweetheart and so interrogate her before fiance status. Only a fiance, husband or rejected fiance (your marriage proposal to her verbally rejected) has the privilege to ask her more than twenty personal questions. At first encounter you may share up to four personal questions other than name and telephone number; start questions about topics that are in your control. Where you grew up, where you work are much out of your control, your nationalities, your home location.
Seems some questions are improper or impolite for a man to ask a woman; these are questions that are too personal such as: about her past relationships,
current relationship(s) with others such as "Do you have any other suprises?",
ask if she is pregnant, her age, her weight,
about her daily plans such as "What are your plans for tomorrow?",
ask if she has any medical problems,
ask about her past activities such as "How was your holiday trip (dating) last week?". These are questions reserved only for her spouse, fiance. Here are some questions you can ask her when you do not have full sweetheart status with her: where she was from, where she works, what she likes to do for fun like sports, what course she took in career schooling, city of residence, her name and telephone number. Offcourse you will have to answers these questions yourself first.
Most women seems similar concerning this matter independent of her age, culture and distance from you: do not try to get her for sweetheart or wife to hard and look desparate for a girlfriend by talking too much; give your self some diginity by doing the chase slowly, but steadily and gently. Avoid asking too many personal question to soon; ask only the required questions at first encounter such as exchange names and contact informations. She knows she needs to share names and contact information and this may be all you get for the first encounter, usually. Give her time to get to know you, gain trust in you and get accustomed to a new man in her life. You can feel it if you try to get cozy with her too soon with business electronic mail communciations. The worse the dating progress at the pre-courtship meeting, the less number of contact attempts you make with her per month, and the less you talk by electronic mail, telephone or texting. She was not answering your electronic mail and a telephone call invite to her workplace will probably be a decline because you have not passed the most importants tests mentioned here; you cannot afford a decline by telephone call. Do not worry, other men probably have to chase her as wife at this same pace, pass the four most important tests first mentioned below.
Is possible that the women at the workplace do not reveal about their personal dating or martial status to new men to see what happens. Is possible that she is dating another man and that they are close to fiance status; next month without warning she may have a different last name. She might reveal about her marital status or about her boyfriend if any at the second or third encounter. In such situations is best to find out where you stand as potential sweetheart and about her marital status as soon as possible before the end of the third encounter within two months of first sight.
Do not propose marriage to her by electronic mail, telephone, love letter, live texting or with a greeting card if you initiated the relationship if you initiated the start of the chase. Do not propose to her with communication methods that can be falsified. You must be manly and do it face to face, verbally, and reserve this question for face to face talk. A marriage proposal by a man to her must be done in person and verbally . Do it like this: be close as comfortable possible physically to her as you are permitted, make sure the front of her body is facing you and the front of your body is facing her, look into her eyes and ask, speak clearly in a gentle, affectionate but firm voice. This should increase your chances of success. Some like to do propose marriage on bended knee with wedding right in hand, but make sure the front of her body is facing you, and look into her eyes even if she is not looking into your eyes until her verbal reponse is finished. Propose for marriage to her only if you feel she knows you enough; there is no point to immediately propose marriage to a stranger even if you are love stricken with her at first sight and want her, she does not know this.
Not Hiding Behind Excuses; No Excuses Needed To Be With Her
Do not use excuses to see a woman such as using her as a reference for work application or leaving you coat behind at her place; using excuses is too easy. If she asks why you want her telephone number or why you want to see her, never give excuses to fullfill your manly needs with a woman. When you go to her workplace and the receptionist wants to know why you want to see her, do not give or use a phoney reason. Do not say: "Is Jane here? May I speak to her for a few minutes?", instead say: "I am Doe. May I speak to Jane James?" politely. Do not put down the importance of your meeting with her by giving a short meeting period in this sentence, such as saying "I will talk only for a few minutes.". If she is not in; do not ask when she will be back. You cannot ask for information about an employee, instead say: "Can I come back here tomorrow to talk to her for a brief period?". Do not use excuses like work to be with women; not using excuses reduces the chances of ridicule of you. If you want to see a woman just go on the streets and walk for about an hour and say hello to a woman that walks towards you.
Do not apologize for being with a woman or desire to be with a woman; like saying: "I am sorry to bother you this afternoon", , "I am sorry for taking your time; I know I am your third date this month." or "I am sorry I just telephoned you at 1:00 am.". Only telephone calls past 10:00 pm from a sweetheart or spouse are acceptable; do not call friends after 9:00 pm. Do not give an excuse to be with a woman; if he says: "Why do you want to marry my daughter?" do not give an answer, instead gently change to the topic and give a response something like this: "Hello. How was your day today, sir?". If you are at her home's door and she says "Why are you here?" or "What do you want from me?", do not say why, but simply proceed on the request to visit. If she says: "Why do you want me?", do not give a reason such as we both have university degrees; instead carefully change the conversation topic and continue chat; your university degree may not stop a rejection of you as a sweetheart. You are here for your physical and emotional needs, adult female companion and to get a wife, but you may not have to say this directly. If she says: "I am not here for games.", see (visit) her or talk to her anyways.
When you are trying to get her home telephone number and she says "I do not know you.", "Why?", or "What do you want from me?", do not argue for youself or give an excuse to get her telephone number such as "I tell you later about me, so may I have your telephone number?", or give an excuse why you should be with her such as "We make good friends; we are both geology students."; but simply make strong eye contact and repeat the request. Argueing and debating with her why you make a good match with her usually does not work and may make her even more stubborn in accepting you as sweetheart. Takes time for a woman to know you, gain trust in you, admire you if possible, to trial and test you, and to love you, so do not argue for yourself at first encounter of difficult chase.
You may get best results like a happy face when you pay attention to her and talk to her that is not required for the business, current group activity or current professional situation. Example at bank information fair: ..., "Good afternoon. I am sorry, I did not catch where your office is. What branch is your office at?", "Bank of Washington, Center Street.", "For how long have you lived in Spokane?", "Ten years .", ... .
Expect Nothing Less Than Sweetheart Status
Do not impress on her that you are there just as a friend, plutonic relationship, business relationship, professional relationship, patient, body guard, side kick (helper), hero knight in shining armour, or academic study companion, and playing games; if you do this the game (get her as sweethart) will very likely be over. You can try to be her friend first for about a year, but this is risky because she may go with another man in the meantime. Be honest as you can be about your intentions with her without offending her or making her feel uncomfortable. Your relationship will be clearer and she will have to prepare mentally and her actions for this intimate relationship to be. You want an intimate and sweetheart relationship with her. Show courage and confidence by implying or telling your true intentions with her in the first meetings. Do not give excuses for your manly needs from a woman. A woman will test you to see if you are genuine, loyal and personable before giving her love and trust to you, so keep trying. As time progresses she develops trust in you and love for you, and then relationship will go in your favor from begger to king. A relationship with love and respect may get better, longer lasting and give you better convincing power with her. Do not tell her family that you are interested in her for sexual relationship. Asking for or showing sex can be rude. Somehow try to make her believe that your personal advances are not for sex. Some say tell your true intentions with her; some say show respect and restraint; which advice should be followed? If you are not certain where you stand with her do not try to be her friend, plutonic relationship buddy, business relationship, professional relationship, patient, body guard, or academic study companion, and playing games; if you do this the game will be over for you as a sweetheart. Do not use your work, professional relationship or school classes to be near a woman; it looks wimpy and you probably will not be happy with this relationship; what you need to do is complete the business with her as soon as possible and then attempt only personal contact methods to win her heart for marriage. For internet dating, the closer the physical distance between you and her, the more difficult it may be to get positive results; choose carefully and go for the jugular (no game playing on your part). If she is your therapist and she knows you problems and failures, complete your work with her and solve your problems as soon as possible; do not attempt to ask her personal questions yet by email or telephone; wait for at least two months for emotions to cool down, for you to repair your problems and ro accelerate your career development, and then make only personal communications atttempts to her in person; calling too early by email in this poor situation may lead to your rejection as a sweetheart. If she thinks you are there for just a friend or client, the game is over; a woman needs to know from the beginning that you are not just a bosom buddy, escort to sports game, client, or body guard; you must develop trust to her and she will test your genuiness, and if you pass the test things should go smoothly on its own for you. She may even ask you for money or favors, see if you keep your promises, play hard to get, or reject you to test your genuineness and committment to her. If you are her patient it is game over for you as a sweetheart; what you need to do to get her in this case is finish the therapy work with her soon as possible, then wait six to twelve months before asking her personal questions and making personal advances giving you time for you to apparently resolve your problems, and emotions to cool down; then if it is not too late make only personal advances and do not talk about your problems and past business with her even if she asks. Do not talk about therapy plans; tell only about positive results just a little bit if she asks. You are age fifty and with an oversized business suites your were husbanding a professional relationship with her for three to six months on the hopes of getting a personal relationship with her later, but later you find out that she is not interested in you or is not available as a sweetheart; broken hearted, imbarrased and/or humliated you walk away; this is not how the get a girl for a sweetheart; and you may feel this when you do it. This is how you do it: go visit her in person without any reasons other than to see her and to start a personal relationship, follow these dating rules; starting a personal relationship is more difficult than making professional meetings or help, you must show your courage, confidence and power the initiate a personal relationship with a woman face to face anywhere. Of you have business or professional meetings with woman you want, complete the business with her as soon as possible and try to get her contact information. Once you got her contact information do not use further business or professional meetings to be with her; have only persinal meetings and personal talks only; do a quick and surprise visit so that she does not have a chance to hide; this is called the "Flying Below the Radar and Surprise Chase". I you are her friend for about a year and make the personal chase to become her sweetheart too late, she may allready have found another man.
Another Politenes Protocol, and Manners
Never have your back facing the girl you want when sitting in front of her for a long time unless you have no choice, making sure she is always in your field of vision in the meeting or class room and she not behind you; always sit next to her or behind her on closest seat as possible, but never sit with your back facing her in front of her. If it does not feel good for the relationship do not do it. This will reduce the chances of rejection of you or leaving you too soon. Do not have your back to people you are communicating with such as playing music on stage with you back facing the audience. When dancing or walking with your date do not turn or face your back towards the woman or let her walk behind you especially in public view unless you have no choice or have to make a quick turn. Similar in the bus or in a theatre; do not sit directly in front of her in the bus if you have a choice; instead sit beside her, behind her or where is she is in your field of vision in a seat as close as you dare can. If you are talking with a woman you want you have to make the choice of always facing the front of your body and head directly in her direction (centre of her body) in the meeting. Preferable the front of her body should be facing you also for best chasing results if you can get this done at the restaurant table. The best places to sit with a woman are in this order: sit in front of her face to face as close as manners permit, sit beside her close but not touching, or sit directly behind her with your front facing the centre of her body when not talking. If you have your back facing her for too long of a time, you may either get laughed at or she may leave this public meeting. Watch your manners always: let her in room first, pull chair (clean chair) out for her to sit on at table, gently open or close automobile door for her, always ask to pay for her drink or meal at professional luncheon encounter(s) even if you expect her to decline or her work protocol does not allow, do not cuss in anger when you are stressed out. Do not leave the encounter or personal date with her until you have officially ended it verbally; that is do not leave her hanging.
Do not ask a woman for directions to the washroom such as in a shopping mall or at the work place in most cases; it is a little personal and you do not know if she will feel a little nagative about being asked; if it does not feel good asking do not ask. Once you know the location of the public washroon; do not ask again.
When waiting in public spaces like at a bus stop do not face you back to girl for more than a few seconds. Sometimes woemn avoid attention by waiting out of your field of view at streets or bus stop. If she is standing behind you at a bus stop, find a way to turn around so that she is in your field of view. When in public always turn so that the girl you are interested in is in your field of view even if you are not talking. It is hipper (nicer, more courageous, more romantic) this way. Ideally you should be talking to her to get her name and telephone number with the front of your body pointing in her direction, but if she is not speaking, the direction of your body front and face should point as close as possible in her direction.
Sentences and Actions That Are Not Polite To Say and Do To A Lady
Is not polite:
a: To ask a woman's age when no personal talk was requested from her.
b: To sneak up from behind a woman who is not your wife and so perhaps scare or imbarras her.
c: To ask if she is pregnant at the work place or professional meeting; example: "You look pregnant; are you pregnant?".
d: To sexually arouse her or seduce her without permission at professional meetings or in public. Keep you seduction powers
and poetry in check, keep your distance at meeting, hands off her body when no permission to touch was granted
before she wants to unite.
e: To talk about sex with mixed company.
f: To show up on meetings late or not show up on meeting by accident.
g: To throw her into the swimming pool for a joke without permission.
h: To end a meeting or walk away from the meeting or date without a proper closing and good bye.
i: To leave her at the middle time of the personal date before proper closing for the other woman.
j: To talk on the telephone for more than a minute with someone else during the personal meeting with her.
k: To spray her briefly with water from a garden hose without permission.
l: Asking her uncomfortable questions too soon such as: do you have a lover, do you have a sexualy transmittable disease,
do you have any disabilities, have you ever had an abortion, do you have affairs.
m: Asking her more than three personal questions other than her name or interrogating her without first introducing and
telling about yourself.
n: Seems not proper for a man to ask too many questions from a woman such as about her past such as asking about her past love life.
Follow to reduce the chances of rejection of you as sweetheart or no telephone call responses later.
No Spying Because You Are Too Scared To Talk To Her
You may be spying on her in the mall or at her work place while being affraid to talk to her; do not allow your relationship mending activities or difficult courtship with her to become a joke, an amuzement to her and the people around the both of you, or you starting to look like a fool perhaps by spying. If you start to feel and look like a fool you have to become a little like a lion, she is the prey, go straight for the jugular (chase aggressively) figuritively speaking offcourse; you know what I mean. You should get more courage this way. Going after the jugular (aggressive action for success in an overwhelming way) here figuretivily speaking to win her heart means not doing anything illegal, getting nasty or getting angry; it is getting serious, not games, being more blunt, "taking the bull by the horn", "taking the boxing gloves off", set aside some of the niceties, protocol, office dating policies, improving your personal communication skills, may include seduction, setting aside your lighthearted, joking mood, and child side. Excerting dominance, but also giving what she wants that you also want. Gentleness but firm; you want her to surrender to you on this day. Is also setting aside those fears and scary predictions about the coming meetings with her.
Knowing Her Personal Intentions With You
When one meets new women one problem is not knowing important information about her; one might ask: what does she want here, is she available, does she like me as sweetheart? When you want to date a woman do not use a business or professional meeting or activity as a date; you do not know her personal motives and marital status; she must be there for you if you want a personal meeting, not for the money or employment, especially if you sense resistance to you as a sweetheart. The professional meeting may be used to get contact information but that is all depending on the feel of the activity and situation. If she wants to turn the professional meeting into a personal meeting, that is fine, accept it and then stop talking about business at this time. For clarity keep the personal meeting (date) separate from business or professional meeting. A business meeting is easier to make emotionally than a personal meeting so show courage by not using a business meeting as a date, but make an actual date (personal meeting) to win her heart. Do not accept a business, professional meeting or medical meeting as a date unless you know both of your personal motives; you do not know what she wants and you are only setting you up for possible dissappointment when she is unavailable to you. The best way to get her name and telephone number and to get the best respect as potential sweetheart is just to walk up to her and start the getting her name and telephone number routine without in professional meeting or organized activities, because an impromtu getting her telephone number routine on your own is more difficult than a public introduction. Actaully, doing the getting her telephone number routine in a informal setting on your own where she can be herself and not be a captive audience is easier emotionally. Do the chase just after the professional meeting or organized activity when she is no longer a captive audience and her business of the meeting is completed. Do not try to get her personal information such as about her marital status by getting professional activities with her.getting professional activites with her is easier than asking about her marital status. If you get her business telephone number or electronic mail address through this professional meeting without voice introduction, this will be a lot more difficult to start personal talk with her, and you feel it. Start the personal chase and her home telephone number getting routine impromptu, that is without a professional meeting again. Figures 2n shows some do nots and dos to get her home telephone number. Getting her home telephone number directly from her gives you the privilege to start personal chats with her. Try to keep the personal chats separate from profesional talks during these early stages of this relationship; her home telephone gives you and her the privacy that both of you needs now. In figure 2b(b) method, you do not allow a potential sweetheart (girl) to conclude the meeting and you do not verify the conclusion of the meetings by saying somethng like "Thank you. Yes; work seems done."; the word "seems" gives an element of uncertainty here concerning the end of the meetings. Most women will not tell her marital status to a new man and apparent potentional sweetheart or new suiter; then one could look for clues about her marital status such as photographs at her work place station, children's or men's paraphanalia in her automobile, observing her telephone calls, the quality of her grooming, her age, but checking or looking around may be a little scary for the man; here shows a way of making a woman reveal about her marital status without verbally asking. One would check the quality of her grooming, make up and dress; the better it is the more time and care she as a single person has for preparation, usually.
You are not in her age range; do not consider a business meeting, medical meeting or school classes as an official date; she is there certainly just for the money, she only shows up during her work hours; you do not know where you stand in this relationship; do not assume that love is automatic or implied. Getting personal contact with her using her employment, business or medical meeting is not a good idea. You should attempt only personal relationship attempts after this business meeting is over. You may try to get contact information or ask her for a date at this time. Then if she says or implies that business or professional and personal relationships should not be, then resolve the business as soon and possible in an upbeat way, and then wait for about a week and attempt vcrbal contact.
Financial Self-reliance
Being finincially self-relient can sometimes increase confidence for chasing women as sweertheart. Self-reliance: "taking the bull by the horns", not being affraid to do what ever it takes to get the job (making a living) done, taking the initiative no matter what. You may have some contact information of women and you fail to get the positive response that you want from most of them; there is a possiblity that you have to excert self-reliance, dominance in your making a living attempts. Do not talk about your unemployment problems, business failures, and negativity such as the restaurant business development will fail, in front of her. You cannot find decent work for a long time and so you may have to start your own business. Do not accept business advice from anyone especially family (mom as sounding board), they may give you reasons not to start the business unintenionally such as you do not have the skills, money or market to do it; but do what needs to be done concerning making a living. Do not allow anyone to deter you from your business goals by persuation, making you feel guilty, stumbling blocks (I cannot attitude, failing to perform, fears, or implying that your business product is no good), telling it is too difficult to do. When starting a business be well prepared and gain your strength for it before investing a lot of money into it. Fix your making a living problems; accelerate you career development. When looking for employment or a wife do not worry about things that are out of your control such as the amount of paid work experience you had, number of work references, amount of money you have made, the number of girls that did respond to your electronic mail calls, or the number of parties you have been invited, to but try anyways. For example a well experienced, well paid interior designer sometimes may be compelled to use a contemporary design from lesser designers. Have quality of work rather than quantity of paid experience.
Getting Past Organizational Dating Policies
Some organizations and businesses have policies concerning dating patients, case clients and subordinates in organization. There is a lot so I have to discuss this. When you are a patient, case load, nonpaying client, or inmate with her, and then telling about your problems, it is game over for you as a sweetheart with her. If this is the case, complete the business with her and/or resovle your problem as soon as possible, accelerate you career or business develoment, then wait to allow emotions to cool down in the both of you and allow you to repair your problem; then stay silent for one to twelve months and then make only personal contact attempts with her only in person and then do not remind about business problem and your problems that you discussed before. If you were her problematic client, you will probably have her work street address by now. Again, use your mind, experience, these guidelines, intuition, feeling and sense to determine what to say, how much to say, what not to say, when to say and where to say for your rejection as a sweetheart recovery. See if you can get her home telephone number and a lunch date in the mall by using these methods. If she is your superior at work and company policy says do not date her; do not make personal advances too soon, resolve business problems on your part, keep business and personal advances activities separate. Do the personal chats just at the end of the professional meeting(s) when her business is done with you and she is no longer your captive audience. You do not want the stresses of business, professional or medical meetings to be part of the courtship. You should not a chase a girl who is your boss at work too soon; you depend too much on her now. Teachers in schools may not be allowed to chase their female students, fearing that she would be favored in class examinations. If you are a teacher, you may have to get her telephone number and do the chasing after the school classes with you were completed. Do not sign any moral covenants with government, a business, professional organizations, academic societies; I mean do not relinquish your powers to chase women and to start verbal intimacy with women; you will need your power to have verbal intimacy and to to a Kegigihan kekuatan chase when the personal relationship will be difficult. If therapists have relationships with their patients she could loose her license; you need to decide if you want her as a therapist and tell more negative information about you, or try to develop a separate personal relationship with her. One university medical course even had a lesson on how to handle seductive patients; if you are unfairly perceived as a seductive patient you can avoid this by not making personal advances and hinting for sex during the medical meetings, then by completing (ending) the medical relationship with her as soon as possible, and then see her live in a few to four weeks to get her home telephone number; take control of this professional (medical) relationship as much as you can. Giving compliments on her looks a few times will soften most women and will eventually in time defeat organizational dating policies. The love letter formats here includes compliments on her looks. Carefully choose your politicians and do not let them go too far concerning this matter (dating policies) and the bedroom; you want laws if any that are fair to both the male suiters (chasers) and the chasees (ladies). The medical community are not allowed to date patients and teachers are not allowed to date students on pane of repremand. Look for clues of possible dating problems. Some clues are: not answering personal questions to you, avoiding immediate response to your calls like electronic mail, check dating policy of this communitiy, your own poor information and situation there and you know it is not quite right before her, check if being alone with her at her work place for over half on hour is difficult, check for security guard eventually coming along at her work place. If she does not anwer your electronic mail at her office, do not write again and again, but simply wait for her response, and if there is no response, you know what to do, go the her work place and do the chase chats there when you feel the moment is right.
Governments, organizations and department stores may perhaps relocate employees, rotate employee work duties, and work shift times to avoid emotional bonding; you need to fly fast and under the radar, cute girl at ten o clock, get her home telephone number now discreetly. Emotional bonding live (in person) from a woman to a man usually takes at least eight months from first sight; it is after this period that she may follow many of his commands; and some supervisor women may know this.
What does one do if she will uses professional and governmental dating policies as an excuse not to date you? What does one do if she works for the government when she is your therapist, and you are her patient? As patient you will have to reveal nagative information about you and all that heaviness, miminimize the negative information and bring it up in a solution. By the second or third professional meeting you will have her contact information and know if she is married. By visiting for the second time she will have an inkling that you have personal interest in her and will reveal that she is married as a sense of courtesy or because women love to reveal about their true love (husband). If she is single she will not reveal it now, and this and seeing no children's and men's paraphanalia with her will give you an inkling that she is probably single. Once you have her contact information and have an inkling that she is single, complete the professional meetings with her as soon as possible. Now you will stay silent for a time period any where from one to eighteen months. This will allow time for negative emotions to reduce, your negative information to be forgotten more and time for you to repair your financial problems. When you feel the time is right, you will go to her work place a few times until you have a chance to speak to her and ask for a personal date with her. When you (especially women) are single, do not allow others to put their paraphanalia in your domain (automobile, office space) to give a false sense of your marital status or personal relationship status.
Personal dating and communication policies of organizations and women may change; then the greatest tool to chase girls as sweetheart is your brain; think of what needs to be said and done to win her as sweetheart.
In some businesses women workers are not allowed to transport clients in their automobiles such as for looking for employment; then get her private telephone number directly from her hand in person as soon as possible.
Always greet the security guard or receptionist at her work place or her parents at the chase scene so that if you have to do persistent chase for her as sweetheart to get her home telephone number there it does not look so bad.
I cannot tell all about dating to public; for one, this enables women and organizations to make counter measures to personal chases by us; two, some are my own lady chasing secrets. You will have to use your own mind to determine the rest for getting a fiance.
The security guard or police foot patrol is making his rounds in the public library or at the office tower; check the school's sexual harrassment policies; professional meetings alone with women are less than one half hour long not long enough to soften her dating stance; medical cases with women are less than eight months long not long enough to generate emotional bonds; work schedules at department stores are constantly being modified making it difficult to zero in on your favorite teller; these are hints. Then do not talk about sex, hint for sex or ask for sex at the workplace, school, shopping malls in front of others, professional encounters and at dates in front of her parents. Greet or make friends with her security guard, lobby receptionist, or police foot patrol so that when you visist there many times empty handed trying to get her home telephone number then this will not look so bad.
Doing Business With Potential Sweethearts
Some say business and love do not mix; the competition to get ahead may be a problem in getting a sweetheart status with her. Is usually not a good idea to get in the way of a woman's business or making a living; always do the getting her home telephone number routine just after her business was completed with you at meeting. Avoid wasting her business time; do not tell that you want to buy an automobile there when you there only to reach her or to spy on her. When a woman wants to do business with you and you might be interested in her as a sweetheart later, let her only call you for bueiness, avoid calling her. Business or professional meeting can be stressfull for her; do not treat her business call and meeting as a date becuase you do not know her personal motives and if she is avaible as a sweetheart. Do not repond to her call with a personal chase or romantic encounter at this time unless you are certain that you are her sweetheart. Get her contact information, then finish the business upbeat as soon as possible, and then only make personal contact attempts (chase). If you do not have the time, only start the chase after the business is done at the end of the last business meeting. If she does not repond to personal questions during the business or professional calls, this is an indication that you should complete the business upbeat as soon as possible and then only make personal contact attempts after business was done. The idea here is to not let the business or professional work be an excuse to be with women, you must show the courage and confidence of initiating a personal relationship in person without an excuse to be there. Treating the business meetings as dates may lead to disappointment in the form of a rejection of you; this will make the chase many times more difficult to you when you were humiliated by a rejection. Complete the business as soon as possible after you got her contact information so you do not have to expose anymore negative information about you, about activities with other ladies if any, and so you will not waste anymore of her professional time. Avoid using professonal or business time, or medical meetings as an excuse to be with her; this is usually not a couragous way to be with a woman. Do not get in the way of her business, always do the personal chat just after completion of business meeting; do not tell that you are here for business with her when you are only there to meet her personaly.
Some say love or relationships and business do not mix; there may be disagreements about pay, how things should be done; there may be conflict of interests; and the difficulties of bitter ex sweethearts having to work together. Forcing contact with business. Avoid over personalizing the business with her; tell only what she needs to know and this could also include your narital status, name, work position in compnay. You mayw ant to avoid telling stories about your familiy and friends, and telling your work history that is it relevant here.
You know the sayng: business, and family or friends do not mix; this may also be with potential sweethearts. if the business is not going well between you and her, thid couild be disappointing to you. If you have a professional relationship, business relationship, or medical relationship with a woman that you want, do not address her in a first name basis like this: "Hello Jane" even if she does or says yes you can call me by first name, use her full name for salution like this: "Hello Jane Doe", or better: "Dear Madam". You do not have the privilege of using her first name; she may want respect and follow company policy to keep her employment and she is not there for you. Do not assume that love and respect is a given (automatic) or gets better with time in professional relationships; sometimes life's problems are not easy to solve. All business, professional, or medical communications by email or post must be in business letter format even if she does not do so; this will give both of you some respect and misleading of thoughts. Finish the business as soon as possible, finished it upbeat; wait for a while and start personal communications only using love letter format if done by email or post. Do not combine business electronic mail or medical electronic mail with personal electronic mail, especially if the medical content is negative about you. This will avoid the blunt rejection that professional and personal relationships must not be combined. Do not allow company or government policy for excuses not to be loved by this woman. You do not have the power to lead this dating process with her yet; the meetings you got were just professional. If a woman is seeing you just for business, professional reasons or money and does not want to date you or has professional policy not to date you; run as soon as possible, run away emotionally and physically. If you want a woman for personal reasons and you are doing business or other professional activities with her, complete this business as soon as possible, stop business or professional communications and only use personal communication methods to get her from now on. If she was not answering personal questions such as "How were your holidays last week?" in the business, professional meetings or professional emails these meetings are hindering personal relationship with her, then end these professional meetings as soon as possible after getting her contact information. Usually potential sweetheart does not make a good friend or business partner; there are certain things a potential sweetheart (man) should not know from the girl such as ex lovers or other current dates, if any. A potential sweetheart should not do certain things like joining her facebook.com friends list and show all his other female friends; all his personal information for her must be said directly to her.
Another dating rule: when trying to contact her at her work place, the voice telephone must be used over electronic mail; the live interaction, your voice verification, your voice close to hear ear and the better privacy with the voice telephone produces better results. Live, face to face, in person talk is still prefered over long distance electrical means. A telephone call is emotionally more difficult to do than an electronic mail, and should produce better results. Dating protocol within business: electronic mail and telephone must only be used to set up meetings with the women. You will also try to command her, and take or show leadership with all her encounters, within reason, not be too bossy. If she allows and becomes submissive this may be a good indications for you, then be carefull what you say and do, pass the four most important tests below. Example sentence in response to her electronic mail within a business letter format electronic mail; you looking for work: "Miss Susan: Good afternoon. Can you telephone me to set up a meeting please: 404 277 6554.". To avoid begging for attention and talk, and to avoid looking desparate to get her as sweetheart when she does not respond to your electronic mail or when the electronic sounds too impersonal you must not make more than two contact attempts per month when doing business with potential sweethearts unless she wants to.
Showing Courage To Talk Face To Face
Many men do not chase women on the streets because they are scared and have problems doing personal talk to a new woman. To get a girl as sweetheart you will have to show your cofindence, courage and abaility to do the chase or ask personal questions in person (face to face). Not having the confidence and power to get her home telephone number live and directly from her mouth is the reason for many late in life marriages, passing ships in the night (lost relationsahip opportunities). Perhaps you may have the nicest personality in the world and two university degrees, but unless you can ask for her telephone number or home address face to face, in person, the chances of her visiting your place or you visiting her home is slim. When you have the ability to meet the woman face to face such as having her local work street address; do not have a talk date, business meeting, or do not ask personal questions on the telephone, electronic mail (email), or live texting; do these in person only. Again, you must demonstrate your confidence, courage, and power to do the personal girl chase face to face (in person) if you have physical access to her, and pass this test.
Do not allow her the woman you want to end or wrap up the business or professional meetings with you on the telephone, electronic mail or live texting; this should be done in person; closing the professional relationship by email, texting or telephone is too easy as a way out for her. If you sense this is the last in person professional meeting ask: "Is our work done?"; then discuss the conclusion of the work. Say goodbye face to face to help guage her emotions like saying: "Are you leaving town?". This (face to face talk) will encourage respect for you and reduces the chances of rejection of you later. Telephones are only for asking dates; not for having dates, not for asking personal questions or not for telling about your personal interests unless there is no better way of talking. Rejection of you is more difficult to do in person, and may be less painfull for you live (in person). Electronic mail may produce a weaker emotional bond for you in her than in live chats. Example in a shopping mall, at her work place on a Thursday, she allready knows your name: "Hello Jane. My name is Johnathan. Do you remember me?", "_.", How do you do today? ", "_", "Will you have lunch with me at lunch time in the food court here next week Friday?", "Sure .", ... .
When you are walking on an open space and you see a woman that you do not know who is in you path of travel and close to your place; do not be apprehensive in walking there; walk as close as you can (about a metre away) to her without touching and say good evening.
You want to avoid game players; she was friendly but does not want to reveal her marital status; later showing up at her work place with a bouquet of flowers for her and then finding out that she is expecting can be imbarrasing and humiluating for you. Try getting information about her marital status after you talked about yourself to her before hand. Your first decision to ask about her martial status before hand will usually have been the right decision even if the asking was problematic. Women are not suppose to reveal her marital status too soon; always ask about her marital status as soon as protocol allows, especially if they do not want to tell; it is usually the right decision to ask then. If you do not know if she is available (her martical status) do not give any gifts yet like a box of candies, bouquet or birthday card with money when trying to get a personal date when the relationship was poor; these gives are only reserved for when personal motives are clear, when she has accepted a personal date with you, or unless she asks for it. Tell something about yourself first and then ask her the personal question.
Here is a man's dating protocol. In many cases do not give her your home street number until she is ready to give you an in person personal meeting (date) or when her presonal intentions with you are clear and in your favor. She does not really need to know, because the man initiates the meetings. A woman rarely visists the home of a new man for free. You may want to avoid telling especialy if your house is tiny and wheathered, or when you are unemployment and living at mother's house. Why not tell your house number too soon? If you tell her the house number you may be showing to much information to soon, and may show that you have too much of a good time. The link may be to close too soon and may increase the chances of getting a humiliating verbal rejection as a sweetheart, telling the number too soon may not help improve the relationship, and perhaps may slow it down. A nice mystery in her mind about your living situation may be a a decent thing sometimes. Not giving her your house street number too soon gives the illusion that the speed of the chase is slower than it really is, then she will not have to try to slow down the speed of the chase, and this may make the chase safer for the man. This may make asking her for a personal date on the telephone easier, because the speed of the relationship develoment is apparently a little slower. You will need to get her real home address first. An example third texting
session: "..., My street name is Spring Road, Spokane. Tell me the street name of your house?", "_ ... .", "Tell me the street name where your house is on, dear?", "First Street.", Tell me the number of your house?" , "_ ... .", "Tell me your house street number; I want to see it on the internet?", "54. Tell me yours?", "Thank you for telling. Your address is 54 First Street, Spokane?", "Yes. Tell me yours?", "I will tell later. I can see the house on online map. Tell me the colours of the front of your house?", ... . You have been chasing her and asking her for her telephone number for about three months just after professional meetings, because of this chase she has it good and is well flattered; for this reason avoid giving your house number until she is ready to give the first live personal meeting (date).
Some say for safety reasons meet for the first personal date only in public places, but girls usually do not meet men at public places by themselves. Besides, making the man meet in a public place for first date may not be respectfull to him. If you say let us meet at a public place like a restaurant for the first date, this says that you are not trusted, and this relationship is not well. The first date should start at her home door, your door, or at her workplace; preferably at her door. You need to take her by the hand figuretively speaking to go on the first personal date; starting from her front foor and ending the date at her front door. Do not start the personal date by meeting at a public place. To avoid a no show for the first personal date, do not start the date by meeting at a public place. Starting the first personal date a her home front door rather than at a public meeting place: helps avoid a no show in public place, gives you better respect, is a greater privilege and you will feel better about it. Examples to her home telephone: wrong way: "This is Johnathan. May I speak to Jane?", ..., "Can we meet this Friday (two days from now) at 2:00 in the afternoon at the main door of department store X?, "Yes.", she will probably be a no show there; a better way: "This is Johnathan Doe. May I speak to Jane Susan?", ..., "Can we meet Friday (five days from now) in the afternoon?", "Sure.", "Would 2:00 in the afternoon be fine?", "Yes .", "What place can I get you from for this meeting?", "My place .", ... .
Honesty May Be The Best Policy
For personal dating, honest may be the best policy. The honest dating sites and without corporate advertisements have the best results that one has to pay to use fully; using the right colours, font types and honest words; even for getting electronic mails from women without your profile photographs. The online dating sites that worked best not using the wrong words that can be disrespectfull even to the slightest degree. Honesty is usually best, but you cannot allow her to see you get sexually intimate with other girls online or vice versa. Women prefer interaction with people who want to talk rather than those that have to talk like advertisements. Complimenting on her looks after a medical professional meeting may be just enough to avoid a nasty verbal rejection of you as a sweetheart later. Be honest as you dare can, that protocol and manners expectations allows, and without being hurtfull. What happens if she is bluntly honest or too honest; should one do the same? Probably not; is always bettter not to reveal your preferences in people and your dislikes to strangers. An example: "I am looking for: I am looking for a 30 to 40 year old man; 5' 8" to 6', with a university degree.", "I am age is fifty and 5' 6" tall. I was looking for a thirty year old blond girl.". This may be fair in private, one on one, but not to public. If she did not reveal her preferences in men, then do not reveal your preferences in women to her.
Being A Good Host
When having a party or starting other meetings with women be a good host. Showing your hosting skills will surely win you points toward a possible fiance status with her. Do name introduction with her at family parties or meetings. Do not walk away from her for about twenty minutes to be with your friends in another room at parties. Make sure she gets her meals at family parties. Pay the expenses for the personal date with her. On professional meetings at a restaurant request to pay for her drink or meal there regardless of what you expect her to say after. At or after any meetings with any woman especially with her do not let her walk alone in the dark evening streets, parking lot or field, but request to watch her until her automobile starts, until she has entered the building, until she was handed to her female friends or until she has entered the city bus. When she walks toward your table at a restaurant stand up, greet and show her her seat (chair) then; have the confidence to introduce her to others at the table if any. Open doors for her and let her enter public building first. Let older people near you enter the building or city bus first, then her, then you. On personal date walk beside her when possible on street side walks; avoid walking in front of her for too long of a time. When you have a professional meeting like in a grocery store do not run away and hide, but find her and make sure she gets to the required locations there.
When walking on the city side walk with a lady or approaching a lady on a narrow side walk, the man must take the more dangerous side (nearest to the automobiles) of the walk; when walking on a country road, walk on the left side of the road and walk on the more dangerous side of the walk; when walking on the stairs with a lady, the man walks on the more dangerous side of the walk. Galantry when you have to is a sure way of getting a lady for sweetheart.
Getting Aquanted With Manners
It may be impolite to ask a woman a lot of questions without telling about your self, when she does not know you. If you do she might tell you to stop asking questions. Some women do not like to be interrogated or asked a lot of questions by someone she does not know well. This means you will have to answer the same questions you ask her then, and at first non-invited or non-personal encounter in person the maximum number of personal questions you can ask is four. Do not interrogate her with you only asking a lot of questions; instead have a two way conversation face to face, in person. I mean questions not required for the business or professional encounter. The maximum number of questions you can ask before the comsumation of the personal relationship is about fifteen. Your ninth or tenth question is for her voice home telephone number. Between the twelfth to fifteenth question you need to ask for her home street address or a personal date meeting. After the fifteenth question shared in person, you should have more command over her and the tone of the talks may be more intimate. The basic personal dating question topics you share may be on: age, marital status and number of children, school course, career information, where you were from and nationality(s), number of siblings, purpose of encounters, some favorite entertainment activities and artists, her real colour of hair, height, favorite clothing and perfume brands. Avoid asking too many questions about her recent activities such as in texting: what are you doing now, who are you with, what are your plans for the day, where are you going, what did you do in school today, do you remember me, how many men have you dated this week. Do not ask her awkward questions such as: "Do you have a sexually transmittable disease?", "Do you still sleep with your ex husband?" or ask for an open relationship at first encounter, because she does not know you yet. Seems not proper to ask a woman too many questions about her past.
Recording Her Telephne Number
A woman usually does not tell her home telephone number more than once. If you ask again this tells her that you have a poor memeory and that the number was not important. When you see or hear her telephone number even if you did not ask for it in person, then memorize the number. Do not have a piece of paper ready to record her number in front of her; this tells that you have a poor memory; memorize the number in your head, then take out paper from pocket only after she gave the number. Then record her name and conatact information on a piece of paper in private; you will probably forget all the details in a month. By ready to avoid this mistake: need to practice to memorize names with telephone numbers; here is how: take a telephone book, glance at a name and number for less than three seconds, close your eyes and repeat the telephone number two to four times in your mind. Try again with a few other numbers.
The Love Letter and Poetic Communication
Write love letters to soften the heart of even the crankiest of girls. Poetry and song is sometimes a better way to communicate feelings and deeper throughts that plain English. Love poetry is a powerfull way of attracting a woman or rewarding a woman for her romantic loyalty to you, and is very complimenting and may be a precious gift to the person who receives it. It also tells your level of communication ability and some woman probably appreciate this in a man. Your love letter and poetry will be remembered by her for decades long after her own children have left home. Love poetry or love letter to her may even sometimes be expected like other ladies get. How to write poetry or love poetry to a girl who no longer responses to your texting, telephone calls or door bell rings to perhaps get a response again. Love letters are usually written when the relationship has not gone well and a well written one may bring some people to tears. A good love letter accurately conveys your true feelings, and subconsiously convinces her to accept you as a sweetheart or at least make the face to face chase easier for you. See results using love poetry (great communicaitons skills) online. Write fabulous love leters that improve the chances of neutral or positive response from her when physical meetings is not currently possible and when the sweetheart relationship status with her is uncertain. Write love letter to help reduce the chances of her chasing other men for romantic encounters too soon to gain time to save the relationship. If you are good in language, the love letter may be used to help avoid cheating (her seeking romance and intimacy with other men) to gain courtship time for developing trust, confidence in you and to test your allegiances of you without begging for acceptance. A love letter is likely to be stored in a safe place, read at least twice, and remembered briefly at least once a year. A well written love letter is likely to be remembered briefly at least once a week for a while and so is a great prelude to face to face personal advances. The reason for the rejection or no reply is that the written communications to woman was inadequate. The grammar was not excellent enough, letter content amount may be too low, letter content may be wrong and love letter format was incorrect. You assumed that she knew you by your culture, and academic or prefessional meetings with her. She may be physically attracted to you and making personal advances in a cold, conceited, nonchalant and/or lighthearted way without first stating your love and committment to her in a proper love letter may be emotionally repugnant to her and may lead to your rejection. The personal advances must be done in a warm, affectionate way with a love letter. You need to learn how to write love letters. In electronic mail, love lettes must be separate from business communications or similar messages; and sending you personal questions within a medical report letter is definately forbidden. It must not be attached to negative information of previous letter. Keep love electronic mail by itself and separated business text or other previous texts. Do not include personal communications or love letter with business, professional and especially medical information and other problem information in the same electronic mail letter; send love letter or personal communication on a new page(s) by itself in a separate envelope or send; not doing so may risk rejection. When reponding to her personal electronic mail or mail, or to ask her a personal question do not include her text, other people's text, professional text and logos in it; it may be too personal, poorly written and too much information at once, and she may be imbarrased of it. The love letter must be respectfull, genuine and accurate. When in a professional or business relationship with her, do not ask personal questions or send love notes on the same document or electronic mail as professional talk that might have to be shared, these letters are part of the professional records mentally; keep personal talk and questions separate from professional talk in separate sents or mail envelopes; business is a little risky, keep personal talk separate from professional letters and interaction. A woman usually does not answer personal questions during a professional transaction such as: "Hello. I am here to prepare my unemployment benefits application. How was your holiday trip?". Avoid blending personal talk with a professional meeting or talk; business is a little risky in her point of view; always ask personal questions or do the personal chat immediately before or after the business or professional meeting in person. Make sure love email (letter) text does not contain even minute negativity and problems about you such as from previous email. Do not remind of negativity of previous communication. Do not repeat mistakes of previous communications that led to rejection. For example, if you were talking to a nurse about your medical condition(s) on email; do not reply with this content with personal communications; start with a new blank email for personal talk. Do not remind of your problem but keep quiet as if problem was solved or being solved. Professional electronic mail is considered a low level personal relationship and may not even be a personal relationship, and so you should never ask her personal questions within a professional electronic mail; you must get the respect and privilage of asking her personal questions in person (face to face) as her male coworkers have. You are not suppose to ask personal questions from a woman by email or post letter, but if you must here are some letter formats. Letter A as email is the wrong way to ask for personal information from a woman; it contains business information text and some negative information. The low cost inserted paragraph of personal communications not in proper format in letter A will not do; you have to show that you tried hard to get her. Letter B is a better way for asking for personal information from a woman; it does not have any information about business activities, negative information about you, but the personal question is preceded by sufficient personal information about you, but letter B may not be eough to get a response. Note that the prsonal question can only be asked after the the fifth personal question. You can only ask important personal question after about five verbal personal sentences. If there is enough personal information about you is sufficient, then asking the question becomes easier or feel more appropriate to ask. Letter C is more detailed, shows more effort to get her on your part, and may have a better chance of getting a positive reponse than letter B. Write without ambiguity, write throuroughly with complexity like in letter C to reduce the chances of verbal rejection as a sweetheart, to trump manipulations using official moods and excuses not to date. Give compliments to girl in new love letter, state your committment to her in some way, tell more positive things about you to girl, use poetry to communicate, request for meeting. Poetry can convey thoughts and feelings more easily with normal and be less blunt than just plain talk. Do not tell negative things such as: I was lonely, or beg by using the word "please"; be honest as you can be and clear as you can without imbarrasing and belittle-ing yourself. Do not mention past negative experiences or uncomfortable text of previous email with her in the new love letter; say something different about yourself, like starting over again. Write sentences in high love letter format; if it does not sound right (too simple and primitive), repair it. Written personal communications must be written in high quality love letter format without other communcations (business) texts. Do not use lower level English or slang; your intuition should tell you that the grammar is correct for the occasion. Do not use word abbreviations in any letter. This should increase your confidence in meeting her. Some like only first name in salutation while others prefer their full name, depending how well she knows you; if she does not you, you use here full name initialy in salutation; this may give her a little more respect. To improve your image do not use sentence lengths that are to short, and too ambiguous like this: "I would lie to get to know you."; instead use at least forteen words per sentence like this: "I would like to get to know you a lttle more; perhaps tell me where you are from.". Make the love email letter with a background graphics to make it look more expensiver, with soft colours and shapes to set mood and ambiance of love letter. The background is warm colour or graphics. Women can be easily swayed by moods produced by colours and shapes in your media, so use images and colours to your advantage, The love letter requires the proper fonts written in Italics and sentence spacing (double spacing). A masculine font Times New Roman in Italic form may be best, for difficult talk do not use another font, perhaps Arial font; it is authoritive and its Italics form gives a personal touch, to produce a warm authoritive, serious look and feel. Standard font size (Word document size 12) worked best; larger font size like 14 looks like yelling, and smaller like Tahoma 10 is too small too see clearly and looks too weak. Masculine Times New Roman or Arial font is used for technical writing and business. Use double spacing between sentence lines to make the letter easy to read. The proper love letter contains the following sentences and paragraphs in this order: salutation, state true purpose of letter without offending her or making her feel uncomfortable, mention good experience you had with her, tell a little more about yourself, focus paragraph which focuses only on her and do not talk about anything else in this paragraph, poetry and compliments, paragraph stating your actions you are going to do concerning this relationship if any, request paragraph, signature, photograph, date, your return address. Your signature, photographs, home address and telephone number are your verfication information to help foster trust in you. Your signature must be hand written for easier verification; try signing on a small portable networks graphics picture for insert into email letter. The love poetry should be honest; do not overdo the praise and compliments; if you tell her she is great and does not believe it, then she may feel awkward. The love poetry can be praise, compliments to her and thoughts of love making a sweet and romantic love letter, and I bet you it will be stored in a a safe place and read at least twice, and someday she and some other women wished that their husbands had talked like that. The poetry can be make the compliments less erotic and more respectful. Poetry can also increase the intensity, strength, or truthfullness of feelings you are writing about, so be carefull; use cheerfull words to reduce the intensity of sadness. When you meet a new woman you want to know her intensions such as what does she want, is she available, does she like me? Similarly a girl wants to know your intensions with her. In the state your purpose paragraph, tell the why, how, when, where of the relationship and type of relationship, so she knows she is not getting the old relationship that she does not want. The strength poetry must match the strength of the relationship; in a starting relationship the thought must be mild. The love letter must convey love and respect; make sure any compliments are not too erotic and sentences do not contain even small conotations of sex. Do not say something funny or tell a joke, and send her into laughter; jokes are based on trajedy, perhaps your trajedy. Do not belittle yourself in any way, do not bow, do not make formal request for priviliges as if she is better than you but talk as equals; you do not want to set your self open for disrespect. Do not use information as arguments and reasons to be together in the first love letter; only you can feel how much information about you is too much to give at this time; you may need to include at least four sentences of new information; do not try too hard. Do not mention or include previous text in email that is negative. If you have difficulty of writing the love letter and relationship problems, end it upbeat. One advantage of email personal communications is that it can have graphics to set mood and ambiance, can be clearer, more complex than telephone talk, and is more permanent than speech. Actions speak louder than words; instead of saying many promises and apologies; just say and do what is required. This preferably should be to her home, not workplace. All personal communications or courtship like marital status questions by email or mail with someone you allready know a little must be preceeded with a formal or proper love letter which must not contain business, professional, or medical content. Not doing so, may lead to rejection. If she says nothing after sending the email love letter, this may be a good indication, she is respecting your feelings and not reminding you of the nasty rejection you got from her; then try writing another love letter that is more elaborate, but not too soon. If there was no negative verbal response; you should attempt a face to face talk or her home telephone if you do not have a home contact address. If she does not answer the second attempt, increase the time periods between next attempts so that you do not become a nuisance. A proper love letter format for after the first face to face meeting. To get a neutral response from a lover letter it may have to be at least four pages long for double spaced sentence lines. She may be physically attracted to you but not intellectually, and when you try asking personal questions or make personal advances in a cold and conceited, nonchalant, or seemingly lighthearted way this may be emotionally repugnent to her. In such a case personal advances must be done in a warm (affectionate) way and with respect with specific words. These words convey affection, lovalty, warmth and/or promise. Some of these words are: dear, darling, love, sweety, hon, honey, beloved. These are words that open doors. Examples: "How are you today dear?", "offcourse darling", "yes, love", "Hello Susan sweety". Always salute a letter to the opposite sex with the words: "Dear", "Dear Jane", "Dear Jane Doe", or "My dearest _"; you never know that you might be interested later. Using her full name in salutation in love letter may sound more respectful like this: "Dear Jane Doe:".To many of these words in a talk can be seductive and may make a woman feel sad or uncomfortable if personal relationship have not gone well before. In some cases like live talk or texting, if she likes you this may cause some women to initiate love talk. Seduction can be used to overcome resistance to your personal advances. Use the Adobe portable document format pdf.) for love letter; it is more difficult to falsify and alter on route. The words "my" and "your" in the phrases: "My Dear Jane Susan:", "Your love John Doe.", "Can you be my dates next this?" may increase the strength of the bond whether she realizes it or not; you may feel this before you meet face to face. Try to use the word "my" or "your" at least once later in the talks or personal letters. A letter is a window to a man's mind, so neatness and organization of love letter and online profile counts: the format should be neat and organized, use a font and font size of the same size throughout letter. For a man choose masculine. mature and romantic colours; plain white background is best for online first contact. Use proper or high level language with paragraphs organized into topics or toughts; online profile providers tend to place information and advertisements scattered on the page making the page look a little disorganized. Do not combine the love letter or profile with business (medical) letter in the same letter and envelope. Do not display your username and web address as title, because these may look a little unusual and slang-ish. In any letters or online public dating profiles to the ladies do not include any text that are contrary to this cause such as other peoples texts and names; business text, government text with dating policies, medical records, your legalize marguana selling at grocery store cause, any text that can remind her of your problem; keep the textx focused on you and the girl(s), keep personal courtship talk separate (in separate letter) from other communications. Keep business letters in proper business format to her with no personal talk; keep personal talk in separate letter and in proper love letter format here, unless the business is realy good news such as you just earned $5 million, made a $100 million business contract. No bad or mediocre business news in love letters such as "I still did not find paid work as a computer technician".
Power personal letter or mild love letter to get a response from her, but the response may be stressfull emotionally and not positive for you, but is not a verbal rejection as a sweetheart. Still it is a response; the trick is to turn it in your favor with words. This personal letter is closely related to the past with her; in fact the past is the main content of this personal letter. It contains references to a past activity but the activity must not contain anything negative about you. It is not common, familiar, blunt, cocky and does not have trivial talk; meaning do not treat her as a friend now. It is written and send between one to two years after initial personal contacts. It was hand written with clear print; if you can hand print very clearly and neatly is better for love letters. Business, professional or school work must never be hand written, except for big business deals. Perhaps she has been on and off your mind for about a year and a half; after sending this letter you find out she perhaps a child if true and you dare not sound common and familiar by inquiring further about her situation; the mistake was not talking more at her response. This personal letter does not expressly or bluntly say want you want with her; you talk normally like in real life, but leaving unsaid hints of your personal intentions. There was no previous rejection of you as a sweetheart, and relationship is very uncertain. An improved power personal letter may produce positiver results for you, but it should be sent within a half to one year of initial contacts instead; waiting too long could result in her getting another man for her.
Good communications skills like listening, understanding and writing are very important in leadership roles such as in engineering, science and politics.Women very likely love great communication skills in a man, in fact it can drive a sweetheart or wife dotty (starts lovey dovy talk, enamored for you, wants to move into your place). So brush up on you college level writing skills, write the love letter or business letter in proper format. Capitalize the first letter of each sentence and people's names, use question mark "?" after each question sentence. If great commuincation skills can drive the instincts and intuition of a sweetheart dotty, then perhaps it can warm the heart of a woman who had rejected you as a sweetheart. Instincts and intuition says great communication skills in a man means career success and key to solving most engineering problems. Write clearly, avoid abiguity in sentences and give more than enough information to get the message to her. The longer the length of the love letter, the better or more she is impressed subconsiously; but use a reasonable length (less then twenty full pages four double spacing between sentences) offcourse. When possible each sentence should not be less than five words long; example: "How are you today, Jane Susan?", "How is work at your restaurant?". Each paragraph of your talk or love letter should not have less than three sentences long if possible; where each paragraph is about one topic; example: "I drove my automobile to travel to the local grocery store in Spokane this morning. In this grocery store I bought a ten kilogram plastic bag of potatoes and a litre of sunflower cooking oil. I wanted to make some French fried potatoes in my kitchen at home today.".
You do not want to sound like a "dirty old man "online; then write a nice, intelligent, sincere love letter with prestige like a king without mentioning sex at this time to a younger woman with greater chances of a positive reply to you. For this reason, using adult dating sites should be avoided; being personally involded like this in adult sites usually has the least results of chat.
Online women seem to love poetry; they are attracted to it; it can be the difference of getting a few electronic mails per month from women to none. If though you do not have her real name and location it is better than none. Poetry can convey thoughts and feelings better than plain language can. They seem to prefer men that can communicate well, especially by poetry; the poetry also shows your intellectual skills. You must understand the woman's mind: she is the physically weaker sex, she has the most to loose when the man leaves her and so needs to be consoled with pleasant words like poetry before making herself available no matter how great the man is. Poetry adds a touch of softness, gentleness, humanity to your intimidating stature and aggressive chase for a sweetheart. Keep the poetry or love poetry topics simple. Avoid acting silly or ir sentences in joke form, do not make yourself a laughing show online; that is keep it dignified. The poetry must not be part of your life story in poetry form especially if there was some negativity. Keep the topics neutral or positive. Do not mention another woman's name, names of other people, names of cities, name of a business in it. The poetry should be only about you and her, your throughts; three to five sentences should be enough. Keep adoration words to her realistic; that is do not call her super woman when she is not. When you do not have much (power, money, youth, large muscles) to show off, or your credentials are too serious and official, poetry or love poetry may be used to attract women.
Other Requirments and Rules
Put a good foot forward, show some effort for her: do not wear clothes that are too faded, wrinkly, torn old clothes, and uncombed, greasy hair; looking unkept like a homeless person shows you did not make any effort to change your clothes for her or for anyone else, or care how people think about you. Get better control of your hair; combed hair can make some older men look younger.
How well you dress may show the degree of interest in the woman; if you made a low effort to look presentable this may show no interest, so make sure that you hair, clothes and shoes do not look unkept.
Show your face: shave off that big beard and take off that hat. There were some women who never know how their bearded husbands or brother in law really look like. As you get older, your eye brow hair and nose hair may grow longer; trim these to your previous sizes. If your hair is really grey and you do not feel like your age; dye you hair to your natural hair colour.
Showing courtesy and manners may also show interest for her and may help improve the relationship. Courtesies like: opening doors, stand up when she approaches, guide her to her chair and let her sit down first, let her do the activity first. Let ladies and old people go first through doors.
If you are really interested in her for marriage you must attempt to make the next meeting time to show interest. You may complain you have not talked (verbally connect) with a woman for a decade; some men may have girls chasing them using live texting and the like; a secret of getting women is to go out of the house and make personal talks with them.
When asking for a meeting or date, do not be too ambiguous; tell the information required: where, when, what you will be doing. If she asks why you may have to be more blunt; tell why.
Show masculinity: do not not wear anything that are reserved for a woman like ear rings, pink clothes, trench coat that is too long; rain coat should be above the knee. Wear clothes that are fully masculine for men which aslo does not hide your gender too much.
Do not criticize, make fun of or put down any culture, group, object, race, or talk about your dislikes in anyway; you do not know if she is one of them.
Fresh breath is a must; brush teeth, floss and gargle with mouthwash before the date. Make sure that there will be no food stains on your shirt; you cannot be the life of the party when you have ketchup stains on your shirt. Use small amounts of mild shampoo to clean dandruf and check you hair for dandruf before leaving home.
Be attentive. Think about what needs to be done and said before hand for the date. An easy to get and nice love life is only in the movies, romance novels and in your dreams; performing a difficult chase may not be that pleasant for you. Follow the dating rules, protocols and expectations; not doing so may perhaps make her feel uncomfortable or insult her.
Be gentle, but strong. If she gives a handshake, give a super firm and strong handshake and not a whimpy hand; this will show that you are about three times stronger than her. The tone of your voice should depend on the message; if you are trying to give command, the voice should be loud and firm; if you are trying to sound composed, the voice would be lower and slower; if you are trying to be romantic, the voice would be softer and with deeper tone.
At the end of a first date, try a soft kiss that only slightly touches the corner of her mouth. With that you will be teasing her and getting her to see you as a gentleman, thus leading to hours of talk about you to her best friend(s) or sister(s). Only a short kiss is allowed on the first date, and keep your head straight in these matters to excert dominance. The kiss indicates that you are more than just a school friend. A kiss is like a small but permanent bond that may help strengthen the relationship.
Getting What You Want By Saying Compliments
Telling her how wonderful she looks one or three times in one evening will ensure a flirty and fun date for you. Telling her a compliment about her looks, following this guideline, developing trust in you and nurturing this relationship should make it go on its own. A few say giving here compliments on her looks did not get her telephone number, but giving an honest compliment on her looks after getting her contact information usually helps get my or your way eventually. If you want to keep an attractive woman, get her home street address as soon as possible, and do not tell her that she is looks beautiful before getting her real home street address; let her act (two way chat) like a normal girl for a while. You may want to avoid giving compliments on her looks too soon; you may try to tell how beautiful she is after the first in person kiss; for some reason about one third of girls play even harder to get if you compliment on her looks. Giving too much candy (attention on bended knee, compliments, flattering chases, treating her like a princess, sweet poetry) to her she may play hard to get even more; why buy the automobile while she can get the automobile rides for free?; especially if the personal relationship is not doing well; developing trust and love for you takes chat and time anyways. You may want to give her compliments to bring her to you standards to help assure her of your interest in her; example: "I like the way you look; girls like you are my favorite types.". Avoid complimenting on her looks and telling that she is the one until after sharing your full home street address or until after the live first personal date. Give compliments to her like telling how lovely she looks or say you love her hair if you have her street address or are eady to take her home. Was said that this may be used to get instant gratification at her home in person; with these rules offcourse. You do not have to over do it by complimenting here twenty times on a date. Do not use her weaknesses to your advantage, but exentuate her positives. Give her compliments so there is not thought in her mind that you are taking advatage of her weaknesses. It is all about timing and positive talk; asking too early you will not get it; you have to go by her behaviour, your feel and intellect; some may take one day while others ten months of steady courtship. If you tell her she looks great and that she is the one too soon, she may not try as hard to respond to you calls. Example texting: "Hello Jane Susan. How do you do today at home? Online friends are only page links from before we met. I still live in Spokane, and I am still single. Beauty; talk to me again. Johnathan Doe, Spokane, 34654."; will this work?
Some may say in the workplace, mall or streets, young or attractive women get a lot of attention or chases from men; and revealing your feelings to her or telling her that she is the one, or tell her that she is beautiful too soon is usually not a good idea. She needs to get accustomed to you in her life. She may not understand compliments, and then plays hard to get even more. The one who has the greater interest in the relationship usually has the disadvantage. Learn how to get her as a sweetheart even if your interest for her is greater than vice versa.
Be a gentleman or soft spoken: do not use swear words, slang, be cranky all the time, get angry at you computer,
or do not talk about sex with mixed company. If a woman is interested in you and you talk about sex a lot online, you appear just to only want sex and you are not serious about this relationship, it may actually make her unhappy. Do not ask for sex too early, that is before she talks lovy dovy talk to you live, initializes intimate talk live, and when she wants to move into your place. Do not ask for sex or start sexual talk online; you cannot get it then and you can change your image too early. Using the poper writing format and grammar tends to make talk gentler.
Get Chatty, Girls Seem To Like It
For women, sweetheart love is talking, usually not sex; for men this is almost the opposite, men prefer action in person, her courage to meet you face to face rather than talk. How to get a woman to chase you or girl write you letters: get chatty in person, talk a lot, start talks that appeal to women; showing your thoughts opens door to relationship with talk. Show interest in that person. Women have difficulty in resisting long friendly chat, but the chat has to have some content, offcourse. To help a failing relationship, start long chat. Great communicaton skills in a man tells her instincts and intuition that he is likely good in his career and in problem solving, and a nice talk and his great writing skills may drive a sweetheart dotty for her man. Start personal chat that is not required for the professional meeting. Hang out (spend time) with you sister's female friend with sister and be chatty at age forteen to perhaps get sweethart status like love note from girl. When you have the physical ability to meet in persoan, these chats must be done, live, face to face, in person. Try to get chatty on at least three occasions, but not try to talk everyday, do chase as sweetheart at her pace, do not tell all about you now; try to share contact information, pass the four most important tests mentioned here below, and then wait for her to call you or send you a love letter.
Eat late, about: 7:00 am, 1:00 pm, 7:00 pm; this evens time intervals between meals; this will sustain your strength in the morning to increase romance and reduce the stress of the chase.
If you have a dog or cat, clean after them each day; keeping your home and yard guest ready will improve the quality of you life and neighbourhood. If she wants to visit; you do not want hours rushing to clean and tidy your house.
Avoid the Personal Relationship Problems of Ambiguity
Be honest as you can possibly be. Honesty is the best policy; by honest as you dare can, as protocol allows, offcourse without hurting people's feelings. Imply the truth by not saying things you do not mean. For example do not say to her: "congratulations on your engagement with Mike" while your feelings mean just the opposite, or not say "the school party was great", but you were actually unhappy because the girl was connecting with some other man. Dave and you were not getting any contact information. Do not tell, imply or show that something is true when you are not sure that it is true such as the low cost nine volt battery is super power when it is relatively not; this my help improve your confidence a little. When it comes to love and personal relationships, people sometimes do not tell their true feelings.
Avoid excepting a personal relationship or a large business deal on a terminal or computer screen if it will not lead to face to face meetings, unless there is not other way to you; get face to face or physical contact as soon as possible; to show courage and receive respect.
Do Not Shoot Yourself In The Foot in Dates
If you have a meeting with a woman you are interested in and the meeting did not go well personally do not allow her to walk away from you with another man who is not her relative after meeting; get a meeting alone with her; except if you have no other choice. Mainly, do not put yourself in a situation with her where you know something (another relationship) is going to happen that you do not like. If something concerning the both of you happened that did you did not like and getting upset, the chances of failure and your rejection is much greater. If she wants to bring a coworker that is also a trainee to your meeting with her you should say no if you have a choice, except if saying no will hurt her feelings, so she walks away alone from you after this meeting. If she wants the bring a friend of a plutonic relationship to the date and you are really interested in her, say no; you should not drop her off at her house with a male friend that will enter her house that is not her relative after the date is over if this is your wish. Take the lead in the relationship and do not reduce the chances of verbal intimacy with her by distractions and lack of time. Do not allow her to date two men at the same time on same date by allowing her to bring another sweatheart to the date if you have the power to do so. This may make it harder for you to get her to answer your telephone call. This may sound harsh and unfriendly, but you must make this relationship a priority in the meetings. If she wants to bring her mother to this meeting, do not hurt her feelings by saying no.
Show Courage To Be Just Personal
Do not use excuses or business reasons to see a girl; it does not look very couragous and brave. Do not break your leg so you can talk to that cute nurse in the medical clinic; do not join a bank so that you can talk to that cute teller again and again; what you should have done is introduce yourself, ask her for her full name, and have some chat initially in the first place. You need to show courage and confidence and be there just for her without other excuses to be at her work place. If you see a girl unexpectantly and you want her, do not use your work to get near her; just approach her and follow the telephone number getting routine here. Do not combine personal advances attempt with business or professional activity; ask for a date during a seperate courship event; you have to show courage and confidence by doing personal advances on its own; on other words do not use excuses to get access to a girl. You should have no excuse or reason to see friends, family or potential sweethearts. The fastest and best way to get a girl is just to go on the streets, mall ,and not use business or professional meetings to get near women. If you are unhappy using business meetings to be near her or other girls; end her business as soon as possible and then only make personal contact with her. If you hear your favorite woman entering the work place, do not use an excuse like a piece of work to get to her area; instead just walk into the room, take a short look and when she looks at you say hello to her; you may not get a great response from her and feel a little foolish here, but this sets you subconsiously for a chance as a sweetheart with her. When you hear some women or girls talk outside your house, do not take the garbage out or start the lawn sprinkler as an excuse to see them and to be seen, instead walk out without carrying this object, take a short look to be seen, and if you see an opportunity to say hello do so. When you have to be a sugar daddy (give money and gifts), give her a job or please her material wants to get meetings with her, run. When you have to be a sugar daddy (give money and gifts) or give her a job to get meetings with her, you need to test her motives before opening your heart to her; right? Avoid business or professional meetings as the main reason of being together if the personal relationship does not seem to be there; once you have her contact information try to minimize the number of professional meetings and professional talk with her. You are age fifty and with an oversized business suites your were husbanding a professional relationship with her for three to six months on the hopes of getting a personal relationship with her later, but later you find out that she is not interested in you or is not available as a sweetheart; broken hearted, imbarrased and/or humiliated you walk away; this is not how the get a girl for a sweetheart; and you may feel this when you do it. This is how you do it: go visit her in person without any reasons other than to see her and to start a personal relationship, follow these dating rules; starting a personal relationship is more difficult than making professional meetings or help, you must show your courage, confidence and power the initiate a personal relationship with a woman face to face anywhere. Of you have business or professional meetings with woman you want, complete the business with her as soon as possible and try to get her contact information. Once you got her contact information do not use further business or professional meetings to be with her; have only personal meetings and personal talks only; do a quick and surprise visit so that she does not have a chance to hide; this is called the "Flying Below the Radar and Surprise Chase".
I believe women like to have access to the man they like or want even if she does not show it or says so; access to his house, contact list, wallet, she may ask question about him from him. Always include (repeat) your full contact address to each email or post letter you send her as an access means. If she asks for money or a birthday gift you may have to give her some if you believe she is serious about this relationship.
Do not arrive to the meeting too early; perhaps there were some things going on there that were not meant for you to see, or she may not be ready and an early arrival could disrupt her work. You were not meant to see her previous date, perhaps. No more than twenty minutes early. Do not arrive late, not even one second late; make certain; this lost point may be difficult to remove and may increase the chances of rejection later.
One could walk on busy downtown streets very slowly and when arriving at the area where the girls are one would pause walk. When you walk, walk in a dignified way; but to do not woddle, limp, or walk too stiff (hide your natural body movements), this shows that you are feeling humble and under confident. Now you will give them attention: the front of your body will be pointing in their direction or general (close as possible) direction. Stand straight; do not look down for too long of a time. Look at them and keep them into your field of view. Walk into their audio range. If you do it right you can make them not leave the area too soon for you. Do nothing else but be there just for them, and say to your self once: "I do not need an excuse or logical reason to be with them; is my priviledge to attempt to start a relationship". Then if you have the courage do the getting her name and telephone number routine.
To get faster and better sweetheart status with her do not set up a business meeting to be near her. Instead directly go to her workplace or home just to get her name and home telephone number. To show your confidence and no fear of her, do not use work, pretend work or professional meeting to get to her area and see her. Offcourse you will have to gain confidence to do it. Here is an example at her work place a public library: go to her work place, try to enter the place legally; if not possible make sure she can see and/or hear you outside her workplace, glance at her, wait while not doing any business, you may be imbarased to wait but you will have to get use to chases, she will give you legal access, when she comes near, intercept and do the getting her home telephone number routine mentioned here. "Hello. My name is Johnathan. I remember your name.", ..., "May I have your home telephone number?", "Yes. 341 1234.".
To start a relationship man must be able to start the personal chat in person, live, face to face with her that is not required for the professional or academic meeting. Getting to know each other verbally: do greetings, share three to six personal questions, sharing contact informations.
A Dating Goal
A woman responses most favorably to advances when she is the only woman in the place and especially in her own place. A woman is more tranquil, energized, humble and receptive at her home than at the workplace, or shopping mall. If you can get her home street address you are probably halfway there, and when she lets you through her door your are probably three quarters the way there and the most difficult and risky part of the chase is over. Allowing you at her home with just the two of you, both single, beginner sweethearts is pretty close to a serious relationship with her. Use her home telephone number not her business or professional telephone number if you do not have her home street address; people are more humble and tranquil in their own homes than at work place. Always try to get her home contact information rather than just workplace telephone number only. Always look her in the eyes when either one talks; looking into her eyes when talking makes a deeper connection which she probably enjoys; when having problems speaking to her, always look her in the eyes when talking and then for some more time; this will reduce the chances of rejection. Your dating goals is the get her home street address; this is an indication of the level or trust and respect for you. Getting her home telephone number and home street address directly from her hand specifically for you when you ask for it in person and face to face tells you where you stand as sweetheart and is usually in your favor. A dating goal is to get her home telephone number and home address directly from her hand which is a privilige only trusted men can get from her, and when you are trusted you are more likely to get what you want.
Make her believe that she is the only woman in your life and that without her you are just a lonely working boring man. Do not say that you are lonely, boring, mediocre or anything negative about yourself though; keep emotional talk more neutral in initial casual talk. When you have a professional or business relationship with her avoid telling her about your other people activties especially with other women even if you are not interested in her now; tell her only what she needs to know. She may have an inkling that you may have to take classes, but avoid telling her the details and comfirming it when she does not need to know, even if she asks, there will probably be other attractive women in classes. If she ask about your fun business activities with attractive women do not respond to question but change the subject and continue friendly chat. For example, do not say: "last night I, Susan, Gretta and Dave had computer classes to learn to use our new computer program; Susan and Gretta are good looking". Listen and look for clues that she does not want you to chase other women. Avoid flirting with other women in front of her. If you can manage this, get romantic and be chatty with her, then her sweet talk for you may reach your ears.
A dating goal is to make her want to move into your place or get a mattiage with you.
The most important part of dating or chasing women as sweetheart or fiance is getting her permanent home telephone number or home street address directly from her hand, and live, face to face and in person when possible and get her real name. All the talk at work with her, piano playing and jokes you say trying to impress her is all for nothing if you do not get this contact information.
Do not ask for her home telephone number or home address to soon in person or in texting, because asking for this level of intimacy too soon can be interpreted by her as impolite or rude. Always ask for her true home telephone number and home address as late as possible. Besides, for long distance relationship texting, her name and address are probably phoney.
Handling Her Fears, If Any
I am going to have to talk about the awfull reality of meeting new people. There was some talk: "do not talk to strangers", "do not meet people from the internet", but these rules are only mainly for childeren. You have to try to meet her at places where she feels safe. The place where you will meet is called the setting and you have the ability to set it up. You have to foster trust in you. Trust can only be developed with time and chat; but not hostile chat or talk about negative things. The chat should have some content. The topics should be mainly about you and her. You must convey to her that when the relationship does not go well, that you will not get angry and become a nuiscance such as smashing her window. After long chats in many contact attempts, you can share your home street address first with her. Always give your contact street address first. Then after some more chat you may be able to coax her home street address from her perhaps at the next meeting. You should be able to use you experience, intuition and by her behavior to feel when it is right moment to ask for her home street address.A woman will not be intimate with a man until she knows him and develops trust in in him; and time with chat will only do this. Despite of being lead to believe other wise, just like you adult women are not afraid of physical intimacies, talk, being pinched in the bum or your poverty. They are afraid of the violence, if any. If you can make her trust you; you can take her anywhere, anytime. Foster trust in you by giving your real full name, real telephone number and real home address, being upfront (honest) about yourself to her, avoiding communication methods that can be easily falsified. Use time between personal meetings to help foster trust in you, even if the meetings were poor on her part. Getting partial privacy: partial privacy is when others are well out of your talk space, others are around but they cannot hear what was said and do not exactly know what is going on; she feels save and you do not have to feel imbarrased of the difficult chase; she can start her sweet talk without worrying about other people's feelings. An apartment building has good partial privacy; there is no total isolation for her safety, but you got the privacy you want; men who live alone in apartment buildings are more likely to succeed. She may have fears such as fear of relationships, fear of love, fear of verbal intimacy, fear of being overwhelmed by visitors, fear of you becoming a nuisance boyfriend, fear you. A good way to deal with her fears if any, and to avoid a no show at public meetings later, or a brush off on the telephone are at the first encounters; at first encounter try: friendly greeting and introduction, have gentle personal chat, share a few personal questions, ask for her home telephone number and location of her place of work. Built trust in you and help reduce fears of you: avoid making her believe that you are one of those type of guy who loves violent movies, R (restricted) rated motion pictures and violent sports by not doing the getting her telephone number routines in the theatre during and after those type of shows.
What happens if she does not want to date your because she is affraid of sex and the baggage it might bring even if there was no intention for sex. You cannot control her throughts, but may be able to do something about this. Try this: do not talk about sex too soon, hide and disable the sexual content of your online dating profile if possible, avoid being too sexually revealing on your profile photographs; avoid saying cocky jokes, avoid acting like you are the greatest thing on earth like a peacock trying to attract mates; take it slow: reduce the number of call attempts per month but be persistent in call attempts that she will learn about. She may be afraid of a marriage, having children, afraid of sex even if there was no intention for sex by man. Then avoid talking about sex, hinting for sex, asking for sex too soon. Some women may feel that it is impolite for man to sexually arouse her when she does not know him; then if she likes you and you sense she wants to play hard to get then do not try to be too personal by not sitting too close to her too soon and making too much eye contact to soon; slow down the chase for her as girfriend.
Communicate clearly with no ambiguity, do not leave her guessing: all photographs must be labelled or titled in a simple way, and text clear, avoiding the wrong words in sentences online to improve the quality of the talk or relationship, to help increase your confidence, reduce the sting of rejection as sweetheart such as when she breaks the electronic mail link, your age range of you and improving the chances of getting what you want.
One online dating site says, meet you texting friends for the first time only in public places like a restaurant, but this mistrust for new man usually brings a no show at personal date in public place. To avoid a no show by local girl at personal date or meeting, do no schedule a meeting at a public place or to your place. Meeting in public space or your place usually has a success rate of less than 50%. You must build sufficient trust and respect for you to get yourself to her home front door by the required texting and telephone talks and sufficient talk time. We have been taught not to marry the person until after knowing this person for at least six months after first sight, and rightly so; trust in you can only develop with this time and personal talk.
Initially she was scared; then later she realizes that you cannot control her; that is what you need, make her feel at ease and in control of her self. Do not take food from her refrigerator, stay over night at her place or live at her place without clear verbal permission. Do not talk about sex or ask for sex too soon.
Do not reveal your financial status during the early stages of the courtship; for example if she asks for money, flight tickets or a ski trip do not say "I can not afford it", instead carefully skirt around the topic of money and change the conversation topic. Revealing your state of unemployment is just another point against you.
When a local woman trusts a man, feels comfortable with him and wants to visit his place; her main motives for meeting will probably be to make a verbal and emotional connection, a long term exclusive bond. When she is able and decides to visit your place or to give you a telephone call, nothing will get in her way: long travel distance, bad automobile drivers on the streets, cold wheather, fear of relationships, fear of love will not stop her. Be chatty, keep talk neutral or upbeat, be a good host. The visit date must be exclusive that is only you and her there (house). See how to make her want to visit you like this just after first personal encounter. At first encounter, wears nice clothes, and is chatty with her gets the girl(s). The personal chat during the getting her home telephone number routine is not less than twenty minutes in duration. After sharing telephone numbers here request her to telephone you.
Most of the time, the closer you are physically and emotionally to her the harder it is to get a date or start a relationship. That is why you should say only what is needed, say only what is required to get those dates, do not reveal anything negative about your self and do not talk about sex. Women like the talk and romance but avoid sex with new men, so try to make her believe that you are not after sex with her. You should hide or de-emphasize your high level work skills, authority, stern and official demeanor, pretend talk. The rest is mainly lovy dovy behaviour: hand playing and tickling; smiles, hugs, gazing into her eyes, a kiss; sweet talk, small talk; holding hands while walking; honest expressions of affection. You should de-emphasize external influences and focus on the both of you at meeting.
Stay disiplined: "keep you nose the the grind wheel" (keep working on your goals). Do not let yourself melt away into quietness, introversion and slacking off (not doing your daily requirments or work). This may help you get in person dates with women easier. Women can probably detect you are slacking or giving up on your tasks easier than you think. Accelerate the speed of your career or business development. You will need decent wages to sustaiin a marriage.
Do not let her meet your family too soon especially your brothers; families can sometimes be uncomfortable, and letting her date more than one man (you and brothers) at the same time and place is usually not a good idea either.
What happens if you are attracted to a girl or you want her, and you are not her type or she is not attracted to you; what should you do? Perhaps you are too old or too stark in personality. Perhaps she is scared of you and has no sweetheart feeling for you. You cannot make her love you or like you as a sweetheart. Perhaps she is physically attracted to you but has no feeling for you. You cannot control her feelings for you, but perhaps you can make yourself more physically attractive to her. She can care for you, but still not be attracted to you and have feelings for you as a sweetheart. Perhaps she has physical attracted to you but cannot like you as a person. Perhaps she believes she is intellectually superior to you; she has a university degree and you are only a welder. You cannot control her feelings and thoughts, and make her fall in love with you, but you can make yourself more physically, emotionally and intellectually attractive to her; find out what she likes. There is no way you can replace her favorite man or men; all you can do is make yourself more physically, emotionaly and intellectually atractive to her. If you do not feel you are her type watch your hair; you might want to change your hairstyle, perhaps to something less corny.
Perhaps a shaven head is not for you and you may require and inch or two of extra hair length.
She only partially likes him. She may call him on the telephone and call him a name behind his back. She can go out on a date with him with her "kicking and screaming" (upset for a reason uncertain to you). How do you get a date with a girl who only partially likes you. Try being chatty, give a friendly talk face to face. Your behaviour should be more genuine and truthfull without sounding too repugnant (too sexual, mean); show just the right amount of genuineness. He may sound a little dumb, but he seems directional.
To avoid an online quick and painful rejection (electronic mail to her being blocked), it is important that your online profile photograph(s) is of good quality and that you are satisfied with it. You may not be photogenic and you may look worse in a poor quality photograph than live. You need a high quality camera with 35 millimetre film and large (over 2.5 centimetre diameter) objective lens. The larger and flatter the lens, the more accurate you head shape recording. Your first message (cold call) should contain at least three sentences: the salutation, greeting and source of letter; example: "Johnathan Doe, Spokane, 34654, United States of America. June 11, 2010. Dear Lady "sweet45": Hello, good afternoon. How do you do today at home? I am Johnathan. May I know your first name? Johnathan Doe, Spokane, 34654; johnathan45.jpg.".
Knowing What, Where and When To Say
Follow you intuition, sense, personal feelings or "gut feeling" and act appropriately. The indications can be good or bad for you. It is good if you can use it to know, what, where, when, and with who to say things. Perhaps she has learned about too many negative things about; perhaps your were unemployed for ten years and saw a psychiatrist once; this could lead to a rejection of you later; sometimes you can feel it during the meetings before. Perhaps your chasing actions were too late. You started personal talk be email, but you felt uncomfortable because you feel you should do this in person (face to face). You feel she will not respond positively with email; personal request and questions need to be done in person at her workplace; take the approriate actions to avoid rejection as a sweetheart: prepare and go there. Perhaps she is not ready to marry an older man like you; take the appropriate actions: slow down the speed of the chase. You have a few professional meetings that were a little difficult just to talk to her; meetings did not feel good; you do not feel good and courageous about it; take the appropriate actions: get her work street address, start over in three to twelve months, but only with face to face personal talks. If the professional relationship did not go idealy and you sense she needs more time to get acccustomed to the whole idea of living with you; take appropriate action: get her street address, slow down the speed of the chase if it will not be too late, try again in six to eight months. In another example, if you feel asking her personal questions by email is not a good idea, then ask only face to face in person. Choosing which girl to chase online or at work can be very difficult using this; best way to do it is to go for the girl you realy want first. For example, you got her work electronic mail address but you know, sense or feel that you need to show courage by getting her home telephone number directly from her mouth before she accepts a live personal date.
Watch for red flags which are warning indications and take appropriate actions. You can use these (red flags) to your advantage or use it to decide to abandon this courtship. She may be talking too much about her ex man; then this person (girl) may not be ready for a new relationship with you. When a girl is with you because it his her job or is asking for money; this could be a red flag; take appropriate actions: ask about her marital status, get her street address. You were not happy with one or two of her words; be carefull. You saw a few children's and men's paraphanalia in her automobile; are these her's, is she available?, you think. She does not want to answer any questions about her during the somewhat difficult professional meetings; take appropriate actions: as soon as she initiates personal talk that is not required for the professional meeting sustain the face to face chat as long as you can for at least three minutes, then see if you can discover her marital status, and then try to get her home telephone number; this may the your first and only chance to get a live (face to face) personal relationship with her.
Watch for avoidance of you at professional encounters: if she arrives late at meeting or leaves early at end of meeting, this may be a red flag, be extra carefull in following these dating rules and protocols
Do not play games. Go only ofter the girl you realy want. Sometimes attraction to members of the opposite sex develops on its own. You need to control your emotions of attraction to other girls or for the wrong girls. Do what you said you are going to do. For example if you are not interested in her as a wife, do not say so just to get her company.
Actions speak louder than words. Make sure that when you talk to or see other girls that this action is not seen as loss of interest in her. Instead of promising to start a business such as a book store to try to save your reputation, say the business is ready for customers. She does not want to see you she says, but past behaviour may say otherwise; perhaps your rejection was just dating protocol or testing you. The date may say one thing but do the opposite; the person is nice to you but not nice to others. She said she wants you online, but you are not sure she meant it, perhaps you feel she is afraid for an in person meeting with you. Your professional worker is friendly, but does not show her true intentions for you as a sweetheart.
Know when to end a dating relationship or chase of a girl when chase shows no results.
Do Not Allow Others and Machines To Control Your Personal Dating
Do not use a computerized matching system like eharmony.com; it is unreliable, and besides, you cannot let a computer or some one else decide who you can date. Filling in that eharmony.com online dating questionare takes a long time; answering the questions incorrectly, but honestly can cause the computer to reject you, and then finding out there were not matches for you can be frustrating. If there are zero eleectronic mails to you or you cannot find incoming emails within a few years, the software of the online dating site may be suspect. If you place some negative answers on the personal questionare, the computer may reject your application. You do not want to be screened out too soon before you can make personal chats. Women seem to prefer online dating sites where men can also initiate talk with members. You may want an online dating site where men can see and choose women. You want to make sure that the online dating site delivers your electronic mails.
You thought you could go to school and interview the girls there for possible candidate as a wife, but you find out the girls are interviewing you. Your powers have been reduced; you have to request and wait for an audience. Go from the interviewed to the interviewer. Both interview each other instead. Go from a begger for dates, to a scheduler of personal dates.
There may be romance and bonding with great suiters (James Bond types) at her work place, school, or online; but how does one make her (the one) focus on you, and avoid cheating (her seeking romance and intimacy with other men) during this relationship. For one, keep the brief and occasional personal chats (maintain the relationship with talks) with her even if progess is not visible at the moment. Do not tell or reveal about your current or past dates with other women too her even if she asks over and over again. If possible avoid showing her your girl chasing attempts like your currently active and complete online dating profile. Give only assuring or neutral talks concerning this relationship even if there seems to be no personal relationship now.
Paying money or giving her professional meetings just to meet with her does not seem right. If you have to get professional or business meetings to reach her, keep the professional meeting short (get her contact information and conclude business as fast as possible) and sweet (positive). Do the personal chat only after the professional meetings in same visit. Make all personal chats and personal requests in person for now; you must demonstrate your confidence and powers do to so.
When you want to draw her attention at an office or other work place when a man or men keeps talking to her try: make shure she knows visually that you are there, try to look at her face and eyes for a brief moment, wait a few minutes to allow her to complete her work or business there, there is usually a way of finding a way to wait there, when you do the right moves she will break away from the talk soon and then you have time so you can do the chase legally, then start getting her telephone number routine.
Dating site operators may want to reveal the truth about its users, but sometimes the past dating activities are best not shows to ladies. Online dating profiles that do not allow full control of your public information and so produce inaccurate results and show personal information that should not be shown had the least favorable results. For best results and respect for you, allow or use the dating situations that give best freedom and control by you for you; this is usually on the streets or public places. One online dating site block electronic mails from specific age ranges, gender, and specific users; and again this is a loss of control for you. When chases are not great for you and with unjust complaints of persistent chases a dating site could close your online dating profile.
A dominant male does not allow others like online dating network, live dating service control his personal dating and personal information on display, but makes a direct verbal connection with the women; by doing this you will have better success. The best online dating sites are when you pay for it and have full control over your displayed information there. Life is best when you can make your own decissions, and control your own finances and personal dating; choose your friends and personal dating services very carefully. Some online dating sites that could bring in electronic mails from women at physically closer locations erase the inboxes of free accounts once every month. One site which did not bring any electronic mails from women would cancel account based on complaints about persistence; the quality of the dating site's title, content options, format, and search engine bias is very important for success. Control and talk privacy control is very important over dating process; trying to get her telephone number in public places where there is less control by others should be better for getting a women's telephone number and verbal responses.
May not be appropriate for online dating sites to have access and read your rersonal electronic mails there with women. Try to get electronic mail as private as possible for best results; for example if you can get and give you private electronic mail address would be better than on site electronics mails. Women will only talk with private elcctronic mail or texting which is difficult to monitor by service providers.
Get her contact information as soon as possible before the online dating site erases your electronic mails in your inbox there. Some dating site ersase free inboxes in about a month.
Guarantee Possible Message Flows To You
Do not allow a receptionist, family members or online caretaker to disrupt communications to you from a woman; ask to relay all messages to you. Guarantee possible personal messages to you by being the only one in control of the incoming messages. Do not give anyone your online passwords, especially sweethearts and best friends. She may be transfered to a different location or her shop in the mall may close causing the physical link to be broken; as a dominant male need to get better control of this for chasing girl and avoid this miss-calculation. You want to avoid doing things like chasing other girls there that can cause her place to pack up and run from there, until after you got her home telephone number. Get her home telephone number before those in authority over her there relocate her to another unknown place.
Remembering the dating catalog in the 1980s of girls which costs about $90 for long distance dating. The catalog's personal profiles of the girls did not have their addresses, so that when there were no responses one would not be sure if your personal letters have ever reached them. Long distance girls probably have a protocol of not answering immediately with standard mail. Then do not allow others to control or filter your dating communications or any other types of communications, especially when doing a persistent chase for her as sweetheart. In those days catalog and classified advertisement dating by pay did not seem quite right, and usually does not produce quick, easy results such as face to face, live, in person meetings.
Avoid others placing stumbling blocks or road blocks towards your career and personal dating whether unknowingly or on puspose. For this try: being more independent, reduce third party involvement; hire and buy only the best; take teachings, information, claims and opinions with a grain of salt; be carefull of using data that you have not observed with your own senses. Information that seems most logical may not be the truth. Hire and buy only the best; the lowest cost and easiest way of doing things may not be the best for you in the long run like buying sewing machine needles. Use direct contact information: you do not want your girlfriend's letter to be stashed under your mother's, friend's, or secretary's mail for months.
Your work is not at one place and so you do not have time to develop acquaintances and develop roots in a small community; the work place does not have any women or single women; you are no longer going to school to see ladies. One way to try to gain time is to attempt occasional contact attempts that she will learn about at a steady rate. In many cases when you do this, she will not leave her places (work, school, apartment) too soon which may give you time to get aquanted. The man being the ruler of his women or marriage, at the first time they saw each other hr ruled over her, not by words and economic power at first, but each time he is at her work place or doing his lunch time routine at school she somehow comes into view, then he requested and got her telephone number directly from her hand there. He does not rule her by intimidation, power, or by fear, but she does some of his requests and responds to most of his calls (telephone or texting). By visiting and looking at her briefly that she knows about earlier, she is still at her work place; do you have such influence? Sometimes to start a sweetheart relationship, the woman needs time to gain trust in you and get to know you (know your true colours), this may take as much as one year from first sight, the more you break these dating rules above the longer this waiting time; for the first eight months of first sight the relationship was strictly and only professional or academic, after about one and a half year from first sight you managed to get the first personal date, then after two years from first sight you got legal entry into her apartment with impunity. You may be able to use this (personal contact attempts that she can know about) to gain time to develop this relationship; the above love letter format may also be used to gain time in this manner. Some people may walk away from you before you arrrive there, when you are at a public building like a library or shopping mall and you do not want her to leave her area too soon, you focus attention on her and encourage interaction by trying this: walk in her direction in a straight path at a steady speed, do not walk and turn your body in a way like you are avoiding her, keep the front of your body pointing in her direction close as possible, have her in your field of view, move close to her without invading her space, position yourself such that you will draw her attention discreetly, now she will avoid walking away too soon from here; now you will have the time to start the getting her name and home telephone number routine without having to follow her. While doing this avoid business talk or prefessional activities with her to avoid confusion about your personal intentions there;
The book "Personal Relationships and Personal Contructs" below is about personal relationship or aquantance develoment, even aquantance development that might lead to marriage. In one experiment of 1955, university students that were paid for this experiment were the test subjects. In this experiment they were given a list of things to do, and the participants who did the same things were more likely to form acquaintances or friendships. Polar opposite activities or personalities like therapist to patient relationships then would produce a greater chance of rejection of the person with the weaker achievement stature. In another experiment, people with qualities relevant to one person B were likely to produce success in aquantance development with this person B. This book said that the aquantance development process has four main stages. The last stage where there is more affection, respect, and understanding between the man and woman, persistant but occasional personal requests will do no damage to this relationship and professional relationship.
Knowing she is a therapist you are trying to find some thing in common, so you read a book about psychoanalysis of personal relationships; an example chat at a restaurant: ..., "I read a book about psychoanalysis of personal relationships. The book says people that do the same things are more likely to form acquaintances or friendships. Do you agree with this?", "_.", ... .
Many women may want to get to know the man for about three months before giving him personal affection or potential sweetheart status. Some men do not have to wait and beg to get an in person sweetheart; you do not want to wait for half a year until you get the first personal date with her also. How does one get the first personal date within one month after last professional meeting without her playing hard to get and the testing you routines? Following these dating rules and gaining financial status (successful reputation) or regaining your manly glamour (girl chasing confidence) of your youth may be the first plan and may help. :
Look Before You Leap
Look before your leap; that is getting to know her for a few months before getting serious with her and nurturing your care for her, especially with online girls who call you. This sweetheart talk with her may be complimenting and infatuating, but get to know her background and personality for a least four months before letting you sweethearts feelings for her out of control. Displite of theory and assumptions about attraction, men are more likely to become emotionally attached to the girl faster than vice versa; a man may want to be with a girl at first sight, while a girl might think perhaps in a week to a year. You need to first find out about things you need to know such as: if she has adult pictures stashed somewhere in somebody's (man) file or online. Having some man taking pictures of her semi-nude or nude is still some sort of cheating. You need to ask some tough questions such as about her fashion model career if any. If she is divorced you need to know if she has a temper and if this temper is managable. Her male bank manager telephoned to ask you to send $600 before she can send her money to you. You want to resolve any lies or partial informations about her past intmate relationships or problems with the law to clearify information, or clearify this situation. As a rule do not get serious with relationship with girl for at least five month for online long distance girls, and at least three months for live girl chasing attempts. Asking tough questions in texting: ..., "I checked your website cindy_n345.com.", "Do you like it?", " Yes, nice. For how long were you there"?, "Last August. ", " Who took your pictures?", " _.", Cannot get into site; site is not delivering.", "Can you remove your pictures from this site?", ... . Example 2: ..., "Do you have any adult pictures online or in somebody's file for me to see?", "No. Do you want me to get some.", "No; do not get some. Is good you do not have pictures like this; I do not want someone to take nude pictures of you.", "Ok.", ... . Say a clear no to getting nude pictures of her online; you should never encourage your long distance online sweetheart to let someone else take nude pictures of her; after the heat of the moment you might emotionally regret this later. Example 3; a better way to ask: "May I ask you a tough question please?", "Go on.", "Do you have any pictures of you anywhere online or in somebody's file for me to see?", "No. ", "No; do not get some. Is good you do not have pictures like this; I do not want someone to take nude pictures of you. Keep us private.", "Ok .", ... . Wanting a woman for a sweetheart or wife without first knowing her current personal situation or marital status is usually not a good idea. Is usualy best not to go after married ladies; there may be other ladies equaly as great or greater than this married lady.
A study of a psychologist says that a person with too many lovers (sexual partners) usually does not make a good long term partner; there may a a lack of focus by this person, you probably cannot control her love agenda; is better to make a quick and complete emotional and dating break up with this person.
Does she cook in the kitchen or will cook only have the time, and for how long like this?; you cannot afford a maid now. Does she want you to hire a maid or need a maid who you cannot afford?
She was divorced; is her temper managable or will the same thing happen to you?
Men tend to get emotionally attached faster to the wrong women than vice versa, avoid getting yourself too emotionally attached to her too soon before knowing your sweetheart standing with her, so that you do not need to do a persistent chase. If you choose the girls carefully there is no need to do a nuisance persistent chase for her as sweetheart.
Here are some things a man must not give a woman at first encounter in public and in front of everybody there such as at a bar or ballroom dance without first asking her: give her a big steak to eat, buy her underwear for a birthday present, buy her condoms, give her a lot of cash without a reason.
I said: "mom, if you want to eat you do not need to wait for me.". Some women may perhaps feel it is impolite to eat food before her husband's and children's eating time. Women are not suppose to eat until the men (husband) eat at home, school, or the work place.
Preparing For The Chase
Preparation for the chase (gether as a sweetheart) and marriage could include anything from improving one's grammar to completing school for a career to gaining courage to talk to women. You will need post secondary (high school) education to afford a marriage.
Get ready and prepared for the chase. Some men do not chase women much for serious relationship probably because of poor finances; not having the confidence and power to ask for her home telephone number; poor mental capacity and skills to do a persistent chase; lack of contact opportunities, insecure about one's appearance and status. From a pauper like a shy, lonely student on student loans to a king that is treated like a king with good wages, girl friends that treat you like a king and bow down to you, adore you like a pop star and chase you; perhaps with this. Be prepared; your timidness, discomfort, powerlessness and lonliness is over; talk to any woman anywhere, anytime, in all safe situations. Use this to make the chase easy and fun. Prepare and practice for the chase to weaken her resistance to personal advances during chase. For examples in order of importance:
a) Clothing To Feel Good, Dignified, Confident and Masculine In
Clothing you have on affects how you feel, look and your emotional power; wear masculine clothing with masculine cuts and
shapes, shoes, glasses and watch for men. Masculine clothing is the key of gettting the courage, confidence and power
to start personal talk with women and affects all other relationships. Get proper sized clothing that is not oversized, too
baggy, too puffy (bulky) and not funny looking,
but that you feel attractive and confident in. Where masculine clothes that fit properly (not oversized), and that will not
hide your gender; this will increase your confidence and avoid that low quality feeling when you initiate the talk. Wear
clothes that are fully masculine for men, not oversized, not funny looking; this will stop that low quality feeling when
you start to advance for talk, will give you confidence for leading the ladies with enjoyable walk and talk. The trousers
must not hang to low and not be oversized; you do not want to look funny. Confidence or the power to connect with
women is not earned, a special personal quality or bought; it is free to everyone, with this. The dinner jacket length must
not be to long, not over sized; too long, over padded; see figures 5 for decent clothing dimensions
b) Physical Fitness For Emotional Fitness
You know how to chase women and know what to do, but the stresses of the chase are overwhelming, or you become
tonque tied (problem in speaking and finding things to say). To reduce stress and give you strength to reduce
speaking fears during the live chase do excersizes with deep
breathing excersizes about thirty minutes a day about six times a week. You can do some excercizes (at least twenty five of each) outdoors: bar bell weight lifting, push ups, bar vell over head lift sit ups, chin ups, running on the spot, jumping jacks, knee bends, tendon stretching, martial arts (tai chi) excersizes while breathing deeply. The breaths must be full,
deep breaths; fill your lungs to maximum capacity to stretch and expand your lungs on air intake; what a few seconds
and exhale. This daily excersize is done for about half an hour plus one hour of physical labour or equivalent excersizes at least five days a week. Excersize does help reduce weight; you can reduce body weight faster with exersize like this. Dieting for losing weight is not enough; it gives hunger pain and body fatique and so becomes difficult sustain; a good excersize program may be better and easier to do. Chasing girls at you teen years was easier because you walked to school each day, then played sports and walked in neighbourhood for excersize to stay fit. These will strengthen and harden your shoulders, abdomen to reduce the hurt sting of not getting her home telephone number face to face, improve ability to start personal chats in person.
Take a walk on the streets for about an hour and a half
(round trip) and breath well to get speaking stress reduction and gain strength against face to face speaking fears. You
should feel your muscles expand and harden within three excersize sessions (days); then your are closer to being ready to
handle the extreme emotional stresses of the difficult in person chase.
When you aproach a woman, practice: take four to five deep, full breaths discreetly
and look into her eyes and say hello. If you really want this woman say in this order: hello, tell your name, ask her name, tell which city you live in,
ask if she is from town or some other place,
and see how talk goes from here. Practice seeing women on streets for no reason; take this walk in daylight just to
catch a possible glimpse of a woman; showing and admitting that you have interest in a woman that you do no
know well can be difficult for some; after a few practice walks the task maybe easier, and you will know better
what to do next time. You need to walk at least for one hour before seeing a girl on the streets. If you saw a girl you
like on the way out, back return to the same area on your way back home and is she is there, smile, say hello,
attempt to get her home telephone number. Do this walk two to four times a week depending on your required
conditioning. Do each day for seven days before attempt to talk to her at her workplace. When you were a teenager
you walked every day to school, played sports and saw friends; this
help condition your body to withstand speaking fears or girl chasing nervousness; now you have to condition and
harden your leg muscles with walks. Walk a little and feel your legs, and if these are not rock hard, you are
not physically fit for a difficult impromtu visit to chase her at her work place and face that girl. The work place may
perhaps not be too welcoming to personal relationship visits; so you need physical strength to overcome
nervousness (anxiety) if
any; the work place is the most difficult situation to get and sustain a personal relationship. You need to get this
strength for face to face talk to over come speaking nervousness, because some women will
only accept face to face (in person) relationship mending attempts like at her workplace. The article
" Rewiring the Brain With Excersize, Relaxation and Mediation For Communication Stress Reduction "
may help reduce live speaking fears
when you try to get her home telephone number. Get good rest physically and mentally (emotionally) using
above meditation.
Going to bed early (9:00 pm) and waking up and getting out of bed early (6:00 am) in the morning before the
stressfull chase may help.
Improve confidence by reducing nervousness by not over eating, but eating nutritious meals. Besides, not over eating
may help you feel better about your appearance.
On that day to help handle the speaking stress, give you that extra push to approach her and talk, and to reduce noon
day fatique have a good, full breakfast, the most important meal of the day. Have some ginger and genseng juice to give
your self extra drive, will and strength to get yourself through that difficult liive talk with her; a strong sex drive over
powers speaking fears with ladies and financial problem fears. A good, full lunch with low fat and low salt using
the government food guidelines is also recommended for the days of the chases. Under nurishing yourself may not be the
best thing to do.
c) Staying In Shape To The Best Of Your Ability
Do you have to be young to be attractive?; no. How to attract the young ladies at age range forties, even at age fifties. The believe that a well toned cute seventeen year old girl will always defeat a curvy gorgeous forty year old women in dating competition is not always true. Take care of your body, why not? Why not have a nice personality and also have a phyical profile more visually pleasing to a woman than before?
A girl's hair is her crown and similarly a man's body is his crown, figuratively speaking. The good news is you can
do something about it by staying in decent physical shape. Take care of your body with good nutrition, hygiene,
excercise and healthy (non toxic) house. Excersize to keep in
shape; I believe women secretly love the masculine upper body v shape, the symbol of a hard working and mentally fit man.
"He is in great shape for his age; he did everything right. He may be the man for me." she might think; this is another point
for him as a sweetheart. Taking care of you body is also not over eating or under eating.
This sounds superficial, but why not stay in shape also for the chase? By staying in shape, not eating too much candy
and not eating too much junk food, you may also feel better about yourself. Notice that attractive looking Eastern
European women do not seem to age, or age well; taking care of you body now may be a good investment in your
appearance and aging well as you get older. Good nutrition includes a low fat, low pork, processed sugar and low salt diet; example 7 . The meal plan can include green leavy vegetables, herbs and spices which are healthy. You will need all the nutrients in proper amount: vitamins and minerals a through z; fruits and grains.
If you are overweight try to reduce weight; older people usually look better with normal amounts of facial and neck fat. To get decent facial and neck fat, the ideal weight to height ratios for older people are: kilgrams/centimetre for men, and kilograms/centimetre; the person you should be, feel better about yourself, less body soreness, improve confidence.
The fashion model experts may be right: slender and well toned with a larger head height to width ratio for older women may be better
Take care of you body also; why not? Why not be on good physical shape while being a middle age doctor and nice uncle? Why be fat while you can look much better with normal facial and neck fat. Middle aged or older people usually look better with normal amount of facial, neck and belly fat. Take care of you body with good nutrition, hygiene and excersize. Take care of your teeth with brushing, flossing, teeth whitener, gargling with mouth wash. If you try to take care of your body and teeth, you will feel better about the effort, you will be in better physical condition and so you might get a more calmer, mature and confident feeling when talking to ladies. Do not just eat beverages, donuts, chocolate bars, and potatoe chips, but follow a food guide like the Canadian food guide; do not under eat and over eat. Use a bar soap that can remove most bacteria types from your skin when showering. For excersize; sometimes just working is not enough; try some mild excersizes for about fifteen minutes a day most days of the week like push ups, sit ups, jumping jacks; chin ups, bar bell lifting, running on the spot, knee bends; do each excersize for at least twenty. Do occasional deep breathing during thse exercsizes; preferably outdoors.
Online profile with headtake photographs showing shoulders get more electronic mails then only headtakes; seems like women like natural wide masculine shoulders; the good news is you can do something about this, use bar bells, push ups and labourer work for excersize to build muscle tone. Eat decent quality meals; not under eat and over eat. Natural here mens no phoney muscles in the form of padding and oversized jacket. Women may like wide masculine shoulders because wide muscular shoulders represents hard work and male strength. Set your dimensions of your shirt and jacket precisely to give a natural wide, masculine shoulder look without oversized clothing look to improve your confidence to chase, improve her attracton to you, and reduce the chances of rejection as suiter. Shoulders naturally wide, not over wide shirt shoulder width.
d) Keep Your Place Guest Ready
If you house or apartment is in poor shape you probably will have less confidence in inviting her there. Fix and clean your place so that you are not imbarrased to take a woman to it; if you have a dog as pet; clean its waste
each day, clean pet waste stains inside house. Keeping your home and yard guest ready will improve the quality of life
for you. Try to upgrade the house,
its furniture, home accessories as much as you can to try to make it a little more luxurious or prestigious. For example,
replace the low cost plastic plant pots with glazed ceramic ones, replace the phoney wood furniture with furniture made
with real wood, replace to low cost thin textile drapes with new more luxurious thicker drapes, replace the
stained linoleum flooring with new real hardwood flooring, etcetera. Remove the
dusty clutter (broken low quality objects) or excess storage from the floors where it does not belong; tidy and organize
storage. This allows you to invite her to your place with confidence, even if it is a room and board rental.
f) Improve your Work Skills To Increase Confidence
Some say, good home interior design and architecture can improve the quality of life of its owner. Improve the quality of your work such as the paint repair work on you automobile, facial hair shave, hair cut, clothing,
watch; this may show that you have it all together (priorities in order). To go further in business or to increase its prestige, only use information and
systems like computer systems, automobiles that are guarateed thrustworthy. You cannot trust Microsoft and Apple softwares to run expensive,
critical aircraft systems. Sometimes high quality work such as home utility appliances are a requirement and showing the decent quality of your work is bound to make her admire your more. Would you give her a used and worn shoes for a birthday present or new shoes? Getting it right: get it (dating site or business) right and let the money, telephone numbers, or electronic mails roll in; cannot give an exact formula because each situation is a little different.
When one has not found payed work for over five years, one may feel defeated. To avoid feeling defeated, keep working at home; improve the quality and magnificence of your work. When someone does something new, nice, and better such as home decor and improvements one tends to under estimate its value. The new product such as a better basement in homes can improve the quality of life of millions of people and soon the big boys (companies) will be copying you. See if you can make not hiring you a few months ago or not buying your product a mistake. After not finding work for about fifteen years, one improves the quality and magnificence of your work and work skills perhaps in computer engineering, and with more education, and then realizing that one had the power and knowledge to surpass the competitions in this business.
To improve your intellect, read some books or go to post high school school, improve you work thinking skills. Read some books or take some classes about her culture.
g) Choose Hair Styles That Best Suit You
Get a hair style that best works for you: do not get a brush cut when a Robert Redfort type of hairstyle looks better on
you. Grey hair, and facial and neck fat ages a middle aged man; dye your hair with hair colour and do not over eat. To get better respect, the cut of the hair must not be terrible with crooked cuts and uncontrolled. Many boys probably spend about a half minute a day in front of the mirror fixing, grooming and combing their hair; this is the correct, natural attitude; by following this feeling or intuition, the chances of girls talking back to you should be greater.
Look your best. Reduce the size of the overgrown poorly groomed beard and show your face.
Know your best physical features and do not hide your best features when possible. The top part of your head and high crown, your forehead, and your hair may be your best features; then at first encounter wear no hat, at introductions and indoors take off your hat.
h) Showing Self-Reliance and Exclusivity
Men who live alone are more likely to succeed and are able to command more extreme behaviours such as a sex kitten
type of look, because there is no other person to get in between the relationship and there are no other people's feelings
to worry about for her. I believe a woman likes to know that she is the primary woman in his life. If you at age thirty are
not able to live alone make sure the caller identification of telephone only shows your last name only; having your mother's
first name showing on her (sweetheart to be) telephone screen is probably not a good idea.
When leaving your comfort zone and entering other peoples territory there is always some small risk, but remember
you have as much privilege to courtship as anyone else, her family or her neighbours. Having your place shows that you
are self reliant. Exclusivity here means only you and her at your living place, and better privacy. Having you own nice apartment shows that you are self-reliant. Are your children and grand children always in need of money?; you need to carefully study the numbers, the country is wealthy and who ever (adults) is able must provide for their own. A career with a decent salary and economic empowerment starts with a formal education.
Most of us will not be satisfied to retire in a small plain cubicle, or live single in a small bachelor's apartment for fifty years.
If you wait for the government or large corporations to give you paid work you either get old waiting, or you get low pay or the mimimum. Starting your own work and your own business may be a way to make a decent living.
i) Practicing Your Brain For Talk
Practice the chasing routines. Get your brain and body ready. You can practice in your mind by thinking about what to say.
You can practice by writing what you are going to say. You can practice your talk, body language, movements in front of
a mirror. Practice your body
movements as composed, cool for aproaching a woman in a restaurant table. You can practice
talking at a chair and pretend it is at a restaurant table with two women, in private offcourse. The practice may give you
a rough idea what is required, help you get accustomed to personal talks, and impromptu talks. You need to practice outloud
in front of a mirror in the privacy of your own room; this this will give your brain the neuron connections, and help guage
your emotions and facial expressions during talk. When you practive the difficult relationship mending talk you may perhaps
feels some of its negative emotions and you may even feel a slight bluishing feeling. You can then adjust your talk
accordingly. Difficult tasks like writing usually gets easier
with practice. Memorize your in person chase talks, and practice talking outloud in front of a mirror. Look in the mirror;
you do not want too act too conceited and arrogant then, but at the same time not act too humble, scared with
voice stuttering. Practice speaking clearly; talk not too loud and not to soft. Your voice should sound gentle and friendly
but firm and steady. After much practice like this in privacy to get my nerves and brain ready, and following these dating
guidelines. Brush up on speaking, writing and poetry writing skills; good communication skills at her, poetry directed at her,
focus on her (attention), showing leadership and direction in your life may be irresistable to some women.
Think ahead of what you are going to say; example in automobile: "Where were from before living in Spokane?".
j) Financial Preparations and Business For A Marriage
Before the 1990s finding work in the West without a high school diploma was fairly easy; since then a person needs a
post high school education to get decent employment. Studying (schooling), developing work skills opens doors
into employment:
business, engineering, science, design, arts, psychology, medicine, prestige. Getting a post high school education for a career
is a neccessay part of married life and to afford a nuclear family. To raise a family in 2010 a man needs post high
school education; at
least three years to get enough intellect and comprehension. Usually the greater the education, the greater the productivity
and product like an
automobile, the better the quality of the work, and so the larger the potential money income. A man who has post
high school education or at least two
important or valuable personal interests or hobbies has a two to six
greater chance of finding a mate for marriage than an ordinary high school drop out. Showing that you are a good provider
(income earner) or trying to be a good provider increases the chances of finding a mate for marriage. Whether she cares
about you education level does not matter; you will still need it to afford to raise childeren or to help improve the quality of
your lives. Get a career that you like; not work that you dislike or something that is against your wishes and extremely
unhappy with this financial situation like volunteer
work when you really are desparate for paid work, this usualy does not
work out; if she senses you like your work then you probably can get more respect from her in this difficult time. Men
are not always after physical or facial beauty and so in turn not all women are after millions of dollars as some would
have you believe. Actually not showing formal education information online dating profile did produce similar but
slightly less results as having a formal diploma if there were two to three usefull personal
interests or hobbies. The personal interest cannot be just listening to music or watching sports; it should be like
playing music or playing sports instead; doing and not just watching. Thus men with two or more usefull skills that
were learned formaly
(in school) or informaly (self-taught) are more likely to get girls than one that learned nothing. Women seems to prefer
man who is a little interesting or has interests like home architecture designing. You do not have to be an professional
engineer to get a girl as a sweetheart, because the wrong engineer is worse than no engineer; instead a woman may
prefer a man with great communications skills that can listen to people's problems and then solve problems; I guess
many times personality is more important that formal education level. A formal education or high
paying employment is needed to raise a family, but not to get a sweetheart or steady girl friend. Post high school formal
education or having full time employment does increase your confidence when you talk about your career, though. You do
not need formal education information, or usefull interests and hobbies information to get a girl's telephone number or
online girls,
you need a photograph with a dinner jacket in a nice room and you basic information if you do not show any
usefull interests.
When doing business such as million dollar home renovations in 2010 you have to be smart about it; knowing what to
say, what not to say, and when to
reveal business information; learning from what works well and what does not work in advertisements; avoiding picking
fights with co-employees,
customers and family members. When someone does something new, nice and better such as in home design and
construction one tends to under estimate
its value; what seems like a hobby could be worth millions of dollars to the big boys over a few decades.
As a group, force employers to hire workers by not going into fianancial debt or spending monetary income that you do
not have; we spend only if we
have paid employment.
Perhaps you are not able to afford to buy her a full meal for lunch break. Being better financially prepared for personal
dating should help you feel more confident in these matters.
Is a free country; you need to get stronger financially and academically so you at over age thirty can deny low wages
and hard labour work, or low product prices to you. The higher and more unique you work skills and education, the more
difficult is to replace you, the higher the wages you get.
When you have completed school and work for someone else you can make a middle classs wage, but when you have
completed school and work for yourself you may get more. When a man completes post high school schooling he has
a good wage waiting for him, but when he also learns on his own and works for himself he goes much further and makes
millions of dollars. Most millionares usually make their millions of dollars at the top of companies or by working
for themselves.
I heard you need to complete post high school schooling; then you are in, in the marriage class or calibre of men. You can
start you own business without a formal post high school education if you allready have the work skills and resources to
do it.
Perhaps you do not have paid work now and you want to have this girl, the girl. Is usually not a good idea to postpone a marriage until one has paid employment. A man can wait two, five, ten years before finding paid work with a sufficient salary. This can be a challenging situation and courtship. How to get a potential fiance's telephone numbers without paid work and a big bank account. Here is what one might do: the man has to be the primary provider of his household, stay commited to the cause which is sustaining the marriage such as going back to school, looking for paid employment, or starting your own business; follow the more important dating rules and methods here, there will be no more roaming aroung trying to figure out what to do with one's life, kissing different girls here and there, and going to bars every night. Your primary task now is to get paid work without your wife living in a delapidated little shack, staying loyal to the girl who has paid work.
Be successful at work, or have plans to afvance financially; many women like men with financial drive and ambition. If you believe that a woman does not care if her man or potential man is making peanuts (small amount of money under the poverty line) and has no plans to advance financially, or is making $100000 a year in 2010 then you are mistaken; she will constantly try to find out your true financial status. Find a work and company that you like or at least can tolerate; getting paid for your work. If you cannot find the salary you like and need the nyou may have to go back to school and/or start your own business.
k) Using Your Older Age As An Advantage
You may have been a young twenty two year old prince charming once but you have grown older looking more like an
old king perhaps. Use your age as you advantage. If you are an older man use your experience, superior communication
skills, calmness and nurturing image to arouse feeling of attraction in her for you. Offcourse you do not want to act too
old too much; she may like your ambitious younger personality also. The idea is the use the skills, experience, and best
personalities accumulated over time to your girl chasing advantage. As a thirty to fifty year old, you can use your superior
ambition and desire to commit to a marriage to develop feelings off attraction
in her for you. If you are a fifty five year old man, it may be a mistake trying to act like a thirty year old man all the time
while you were chasing her; you have to know when you can act like a seventeen, thirty or forty year old man. When some
people date they may feel like a fifteen or sixteen year old again. Use the girl chasing
courage and confidence of a fifteen year old, the stamina of a thirty year old, the ambition of a forty year old, and the
love and communication skills of a fifty year old to get a girl for a sweetheart. You do not have to be young and handsome to interest her so to speak; focus your attention on her there and use your personality, stability (will, emotional, financial), communications skills, non-boy-ish behaviour to physicaly attract girl.
l) More Pep Talk
Do not allow rejections, humiliating rejections or/and no online responses during the chases change you and make
you bitter, especially as you get older; think: I am still a rock star at heart, a ladies man, a romantic. Self image: self image
usually cannot be reduced for long after a rejection as a sweetheart or employment application by not mentally dwelling on
the rejections of you. Portraying a good self image
of your self may be usually a good way of getting a woman as a sweetheart. You can start be using good language and
grammar when speaking to women; thinking ahead of what you are going to say.
Under confidence could be a problem in chase. Avoid making negative assumptions about her personal desires such as: "she will not enjoy talking to me", "she looks upset, I better not talk to her", "she looks busy at work, I better not disturb her", "she will not come to my party", "she wil never relocate to my city", "she likes this macho man at work or this millionare, I do not have a chance".
You do not need to be young and handsome to get a girlfriend; fortunately for us men physical attraction in a woman does not need to be determined by the man's appearance and age.
J) Dominant Male Characteristics
Girls may blurt out "My boyfriend this ... .", "My boyfriend that .... ." at school or in a bus. Perhaps she had half a dozen dates with men, and you have barely none. Were you second banana with your male friends?; is time to bring up your presence (romantic assertiveness, attraction to you) and get a girl of your own. After she has accepted your first personal chat or meeting, or gives her personal contact information for dating purposes, her ex boyfriend or ex husband is irrelevant as far as she is concerned. Once you have decided that she is the girl, you can lock in the relationship by persistant talk attempts. Once the personal calls and chats have started, and she give you her contact information her other boyfriend or past date with a sweetheart is basically irrelevant to a dominant male, or non-beta male perhaps you. Some say women are more attracted to a dominant males than a man who goes nowhere, cannot get anything done, who is affraid of women, and does not know what he wants regardless of culture or nation. A dominant male not a beta male is a man who gets what he wants, does what ever is required to get what he wants, does not give up on these quests, within the law offcourse. He may need help to achieve these quests and he does not find excuses why he cannnot achieve these wants and needs; he is what most women would fancy. This is difficult to achieve because most males are not physically perfect as we get older. He has direction in his career, is educated. A dominant man does not wait for the government, a dream job, or a three million dollar lottery prize to save him from poverty, but does what is required now to make a living: gets an education, works, does business. He will have to be ambitous and be commited to his quests of making a living, finding a wife, sustaining this relationship with her. A dominant male is not affraid of a woman's high education level, but has confidence in himself regarding careers. He will likely rule over his fiance, or wife and daughters. He goes far in life without attacking individuals. He does not get ahead by attacking others. He is commanding in his domain and only in his domain in the romance novels. He does not try to dominate others to prove that he is better than someone else; he has a composed and relaxed demeanor. He is persistent in his difficult endeavors, especially in finding a wife and developing his business or career. If he wants a particular woman he gets her for a wife, and does not give up the chase until done. If he wants to be a millionare, he finds ways to do it and does it. If he wants to be a rock star he does it even if it takes decades to do it. If he wants a large attractive modern house he builds it. He does not get or seek any business advice and approval from anyone but takes the bull by the horn (does what ever is required to achieve) for a living. He does not allow opinions, put downs or other people's opposing personal agendas to get in his way, but uses his legal freedoms, rights and priviliges to achieve his personal goals, within the law. He knows or feels his business decisions are correct even if mom or others disagree. He does not follow instructions from his brother or others that are not in his best interest, or within his idealogy no matter how heated the debate such as decluttering a basement. In business or making a living he is smart about it: knowing what and what not to say, where to find business for example. He probably works a lot to generate his monetary wealth. He is probably financially successfull; his wage goal is not $30,000 per year in 2011, but is at least $60,000 per year that is enough for at least three people. Is not just about being a muscular Cassanova with a girl on each arm, but about trying the go higher than the financial poverty line, and not giving up this task; he has economic powers or ambitions. A dominant male has learned to like himself and is more confident about his status in career. Obviously he needs to know how to communicate well with a women verbally and with body language for chase of her. When a high level dominant (non-beta) male is involved in business and nothing gets done there by other workers, power and authority there falls on his lap. He is a good leader by helping others work together such as in a grocery store. He knows how to delegate authority to the right people for the job; knows when to get help when he does not know. He studies the facts and does not allow himself to be manipulated by guilt, brain washing, subliminal suggestions and inaccurate theories. He will have to have the ability to do precision investigations into business problems and crimes like natural gas line tampering. School or dad did not teach how to be a dominant male in most aspects in life. Dominance among humans or teams are achieved by social skills, gets his work goals done without getting agitated, knows how and when to delegate authority and duties in the work place. In office politics a dominant male knows how to delegate authority and tasks in the workplace without breaking the pride and status of his subordinates. How does one become a dominant male especially for getting a marriage?; I just told you, and some these dating rules may help also. Sometimes a dominant male does most of the work in a group like in a musical group and becomes the leader of the group. We may think a dominant male is tall, muscular, handsome, gets the most beautiful woman in his group, has all the physical power, is sexuallly active, and is bossy, but this may not be the case most of the time. You do not have to be muscular, super toned and young; average build and physically fit should be good enough and more realistic. Do not look like you are affraid of women by looking in the other direction; face the front of your body in her direction, make good eye contact when either of you speak to each other; do not be affraid to take a brief glance at her for no other reason but just for the pleasure of making eye contact with her or to enjoy her beauty. A dominant male does not chase women for a sweetheart too much, but women chase him; his online public dating profile has just the right amount (not too much, not too little, not too trivial) of information, from this he may be able to get one to five electronic mails per week from different women from online dating sites; at her work place or school when she knows he is there she will make herself available legally; all he has to do is speak up and do the getting her telephone number routine. As a well mannered, financially ambitious, dominant male and not avoiding women; women will be chasing you; you may observe small changes in your favor: she mat linger longer in your visual space, holding hands with her other date may not be as strong, even walk in your general direction, respond positively to your attention, she may make herself for talk available legally at her work place or school; the movements are brief in duration and ambiguous so watch carefully. Women go after him (dominant male) when he is looking for a wife; she knows you know her name and work location, you made brief simple verbal contact before with her, will she still be there at that work place after a year waiting for you (dominant male)?; probably. A dominant male character online dating profile without photographs (head takes) of him can bring in electronic mails from women initiating talk, but only about one third to one half as much as a profile with head takes (photographs); which shows that as a dominant male you do not have to be great looking to get a girl. As her man and a well mannered dominant male: confident, financially ambitious, assertive, intelligent, have good leadership skills will make her feel secure and safe, even though absolute strength and security are only illusions. When a dominant male asks her for a personal date on her home telephone number she will not decline, or at least eventualy not decline request, if request is done properly as mentioned here. She can choose you also due to your types of friends. Even if your online profile is private they can still find you through some of your online friends of specific types; have her search for you as a dominant male character. In a stressfull situation do not leave the area too soon; know your rights and privileges. Being a dominant male is not about trying to run your brother's life, but is about getting you own life in working order to accomplish this marriage and being able to afford to raise at least one child. When he meets the new lady (his potential dream sweetheart) and speaks to her: stand up straight or sit straight, point the front of your body at her, keep yout eyes looking at her face area, make eye contact when you speak to her (focus your attention on her during this brief chase period). A dominant male makes good eye contact during his talk; not looking at peoples eyes when talking makes you look avoiding or hiding of something. Notice some men in public library look busy or avoid having others in their field of view like they are avoiding contact with others; a dominant male does not look like he is avoiding people all the time by looking always busy, and turning his field of view from others knowingly. The dominant male has his tasks in mind; a dominant kid has high levels of potential which can be harnessed with proper guidance, education and support; is an asset to an organization, probably a "macho" man to be that women dream and think about. A dominant male can likely easily climb up the corporate ladder with: hard word, commitment, efficiency, good work skills, etcetera. You will have to know more dominant (non-beta) male characterists. Avoiding the beta male behaviours you may see an improvement the way people treat you and regard you at work and social situations. Beta male characteristics: leering at every attractive looking women that walks by wishing he could talk to her, being antagonistic with people, constantly seeking reassurance and approval, always trying to dominate (bossy) and prove that he is better then someone else, pretends he can do something and does not admit that he does not know, or shows he feels threatened by pretending others do not know anything at work; because he is uncertain about his status. Beta males nag and complain about minor problems that can be easily fixed, constant anxiety and worrying habits affects his personality. Being negative and cynicle of habit like saying "this lamp is dumb" is more beta male characteristics. Do not try to be a dominant male all the time, sometimes your best work happens when you are at the bottom of the pyramid (under confident). The computer repair shop and warehouse floor is their (beta males) baby; the dominant male boss knows when not to give orders, but stay out of the way in this matter and let this particular work flow on its own; he will need to know where his authority starts there and apply his authority when needed. They say women prefer dominant males and will give him the intimacy that he wants more quickly. A dominant male: assume high status (that is takes leadership in social situations, is educated, has some sort of wealth, or economic power, does not wait on how others behave); is confident which makes the woman feel safe; is maculine in attitude (does not show fear of rejection as a sweetheart, is not affraid of beautiful women, knows his identity and is not affraid to express his own personality, goes after what (woman) he wants); is not affraid to take the lead. You do not have to be playfull with cocky humour if making fun of things and woman is not your nature; but be a little more chalenging or unexpected in chase, make talk a touch more personal and give more eye contact instead. Nature and society dictates that the man is the provider and protector of his family. She probably realizes that we will need leadership skills and be decisive. A dominant male will have these qualities. Many women do not do manual labour; at least labour some of the times only, and she will look for dominant male qualities more than you think. Courteous behaviour: he talks less, but talks smart, his social position and authority is not questioned; he does not chase women as sweetheart, but women chase him. He does not hide into the backgound and hopes everyone there will ignore him in social situations, and is affraid to take the lead in social situations; people will want you as a friend. A dominant male quality and confidence quality in her man makes her feel safe, but we know absolute safety is only an illusion. His body language is firm, strong and direction imposing, but gentle, polite, not bossy; he is in decent physical shape by having the discipline to take care of his body even though he does not have a mister universe type of muscular body. Looking for psychiatric help or pretending you need pyschiatric help is not a dominant male quality; so if you are her patient and she your therapist, and you talking about your problems this is risky and could be game over for you as a future sweetheart; look for a male psychiatrist instead. Do you need to give a page long essay abour yourself and wait two weeks before getting things like sweetheart status from her?; probably not. Need a few carefully chosen words and actions like these, some privacy, with your talk and personal requests sounding a little more commnanding. After sharing basic personal information about you in first texting session, invite her to your place on second texting session on next day if you can afford the flight tickets. He will need good communication skills; to sound like a dominant male speak at least sixteen words per topic each time you talk to her in many cases; example first personal telephone call with an initial cool (unenthusiastic) response from her when you do not have any of her street addresses: "Hello. This is Jonathan Doe from Frank Barristers in Spokane. May I speak to Jane Susan for a few minutes?", "This is her.", "Hello. Do you remember me; Jonathan from Frank Barristers, a clerk and research asssistant there; we met last month there? You had a work interview then with Fredrick Mannley.", ''Yes; I remember.", "I am at my home now watcing some television. How do you do today at your home?", "_", "How is your work search for the position of secretary and receptionist doing?", "_", "Can we meet next week Friday; perhaps during a lunch break at Ronald's restaurant at the North West shopping mall?", "For what?", "I want to be with a woman, meet a woman, you. We can talk there.", ... . When she asks "date for what?" do not give a reason why, do not give a phoney reason, be honest as you dare can. Be honest as you can be without putting others down or hurting other people's feelings. There may be some words and actions missing in this talk to succeed; what is it? You will need to practice and prepare ahead of time, because you will not have much time to think when she anwwers your questions. A woman usually does not chase a dominant male for a sweetheart unless she knows his marital status and personal intentions. Learn how the reveal your personal intentions or interest for women without directly saying so: go out of the house and look available, go to the place where she is often, focus your attention on her occasionally, do not leave this place too soon. What is interesting about the online profile below is, that with the right colours (mood), appropriate site title
with no user photographs, with a good search engine brought in electronic mail from new women initiating chat; I guess women are positively excited by a dominant male character with good communications skills, mood, and a few usefull interests. The lonely years studying for a career pays off.
A dominant male must have full (as much as possible) control of what he says and shows on his non-free public online dating profile pages such as not showing advertisments and external links that he has no control over from others on his online dating pages; this probably will and seems to give better results. Some students seem to like to sit at the back of the class rooms to reduce attention to help them feel more at ease; as a doninant male show that you are not affraid of attention at a public workspace by not avoiding attention or standing at the centre of the room, by not warding off other people in public spaces. He is confident in his financial and economic powers and worth, developed due to his active committment to his financial goals; after the hardwork usually comes the success: the marriage to the girl, the 4000 square feet $1000,000 home, the Fararri sportscar, the Piper aircraft. When he gets a formal education a good job may be waiting for him; when her learns to do the job himself or works for himself he makes millions of dollars, and if he does it better than the others he becomes top honcho in the field. When doing something new and better like designing a new home, one can estimate its value and its true popularity; a dominant male does not seek business advice in this situation, but has an inkling that his work may have much potential to make money on his own.
Also a super sleuth having the precision and complexity to solve even the smallest, most hidden and sophisiticaled sabbotage such as natural gas control valve leakages. As on older man would be eaiser to give your self dominant male characteristics; with this the younger men no longer rule the dating scene at you swimming pool or parties; as a fifty year old man learn how the get a beautiful relationship with a lovely twenty five year old girl.
Using noise at her work place or school to alert: the noise and timing of the front door opening mechanism and the elevator is your buddy at her work place, it will hint that you are there, wait, and she will come out into view; then all you got to do is intercept and do the telephone number getting routine live, and then finito. To get girls to chase you, you do not have to be a big business boss, be commanding or be bossy because many times business authority and power does not come your way; instead you just have to choose a career, work on it, not not give up on it, by ready to take a leadership position just in case you get it. Women probably prefer men that like to be leaders, even if they are not leaders in business, politics or in his own nuclear familly now; that is leadership position that is earned or given to you. I know security and strength in the home is only an illusion, but by being like a dominant male that is financially ambitions, knows what he wants makes your girl or wife feel more secure, and many ladies go after such men for sweetheart.
An ambitious, well educated dominant male usually quickly climbs up the corporate ladder; this ability to succeed in making a good living is called the cork or cream of the crop by some figurativly speaking; a cork of a fishing line always rises up quickly and naturally in a glass of water. His new (starting) business must withstand the big boys (businesses, competition) such as focusing on product quality rather than in quantity. No more demeaning, emotionally depressing, poor responses from women online; let them (the young women you need) chase you as a dominant male character.
According to others a dominant male or female:
1: directs and controls the conversation.
2: never breaks eye contact first. Others usually break eye contact first.
3: takes the lead purposefully when walking, and going through doors, but is better to let ladies and old people in doors first.
4: some say freely asks questions and expects a response back; does not anwer all questions from strangers, mainly answers those that pertain to them,
but not answering
questions seems cold and looks like you are trying to hide something. Being quiet and secretive with this dominant male code is not needed to get a
girl. Minimizes quantity of information about himself on online public dating profiles
to draw in electronic mails from local girls. A dominant male cannot reveal too much personal information about himself and his age to total strangers on
public for best results (incoming electronic mails from local women). Do not reveal your age too soon to strangers; telling can be your confidence reducer.
Forty, fifty is only a number to you; let her like you and guess your age first before giving that number.
When applying for for work, I believe some prospective emloyers want to know if you can work with others, and want to know if your private works
are competitive with them; a dominant male not suppose to
answer personal questions or questions not relevant to work too soon to strangers, only answer promptly the question relevant to customers; with this,
by being a dominant male and by standing your ground, you get more personal chats with women and the better job. Sometimes a dominant male is a
loner because he does not get aquanted with talk easily and so does not get invited back; this is a trade off that you will need to consider.
He is not suppose to accept any employment type and conditions when looking for work, and so is not afraid to ask questions about his possible
duties in work interviews. Need to be carefull about these dominant male codes: what works well for chasing ladies such as being secretive may be a
problem in business advertisements.
Why do some people not answer personal questions to strangers?; someday some of us will understand. Is possibly because the strangers are not not know
and are unproven; no revealing precious personal information before two hours of start of meeting with strangers; but there are some exceptions,
love trumps all protocol, behaviour tactics, and dominant male behaviour codes.
5: freely interrupts others speaking at the ends of their paragraphs. Interrupting people's talks is impolite, wait until the topic paragraph was completed.
6: short pause when answering a door knock, or replying to someone. Makes others wait, but not for too long; making people wait is impolite.
7: freely touches others, but not on private parts or carressing.
8: will look at others especially women and demand attention. Others do not do the same back.
9: stands with hands on hips, elbows out to sides; stands up or sits straight.
10: stands or sits taller than others on purpose; does not try to hide at the back of class rooms or business conference rooms.
11: will eat and talk at same time while others can't eat. Sometimes eating and talking at the same time does not look good.
12: to increase the chances of success greatly, he will only talk (personal and business talk) to her live, face to face, in person if
he has the physical ability to do so; and electronic mail and telephone are only used to set up meetings when there is no
other way to reach her. He goes to her work place, school, or home to ask her directly and verbally for a personal date
and home telephone number.
13: a dominant male is powerful in his career and personal goals alone without a lady, or with a lady.
When one gets older past age thirty five and not having worked for over five years, then becomes more difficult to get paid employment; this for some can bring a sense of hopelessness lor some emotional depression. To improve this situation one needs to be more financially ambitious, take more control of one's career, "take the bull be the horn" in making a living, and become more of a dominant male character. At the end of the last professional meeting or academic class you will attempt to do the getting her home telephone number routine in the styles mentioned here; you will close the meeting, not her, you will choose the appropriate and reasonable times to close all meetings with her. When you got her home contact information and she allows it, you will take the leadership of the personal relationship with her; you will decide when, where, with whom, and for how long you do the personal dating with her, and you will be a good host then. When she wants to talk to you you lead the conversation and you choose the appropriate time to end talk, not her end talk. By doing this in your financially and emotionally difficult times of your life, the chances of success should be a lot better.
All business or professional communcation letters to the girl shall be in proper business format to give the letter a dominant male feel and you will not tell your personal information on it, and ask her personal questions on it, because all personal communication with her must be live, face to face, in person if you have the physical ability to do so, to show your confidence, courage and ability to initiate personal talk in person. If she wants to move into your house or wants to marry you, you take leadership of this task and proceed, because one of the the biggest problems of not getting a relationship is to do nothing.
The high achieving dominant male type of behaviour is used to recover into potential sweetheart status when she knows too much negative information about you such as your much employment and medical mental health records
How does a man determine if a woman is a dominant female? She is conceited, makes getting her not easy, is obstinate. What does a man say and do without deception to overcome these to win her as a sweetheart? Many women probably have some of these properties. These are: she is difficult to reach or plays hard to get, she is demanding perhaps asking for money or is asking high qualities in a man, she is sarcastic and condescending to you, she acts unimpressed by your romantic gestures. You cannot guess or speculate on what a women is thinking and feeling by a few of her behaviours. There is really no such thing as a dominant female; the husband usually ends ruling the his wife and daughters, or fiance. If she seems like a dominant female and the relationship is not going well, one can reduce the amount of rewards to her by making less contacts attempts per month. Reducing number of contact attempts may not be enough. May need to confront the deep, hidden issues why she is not responding to your email. Deal with reality rather than inaccurate theories, idealism, speculations and opinions. Ask questions like: does she think I need her, which girl do I really want now, what does she really want in a relationship? Look at your self in a full length mirror and photographs, and ask: do you like your clothes, are the shoulder and sleeve widths to wide, are your pant (trouser) leg dimensions to wide in certain places, are the soles of my shoes too large? I did not dare to ask personal questions, and do small talk face to face when I had the chance to. Is our relationship too overwhelming now, and does she need more time to get to know me, gain trust in me, get accustomed to my personality? What actions and preparations should one take now to get her?
Women go after men that have a degree or three year diploma that has leadership training of masculine carreer as example profiles here show, or after the star of the show, the head honcho, or the macho man. He may not get a leadership position at work, but the ambitious heart and potential as leadrer is still there.Take a carefull look how the couples met. This means that men with feminine and subservient jobs like hair dresser, ballerina, nurse, cashier are less lilely to be chased be women. The same online profile with career changed from engineering to hair dresser produce no incoming electronic mail from women. Women prefer men that have interesting careers; a man that gets excited about selling auto insurance is less likely to be chased that men who get excited about designing a new airplane. Many usually women prefer men who like to be leaders, have high financial ambitions; this makes her feel more secure, this is how they are born they like their men in charge of the household. Every body wants to be boss and not follow orders, being a rightfull leader in the work place requires courage and relationship skills. Some ewomen like men who have the courage to be leaders and the courage do do new or different things. Ambition: in persuit in excellence in career, wife. Young girls dream of marrying princes and women dream of men with good leadership skills, ambition like a prince. Is always better not to let you body go, but take care of your body to you ability. In many cases a man cannot get a leadership position at work or make ten mllion dollars in 2010; one could try to become a domonant male, but with no success now the ambition and heart is still there,
A dominant male does not try too hard to get the girl by not revealing too much information about himself too soon, he gives just enough information to do the job because showing her your work resume and diary papers (too much information) too soon usually does not work, showing too much information and trying to hard on the public dating profile may reduce or stop incoming electronic mails from women, he does not have to try to impress her too much, does not behave as if desparate for a girl; he takes it easy, does the chase slow but steady; he does not ask the girl to marry him but makes the girl want to move into his place after second personal date and sharing the basic information or invite him to meet again. Example for first encounter on side walk of busy streets: use the getting her home telephone number method shown here: "Hello. Where are you heading now?, "_.", walk beside her, "My name is Johnathan. What is your name?", "Jane.", ..., " I have lived here in Spokane for about five years. Have you lived in Spokane all you life?", "No.", "Where were you from?", "_.", at pedestrain crossing: "Go over there.", "May I have your telephone number?, "Yes. 341 1234 .", ... .
Making power resumes for work applications: improve the quality and magnificence of your work; know your financial value; multi-million dollar plans.
Improving Your Social Skills
Improving social skills could be simply learning how to introduce yourself and talk to people. The house may be quiet, and perhaps television, video games, internet and too much texting was a substitute for real live personal chats with women. These things may be fine for some entertainment needs, but as a source to fullfil relationships with women is not adequate. When relationships and making money does not go well, one may seek comfort in these things. Are you a single uncle sitting quiet and alone in the corner, eating at parties with no lady to talk to, and not knowing when you get a sweetheart? Are you going to the movies or watch television just so you can hear a woman speak? Perhaps improving your social skills and communications skills may help you get personal dates with women to go to family parties. Good personal communication methods are also shown in this page.
Take Care Of Your Appearance and Body To Your Abilities
Take care of your appearance; why not? Why not look your best that you are able to achieve?
Observe that on the streets, girls with dates have decent grooming or nice hair. Combed long hair will give you the advantage over uncombed, messy, greasy long hair on the streets or at work to get attention or a second look, for turning girls heads or eyes on the streets in your direction. Some combing of hair and shaking of your dandruf before leaving the house should do. Decent grooming and dress, and a clean automobile in good condition are more likey to turn heads or eyes of ladies briefly in your direction on the streets. Nice hair and a tidy shirt on picture can bring in electronic mails from women.
The shortest hair length is not always the best look; at least 1" length may be better.
Getting Acquainted and Her Contact Information
Seeing girls on the street, shopping mall or ball dance without getting her contact information is like two ships passing by each other in the night, is just like having no relationship at all, you may not see her as stranger again on another day. The relationship may start when you get her contact information such as her work street address, telephone number, texting address, etcetera. You can talk for a whole hour at a party, restaurant or bus trip and kiss the girl, but if you did not get her name and telephone number, then the relationship will be lost when she leaves there. Then, getting her name and contact information is the key and first step to starting personal relationhip with a girl. You are alone and lonely with no single women at your work, and when you see a woman on the streets of a big city, this is probably the first and last time you will see her unless you can get her telephone number. How to get a girl's name and telephone number in most situations independant on her financial status and level of beauty; on the streets, when she is with another male personal date(s), after professional meeting and even after a funeral. After she gave you her contact information for the purposes of courtship; her past exhusband, exboyfrien(s), past dates, past kisses or professional relationships are basically irrelevant in this relationship. Is usually considered impolite or rude for a new man to ask for a woman's home telephone number too soon especially if the man's marital status and personal dating intentions are not known to her, because it is seen as asking for intimacy too soon; a woman's home telephone is an intimate and personal way of communicating with a woman; then only ask for her home telephone at the last minute of the encounter or at the last minute of the last professional encounter unless you have no choice but to ask early. Seems some women feel it is too personal or improper to give a new man her home telephone number too soon when she does not know the man; then to get her home telephone number you have to give something (information) back in return, at least tell: tell your name, reveal your marital status. A woman usually resists giving her home telephone number too soon to strangers; you must get acquainted a little with talk first before asking for her home telephone number. You do not have to tell all now; just a little. Always do this getting her home telephone number routine that is asking for her home telephone number near the end of the professional encounter(s) or near end of the last encounter if the latest encounter time is known. The woman will leave at the end of the professional encounter and so be ready and in place to start the getting her home telephone number routine. Improve the chances of getting her home telephone number at first chat, do not be arrogant, use: interesting conversation, find a way to reveal your marital status, watch your body language and posture, portray a positive image of yourself, watch the condition quality and cleanliness of your shoes and clothing. Some say you cannot make someone or a girl like you, you cannot buy love, but you may still be able to get a girl's name and home telephone number anyways on the streets even if she does not know you, these methods might help. She loves and admires her suiter (man) that she knows for a few years, so this seems, they seem like an ideal couple; what are you going to do to steal her away from her current man?; do the chase in person (face to face). What you say and how much to say depends on her age, the location of chase and the amount of audio privacy you have. Is a lot easier to ask persistently when no others are in the audio range of chat; as you will be less imbarrased when she declines to give her telephone number. If she is young and never married before; this usualy increases the chances of succcess as divorced women are more cautious and mistrusting toward new men. A woman does not have to be in love with you, be infatuated with you, or admire you to get her name and telephone number as we might assume, you do not even have to be a tall, handsome, white millionare, or a young prince charming either to do it; see how to get her name and telephone number with less than ten sentences on the streets, it is simple, what you also need is some courage. You can be the sixth man to dance with her at the ball there and not have a cultural bond with her and still be able to get her name and home telephone number. She can have male friends at work she knew for weeks and you meet her for the first time and get her name and telephone number before these men. You do not have to use speaking tricks, induce curiosity in her or reverse psychology; just ask as shown here. An electronic mail address is easy to give, because she can choose to ignore the calls or change her electronic mail address. She may even have a bad day today for some unknow reason; see how to get her name and telephone number even then. Once the personal relationship has started you nearly become the new master in her life as women seem to prefer family, her children, and husband or fiance more that a house or particular city. A method for getting a woman's home telephone number for courtship. Preferably the home telehone number should be sought, because it improves your standing as a sweetheart more than a her work telephone number. Her real name and home telephone number directly from her mouth is like a high school garduation diploma into a personal relationship with her. Her home telephone number gives you and her the privacy to be more verbaly intimate. You want to avoid using her business or professional telephone number; she will probably respond more favorably with her home telephone number, and her home telephone number is greater sweetheart privilege than her business telephone number alone. The voice telephone verifies your voice with its better privacy is the closest and most intimate or hottest communication method after live talk; for this reason women in texting only relationships prefer not to reveal their home land telephone number too soon or until he promises to meet in person. She does not know it yet; but do you know that as soon as you get her home telephone number directly and in person from her by voice and have permission to call her there she can be like putty in your hands (almost conquered, get your way with her soon) soon when you chase her well. When a girl believes you have chosen her as sweetheart after decades of lonely search she will want every body to know, so be prepared to do the chasing and personal talks with her in front of others most of the time. You do not need to date more than one woman at the same time; you can get a new telephone number from a woman within one to seven days depending on how busy the place is and your appearance if you follow this advice and your intuition. Go to a busy downtown or a mall to talk to women. If you can get her work street address also this would be be better, then you can visit her if she does not answer her home telephone. Do not get wound up (stressed, worrying), but make it a fun and relaxing actitivty. For a woman, sweetheart love is talk, romance, close proximity, her man not courting other ladies, and usually not sex; do not end the chase encounters too soon, talk and focus your attention on her as long as possible, and stand or sit close as possible to her to weaken her resistance of attraction to you. Make strong eye contact when either of you speak, face the front of your body in her direction, sit or stand as close as possible to her as standard protocol allows because you must still respect her space at this time. The length of time for the getting the contact information routine depends on the time that is given to you; the longest lasting routine should be chosen for the time you have. On the street or bus stop where your time is short, a short lasting getting contact information routine may be used; while if she is at her work place, you never met her before and you do now work there, you cannot ask her for her telephone number immediately, the getting her contact information routine has to be longer in duration (more words). Trying to get a woman's contact information, mending a broken relationship or dating involves mainly three steps: prepration, setting and action. Preparation is simple getting the knowledge, skills and ability to do the task. The setting is the place and situation where the task takes place like a shopping mall, swimming pool, a party that has been made for this purpose. The setting also involves trying to get a specific mood in the place. Each place has a different mood or ambiance, for example a doctor's office with a relationship policy has a different mood than an informal swimming pool. This mood, ambiance or situation affects how people think and behave. A setting is chosen that will make getting the results easy as possible and least stressfull as possible. For example, it is easier to get a girl to kiss you in a hip pad (apartment) than in a government office building. For another example, it is easier to propose for marriage to a woman in a fancy and romantic restaurant than after a hard day's work in a food cannery. The setting is also: behave as you want other people to behave that is within the law. Sometimes you do not want a formal, reserved setting, and company policy, but a more open, free and fun setting where she feels at ease and enjoys the meeting. Perhaps she does not want to spend time alone with you with you moping and stressed out, and a party atmosphere with you and other men is prefered by her. I believe women like social activities where there is verbal exchange and to connect; staring at a movie screen in the dark with movie sound blarring and with you may not be enough. If you can find a place to go to where she can talk to others and have fun, you are more likely to get a date. Younger women are more likely to enjoy fun activities like roller skating than older ones. Your intentions when going to the setting also affects the mood or ambiance of the place. For example when you go to the place for work interview, the mood is different than when you go to the same place for an office party. Music, colour of clothing and cologne can affect the mood of the setting. If you put some cologne on your clothes at the office, the mood becomes more relaxed, less formal and more romantic. Action is simply trying to achieve the task physically. Action involves going out and finding a woman to talk to, making her feel more at ease with talk and then getting the contact telephone number. Watch your body language and walk: it should convey confidence, feeling of ease, direction in your life, move not to quickly, and stability to quickly attract a woman; do not look nervous, look scared like stuttering, look self absorbed like your are avoiding eye contact, do not look away from people especially women and do not act with body language like you are scared of her. Do not pause talk like you do not know what to say like: "Um, um. ... How old are you?". The action part consists of some steps to make can easy transition toward the result. The result is to get contact information from the woman like a home telephone number. If you can get her contact address, even better. The action consists of five or seven steps: getting time to talk, introduction, start small talk, tell about yourself, ask for her telephone number, tell more about yourself, get her street address. Asking for contact information too early you probably will not get it, and asking too late she mauy no longer respond; it is all about saying the required things in proper order. When you can ask for contact information depends on the amount of time you have. Whe a man wants to get a woman's contact information he has a special pride: he does not ant to teel too much information to prove him selg or to impress her; then ask her the question first and then amswer the same question yourself. When trying the get her contact information, avoid letting her end the meeting unless she is in her own home; you must take the lead in personal relationships with a woman; she is a single adult and can afford to wait and talk another fifteen minutes. Minimize visibility of your associations like company logo on your person to others for first talk, pretend to be a boring and lonely man; hide your trinkets and carry ons like watch, jewelry, logos on clothing, ornate belt buckels, shopping bag, unecessary baggage. When a family member brings in a new girlfriends for lunch to your house is always best to greet first; the greeting should be the first words said in homes or meetings when meeting new people; for this reason, the chase should always start with a greeting like "hello" or "good afternoon". Discreetly take four to five deep and full breaths and on the third or fourth breath approach her. As you approach her as potential sweetheart she will probably study almost everything about you that her daily behaviour and protocol allows: each look at other ladies there, your confidence, your public relationship skills, etcetera; be carefull about your details that are in your control. Start this method by introducing yourself like this: "Hello, I am Johnathan Doe from Spring Road, Spokane. What is you name?". "How are you today?". "Are you from Spokane (here)?". Try to make her tell about herself first, but women will usually not share personal information about her self until you say something about yourself, give her a chance to talk and then you answer the same question, always keep the most important questions first and ask the most personal questions last. If the front of your body is not allready facing her, slowly face the front of your body in her direction (centre of her body) and preferable the font of her body facing you. Sit straight on chair, head high as possible, face your body front and head in her direction. Watch your body langauge; what seems fine to you may appear weak or avoiding to her. You can then start a conversation to share information, like this: "I was from Spokane, Washington; are you from around here?". Answer the question you are about to ask her first. Discreetly move yourself so the front of her body and head is facing you, with both facing your fronts to each other. You may be scared now; do not forget to breathe well; give yourself time to breathe. Perhaps invite her to lunch at a restaurant at walking distance. Next is the focus part. In this part focus on here, talk only about her, do not talk about yourself and other topics in this stage. Face here straight on, looking at her face or eyes when either of you speak. Do not allow your eyes to wander to look at other things and people especially other females. Ask more questions about her. To get response evoke in her: curiosity, or temporary jealousy that is not too damaging. It is all about timing; asking too early in the meeting or talk you probably will not get her telephone number; you have to give the correct information and the right quantity of the information. When the moment feels right, ask for her contact information. Once you got her contact information (home telephone number) just verify it the next day and you are have completed. What happens when you ask for her home telephone number and she says: "why", do not give or use excuses to be with a woman. Do not tell why you want her telephone number at this time; you do not know for sure at this time anyways. Instead, appear emotionally strong with the front of your body facing her and looking into her eyes: gently, firmly and clearly repeat this question. This may work if she thinks you do not have much time to talk and she knows some about you allready; say: "Hello", shake her hand firmly if she gives her hand, "How are you today?", wait for at least five seconds, "I live in Spokane. Are from Spokane (here)?", wait for at least five seconds, "I am not married. Are you married?", if she does not answer this marital status question do not ask again and do not ask other important questions, "May I have your home telephone number?". You do not need to give too much information about you or your life story now, because you are just asking only for a telephone number and short chat, not a marriage. You can do this when you do not have much time such as on the streets or at a bus stop. The number of sentences needed to get (meet) a girl depends on the setting, the girl, and your grooming and dress. To ask for a telephone number do not tell too much about yourself at this point because you are not asking for a marriage now; advertising yourself on the streets may not feel good. Watch your movements and composure: do not stutter, look anxious (scared), look depressed, dawdle, or sound somber; be assertive (dominant) like as if you do not accept a no for an answer. Use cheerfull and assertive expressions with speech; watch the setting: do not rush the questions, focus on her, focus on the both of you and focus on the task. Avoid giving her excuses or reasons to see you at this time, and trying too hard by giving too much information about yourself at this time; only you can feel how much information to give is appropriate; do not try too had to get her by making and using a long questionare for her. You can make her reveal her marital status by a few actions, body language and a short introduction that reveal your presonal intentions, and being patient. Do this on the very first meeting; waiting for the second meeting is usually much more difficult with time passing by with new relationships developing. Organize your thoughts, conversation topics, information requirements and sentences; use proper language and good sentence making abilities, and she will be checking for these, and if you pass you are more likely to get her telephone number. Your tone of voice should be gentle and friendly, but firm, not too loud, not too soft. Slow down the speed of the talk; if your voice tone is a high pitch, you may lower the pitch slightly.
Have an open posture like your are interested or paying attention; not trying to hide posture. Do not look like you are afraid, too shy or avoiding to touch her arm, because this may look like you do not want to touch the other person that is walking by.
The easiest way to get a girl's home contact information at first encounter has four main steps, and by doing these you will pass the most important tests of: confidence to initiate personal talk live (in person), persistence of chase and assertiveness to relationship, financial self-reliance, your dominant male communications skills, not being too sexually agressive. These four are:
1: Be prepared for the chase for her as sweetheart and relationship: build your confidence to start personal talk in person
with women, complete post high school schooling.
2: Go to the public place where the women you want are such as the busy street side walks, shopping malls, campus grounds,
public library, etctera; and if possible you will be doing no business meeting with her there for the chase. Do not leave the
area too soon; if possible stay in the area for at least one and a quarter hours. Make sure she or
other women can see you there, and when they are in private property wait for her or them to walk into your public area.
3: The ice breaker or conversation and getting to know you. This ice breaker talk and getting to know you a little usually helps
making getting her home telephone number easier emotionally. Some may be afraid to ask immmediately on first sight
her name and telephone number; this ice breaker talk and telling a small amount about should help ease into the asking
her telephone number stage of encounter. Use what you see and hear or what she is doing there as conversation topics
and then tell briefly about your self; you do not have to say much, do not try to hard to get her as sweetheart, say just
enough for now. As her a question or two and tell a single sentence about you before asking for her home telephone number.
Each situation and girl is different so quickly asess the situation and use your experience, intuition, sense, feeling and
your mind, these dating guidelines to determine what to say, where to say, when to say, what not to say, how much to
say then. Only ask the most personal questions last such as if she has any children. Do not ask for her home telephone
number too soon unless you must ask early at encounter; always ask for her home telephone number at last minutes of
the encounter, or at the last minutes of the
last encounter if the last encounter later is likely to occur.
4: The greeting such as "Good day", "Hello", "Good morning."; introduction such telling each other's names;
and requesting her name early at encounter
and home telephone number near end of encounter.
Below are some examples for different situations.
The best places to get a woman is when she is not bound by work duties at the moment or is not a captive audience such as on the streets, mall or restaurant. Get better respect as a chaser by talking to her when she is not a captive audience like in a professional meeting. The fastest and best way to get a relationship is to go on the busy streets or shopping mall and start fresh where there are no office and business politics, policies, dating policies, distractions, obligations, apparent game playing and romance; choose the girl you really want; no game playing, step into the relationship and get it done. Love seems only in the movies until
you found the right girl; you have been waiting for the dream girl you really want; quickly study the women there; carefully choose the girl, preferrably the girl you realy want. Use this above method but instead of asking her for her telephone number, ask where she is going after this talk, do not use your business with her as the topics of the talk only, she will say home even if she was not heading home; then ask her if you can follow her home. Telling that you are single and you are looking for a wife may not be enough; actions speak louder than words; you may want to follow her home in case she will not answer your telephone calls. A woman responses most favorably to personal advances if she is the only woman in the place, at her own home, and senses no game playing on your part. If she is on the streets with you with no current ties (your work relationships) she will probably accept. Once you are there (at her house), if you are a good talker, using this method, depending on you, and senses no game playing on your part, you might get instant results, but if not ask if you can see her again and ask her for her telephone number. You are three quarters the way there, now you need to nurture this relationship, and then you got it. When trying to get instant results of love always do it in person (live). Go for a girl you realy want, follow most of these guidelines, greet and introduce your name, talk about yourself in person such as where you are from, what you are doing, tell her you are single, tell your family situation, exchange some personal information, discuss an interest like favorite shows and music, compliment on her looks and tell her she is your dream girl, and if she senses both of you are and item, she will likely surrender to you on this day. The task needs a purpose which is what you realy want; choose the strongest purpose which is a serious relationship; be decisive, which will give you the strength to complete the task. You are a middle aged man and you do not seem to be able to get a steady girl; she either lives to far away, is not answering her telephone, is not answering her door bell, the divorced ones do not want any more childeren, she allready has someone else, or she does not want a relationship with you; I am not mentally retarded, what did I do wrong, you think?
When going to a dance, instead of trying to dance with too many women, rather choose carefully and focus on the girl you really want. Dance, chat with her and try to get her home telephone number. Be assertive; do not allow yourself to wait too long for her attention. By focusing on her, with friendly chat and not dancing with other girls there in front of her she will probably be eager to see you again. This should make success more easier. Do the getting her telephone number routine as soon as possible when you see her for the first time; you do not want to look for her there looking like you trying to see who is talking to who.
What happens if you ask for her telephone number and she instead says: "Why?"; then do not give phoney excuses, be more honest, direct and concise, and say: "I would like your company, and see you again; a long term relationship". Avoid saying simple sentences like: "For fun." Do not beg or argue why she should be with you, but simple repeat the process. Sometimes you have to overcome your shyness, set aside etiquette and be more blunt. Etiquette only works for ideal life conditions. If you do not want to be blunt, do not give or use excuses to be with a woman such as: "I need a study partner for English classes", "We have similar interests in school". Do not argue why you should meet with her; but simply repeat the request question to her. Local women are best chased in person, not online.
What do you do if she is busy working at the customer service counter?
What do you do if she is walking and you are standing at a bus stop? You cannot block her path.
Boost your confidence and power for the getting her contact information with the best physical (in person) approach to her: Do you know to get favors like a kiss from a adult woman on the spot she does not even have to know your name and education level? She can decide to give you her telephone number by your first impression on her sometimes.
She goes by your grooming and dress, your body language, eyes, your tone of voice, and level off attention on her there. She also goes by her gut
feeling, intuition and sense
of your sincerity. Walk in a back straight and confident way; try to walk in a straight line if possible; do not limp or
woddle; as you walk within a metre or two
look into her eyes; start the routine for getting her contact information close to her ear with a firm, gentle and stable
voice loud enough for her to hear clearly but not to alert others; look back at her eyes
and wait for an answers. Your body stance should not be imposing or funny, but looks confident and gently waiting for permission. If she was walking away from you, call her with the correct tone of voice to stop her walk and approach her slowly in the style just said. Have the front of your body in her direction, and how close to her you should stand when you ask depends on your intuition and should be not further than one metre away. Do not look down or away too much and look like your are trying to avoid her. When asking for her telephone number, your head should be higher than her's, stand or site straight; by showing your ambition and dominance like this may make her feel a little better if she feels sad; this may reduce the chances of no telephone answer. Do not worry about dating protocol, or that you do not have enough money or that you are too old. Do not worry about her emotions that were out of your control like if she was cranky a few hours ago.
Preferably she should be a new woman who does not know
anything negative about you for certain. Your dress and grooming should say that you care what people think of you.
To get a marriage with her may be much more difficult. Your eyes should not be shifty like you are scared and looking
for police. You can use this style of approach to boost your confidence with the getting her home telephone number routine.
Pre-introduction and de-alienation: When you see a woman at her work place such as a public library and you do not work there, you cannot ask her for her home telephone number immediately,usually. A woman usually will not answer personal questions to a stranger, but you may still be able to get her telephone number still. You will need a little time as a pre-introduction before you start the telephone number getting routine. You are allowed to to this if you have time. You may need to stage a second encounter at her work place and then start a chat then. You can wait for about twenty minutes before the chat; when you start the verbal chase to try to get yourself invited to her place, you use kuat mendekati
and when she likes you and is interested in you, about half way through the chat, by anticipation she wants you physically and you may detect this when she emits pheromones and her body movements slightly changes. Her body movements may slow down a little or move faster, looses slightly less control of her movements (walking), her voice may become less loud, her heart beat may become a little faster. A good way to change to mood and get attention is to sit or stand there and do nothing.You are there for a private reason, which is to get her name and telephone number. At the public library, the men were doing something: reading books, asking questions or pretending to walk somewhere; this is not changing the ambiance or mood of the encounter.
One woman does not seem to be enough. Perhaps you want to date two women at the same time on the same dates. How to get two women's contact information and to get both to go on the same date with you. Two girls are less scared of you than one girl perhaps. The may make seeing two girls at the same time and place easier. Go in a busy area like city streets, shopping mall, or large library and look for a girl with her female friend, approach them and start chat and contact information getting routine. Here is one example routine using only your first proper name: "Hello girls.", "I am Jonathan from Spokane". What are your names?", "Are you two from around here (city name)?", "I was from _.", ..., "Can I call you? The three of us can watch a movie here next week?", "Can I have your telephone numbers?". Do not use excuses to explain why you want to be with two girls at the same time and place, or find reasons why you should not have them both at the same time and place; if they say why, do not say why but simple repeat the request to meet them. Watch your body language, it should look gentle, calm, should have straight stance (not slouch or lean to one side). Keep eye contacts to them, avoid looking at other people at chase. Give both of them about equal eye contacts when talking and clearly indicate you want them both on a date so that one will not feel alienated.
If you (man) have to go to her workplace to get her telephone number go there with wearing masculine clean clothing and shoes that are not oversized and not over padded, that are not too casual; walk in, look briefly at the receptionist's eyes and say: "Hello. I will just be here a few minutes.", go to her work station and if she is there start the getting her telephone number talk routine. Avoid using another professional or business meeting as an excuse to get there; you must show the courage of being there just for personal reasons with her. Example: at her work place; "Hi. May I help you?", "Hello. I am Johnathan. I did not catch you last name last time; what is your last name?", "Susan.", ,"What kind of course did you take in school to get work here?", "Business administration.", "My education was in mechanical technology at _.", "Do you have any children?", "No.", "Me neither. I am single.", ..., "Can I have your home telephone number?" Yes. 341 1234 .".
Private formal self introductions: not telling about her marital status could be a little snobby and may indicate her level of interest in the man as a sweetheart. The best way to start a personal relationship is to reveal and discover the personal intenstions and situations like martial status of each other as soon as possible. Talks to get a telephone number at online texting and in person chases should be similar. Marital status, personal intentions, and living locations informations are shared. An example talk 4 comparing both contact methods types.
Sometimes you may not have much time; you need to move quickly. You can try to hold hands within two minutes of start of chat. You cannot dress and groom poorly, people can smell if your jeans and shirt have been worn consecutively for a week without washing; dress masculine, with not oversized clothing; you do not need to dress super fancy, dress like you would in a home party. Walk slowly, be alert; choose a girl you realy want. You will be able to sense of she is single or not available; single women are likely to work longer, go to school or take public transport more, hang around (stay) longer in the area. Go to the places where the women you want might be. You introduce yourself and then eventually invite yourself to see where she lives. Use your real proper first name; if your name is Dave, lengthen it to the proper name David or Davidson. When a man sees a woman at first site, he may want her within a few seconds, while a women may take at least about fifteen minutes of personal chat and focus (attention on her) from him face to face to invoke similar desires. Then the chase talk should last not less than half a minute; give a short pause between each question. Here is a example talk when the duration time of the encounter is not certain: "Hello. My name is Davidson. What is your name?", "Jane.", "I live here in Spokane. Do you live in Spokane?", "Yes.", "I live alone in the South. Are you married?", "No.", "Me neither.", ..., "Are you leaving?", "Yes .", "Can I follow you home, and see where you live?, "Yes.", "Let us go.", walk, then in about 20 second try to hold her hand, do some more personal chat along the way; remember, you do not need an excuse to be with a women, if you can talk yourself into her house, the conquest is almost done. Get better results or go further by doing the chase and all personal chats in person (live, face to face). Then after spending the rest of the day with her alone in her home, is possible that she will not open her front door again to you which means that you will have to complete this chase and comsummate this relationship in one evening or within three days.
In many cases, especially with professional encounters, when first meeting a woman she will not answer any personal questions within the first ten minutes of meeting. She may not want to show that she is willing to please everyone sexually by not answering your personal questions; this could be a good thing if you are her mister right. Telling that you are single and looking for a wife may not be enough either. This may be your first and only chance to get her contact information, and she probably knows this. A woman usually does not give any details about her activities to potential sweethearts or strangers, probably because there may be other handsomes trying to get her telephone number then, the romance involved there and financial benefits there. Just because she does not want to talk today does not mean that she is not interested in a personal relationship. All what one can do is to greet, introduce oneself, ask for her first name and telephone number. You use your first impressions there. Do not sound afraid by flinching, hesitation to speak, looking down or talking to weakly; the tone of voice shoulds be firm, clear, sufficently loud, but polite and non-threatening. You do not tell her where you were from (city) in this session; does it really matter to her if you were from Idaho or Washington? Ask about her marital status after getting her name and telephone number; and if she still does not answer this question then she is probably single. Here are three examples. The words in Italic font are her's. Example one is in a public library near end of encounter: "May I help you?", "Good afternoon. Perhaps I can use keywords on the computer here to find books, information.", "Start a new search here. Click on screen button.", " Yes. I have used this before.", ..., "Thank you. My name is Jonathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane.", "Are you married?", "_ ... .", "May I have your home telephone number?", start moving toward your kegigihan kekuatan (persistant) chase approach, "345 1234.", "Are you married to a husband?", "No.". Example two in a department store: "May I help you?", "Hello, good afternoon. I was just looking at the furniture that are for sale here. Are all these furniture and appliances in this area damaged goods?" ,"Yes.", "I was just finishing look around here. Thank you. My name is Jonathan Doe. What is you name?", "Jane. ", "May I have your home telephone number?", "". Always use your full name in the introduction. Example three at a bus stop: "Did bus sixteen allready passed here? ", "No; I did not see it; I just got here; I am waiting for the same bus.", walk a little closer to her if you are too far away, ..., "Good afternoon. My name is Jonathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane. ", ..., "Here is my bus.", "Wait; may I have your home telephone number?", "Why?", smile, "Do you have any children?, "No.", "Me neither.", ..., "May I have your telephone number?", ", "Sure; 345 1234. ". Note in the professional talk, you try to use as many words as possible to attempt to make a good impression; be polite by thanking her on completion of professional meeting and then start the chase at end of professional encounter. She will give her telephone number because she is worried she might get imbarrased if you go into kegigihan kekuatan (persistant) chase mode. If you allready have her work telephone number and her name, to break the resistance to a personal relationship with her, you must force personal talks before or after the professional meetings. In this situation always start the personal talk with small talk or trivial questions, and ask about her marital status last, check for a wedding ring on her fourth finger; prepare ahead of time what to say; example: she is an assistance looking for work, "Fine. I will see you at our next meeting here. Thank you.", "Are you from Spokane; or another city", "Spokane .", "I lived in Spokane for about five years.". If she is young and does not wear a wedding ring on her middle finger, then there is large chance that she is not married; choose your words appropriately. Keep eye contact when you talk, this forces her more to answer qustions and makes personal talks much easier within professional encounters. Focus your attention on her during this seesion by facing thr front of your body in her direction and by not looking at other people there until this talk is completed. Observe here that you answer the same questions first that you will ask. You just saw her on the street and you feel you have a disadvantage to other men there because she does not know you; but this is usually not the case; get her name and telephone number in front of others this way. Get her first name and telephone number this way even if you do not know if she is married. Do not try to compell her to say something by talking to loud and in a demanding way. Usually a woman will not answer any personal questions about herself at the very first talk to a stranger. When meeting her for the first time and you initiating the chase, as a dominant male you have the privilege to ask her one personal question. The question should not be about her activities with other people and details about her activities. This is a test: if she answers this question, you can develop this relationship quickly. Take it slow at first sight; no less than ten seconds from first sight to number request sentence; a decent relationship requires at least five seconds from first sight to develop. Example at second sighting at her workplace, street or school to a woman you really want and need: "Hello. I am Johnathan Doe. Do you remember me?", "_.", "What is your name?", "Jane.", "I was from Idaho. Where were you from before living here in Spokane?", "California.", "May I have your home telephone number?", "Sure; 345 1234.", ... . You may need to try to ask personal questions, if she did not answer the first question, you may have to ask for her telephone number. This is for most situations when you have legal entry into the building even if her other male suiter is always there with her. What happens if she did not give her telephone number after a few requests?; so what?, but once you have her home telephone number you will have the dating advantage, is not about who dated her first or the quantity of dates with other suiters. She may not even answer your small talk, but you may be still above to get her telephone number; examples of first meetings on the street: a poor talk: "Helloo. Nice sunny day today. How do you like the parade?", "_.", "Do you come here often?", "_.", "Numbuh, number?", "_?"; a better talk: "Hello, good afternoon. Nice sunny day today. How do you like the parade?", "_.", "Do you come here often?", "_.", turn and face the front of your body in her direction, make good eye contact when you speak even if she is not looking at you, "My name is Johnathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane.", "I live here in New York. Do you live in New York?", "Yes.", "Do you have any children?", "No.", " Me neither.", "May I have your telephone number?", "Sure. 345 1234. ", ... . To turn on her attraction mode, do not look down or away from her too much like you are apologetic for not more than forty percent of the time during these talks, never read your chase talk from a piece of paper, not speak into the air (not directly to her) and not be apologetic for using this brief time to talk, but do thank her for her time if required. Is usually best to ask a simple question or two before asking for her telephone numbers to calm her nerves and to show your communcations skills, and if she does not answer these questions ask for her home telephone number. When you speak for the first time to a new woman on the streets without an invitation to talk, you may feel shy, scared and uncomfortable to talk about yourself; this may be the correct feeling and behaviour, focus mainly on her in this getting her home telephone number routine. Example on bus at second, third or foruth encounter on bus, obvously you now know her bus schedule and perhaps she knows your schedule by also now: turn the front of your body in her direction as much as the bus seat allows so to keop her in your field of view, make good eye contact when either of you speak even if she is not looking at you, do not let your eyes wander to check out the other women before her during this session, "Good afternoon. May I sit next to you?", "Yes.", "My name is Johnathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane.", ..., "Are you from Spokane?", "_.", ..., "Are you heading for work?", "_.", "May I have your home telephone number?", "Yes. 341 1234 .", ... .
When the woman walks to your table at work: stand up, face in her direction and look at her eyes, shake her hand and say: "Good day. How do you do? Do you remember me?; my name is Jonathan Doe. I did not catch you last name last time?".
When a man does not speak and look at some people at school, she might think he is conceited. Obviously to avoid this, you need to ocassionaly speak with personal talk and look at people.
Verifying important details: this is when you know some information about her in front of your and her family. Improve rapport by asking her for her name and telephone number at dance. By asking for her name and telephone number with not just dancing this reduces the chances of other man getting into bed with her. Dancing at family party with you about fifteen years older than her: "May I have this dance?", "Yes.", ..., "I am Johnathan Doe; Wendy's cousin. What is you name?", "Jane.", "I believe you have children; yes?", "Yes.", "I do not have any children. I am single", "May I have your home telephone number?", "Yes. 345 1234.", ..., "Thank you for this dance.". When you are a little imbarrased to get her contact information from family members; is better to dance and get her telephone number directly from her mouth than to dance with her and not get clear contact information there; if you dance with her and not get her telephone number then this is similar as having no relationship.
Staging chance encounters. In the early twentieth century (1930s, 1940s) they may have this idea of staging chance encounters to meet women. You know where she a light haired, curvy girl lives, perhaps your dream girl, but you do not know her name and marital status, and you feel you seem to have very little cultural connection wiith her, you are older in age than her. Does she live alone, with a parent, a grandfather or with a boyfriend? Looks like children may live there too; perhaps these are her nephews or nieces? Who has ownership of her there; do you have any right to be there? Another suiter or brother who does not look like her was there on her front porch. You are afraid to go to her place to see and ask. What should one do to get this information? How does one become not imbarrased to go there; will she be home and asnwer the door bell? When a man answers the door bell there will you have the courage to say: "I saw a blond young women here, may I speak to her?"?; probably not. One thing you can do is to pretend that you live in the neighbourhood and walk by her home a few times a week. Pass, walk and wait a short while in front of her house on the side walk and then when she comes out of her door, say hello. You seen her twice allready from the bus; the bus makes a lot of noise. When you see her for the third time with you on the bus, get out of the bus and pretend to walk to the store there in front of her house, and say hello if you see her. Now is the time to make her come out of her door. Staging chance encounters in many cases are not really chance; you may be able to get her to come out into safe environements. You will use this method to her to get her into a public and safe environment for you which in this case is the front of her house. You can make her come out of her house with noise such as bus noise, car door closing, talking, elevator noise.
Ringing her front for bell and then saying "I saw a blond young women here, may I speak to her? Is she your wife or sister?"; " is probably not polite way of talking to man there. To avoid awkward situations like this you can try this:. when people want to be together they usually find a way; walk pass her house a few times a week on the same day and time, by your visit times becoming more predictable makes easier for her to meet you, and when she goes outside within your talk space, greet and do the getting her name and telephone number routine in the style mentioned here. Example talk: "Hello, good afternoon.", "_.", pause walk and turn the front of your body facing her direction, make good eye contact and do not let your eyes wander to look at other girls there when you speak even if she is not looking at your face, "My name is Johnathan. What is your name?", "Jane.", "Do you have any children?", "_.", "May I have your telephone number?", "I allready have a boyfriend.", "Is fine. May I have your telephone number?", "345 1234 .". After she tells her name, her boyfriend becomes less relevant as her suiter; repeat this question if needed.
Some men do not seem to have the courage and stature to say to a new (stranger) beautiful women "Hi. What's your number?" on the streets. The body language may be missing to get results. Your body language should convey determination of chase, focus you attemtion on her during chase by pointing you body or face in her direction and making good eye contact when you speak, get her undivided attention at talk, make sure the words are clearly directed to her there (do not speak into the air), your dress must be masculine, show your face by not having this over sized beard or wearing a costume mask. Example chat: walk slowly in her direction and when you reach audio range chat, "Good afternoon. What's you number?", "_.", keep looking in her direction, ..., "I am Johnathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane.", "I live here in Spokane. Do you live in Spokane?, "Yes.". Can I have your home telephone number?, "Yes. 341 1234 .", ... .
You went to a funeral, and there she is a voluptuous girl in her twenties on the inlaw side, probably with her parents there. How does one get past the protocol there and get her name and home telephone number in a respectful way? Perhaps on the next party you might meet but chances are slim, and no one might be talking about her; you will have to get her name and telephone number before she leaves this area, this may be your first and last chance to do so, life must go on. Here is what should have been done: make sure she sees you, do not leave the area too soon, move close as possible to her area, try to point the front of your body in her direction as close as you dare can, keep her in your field of view, try standing within her field of view. By being this close to her and trying to focus your attention on her she will likely not move from the area too soon. They will probably understand that this is your and her's last chance to share contact information; her life must go on after this funeral. Wait as long as possible before chase talk to show respect for the griefing people, approach her and do the getting her name and telephone number routine; do not talk too loud and with jovial tone there, make good eye contact when you talk even if she is not looking at you; here may be an example talk at end of funeral probably at cemetery: " Hello. I am Johanthan Doe; Cindy James' nephew. What is your name?", "Jane.", "My condolance for your family's loss.", wait as long as possible, ..., "May I have your home telephone number?", "Yes. 343 1234 .". An easier way to grief is when the griever or she feels more secure with someone who cares; by sharing contact information this might actually help. Write all contact information on paper; you will liley forget the route to her place in a year; then store contact information in an easy to find address book, safe place, under lock and key; not store in your jacket, mother's automobile or unlocked desk, closet; have lost slips of paper and high school year books over the years, I guess someone(s) at home has interest in keeping me separate from girl(s). Always store precious information (names and addresses), valuable documents and important documents under lock and key especially when you are not living alone in a place; not even wife has key to this drawer.
She may not talk at all at the first chat when you are a potential sweetheart. How does one initiate small talk with a new woman on the busy street or public place, especially with a younger woman? Small talk are about trivial topics or topics not about her or you? What does one do if she does not respond? You can ask about something fun. Usually about entertainment. Example: "Do you like to sing?", "_.", "Do you sing with your MP3 player?", "No.", "Hello, good morning. My name is Johnathan. What is your name?", "Jane. ", "I live here in Spokane. Do you live in Spokane?", "Yes.", "Do you have any children?", "_.", "May I have your home telephone number?", "Yes. 341 1234 .". , ... . Talking about fun to a new girl live or trying to be cute may not be easy to some; try practicing in front of the mirror. You cannot control what she will say or how she is feeling there, or who will be in audio range; instead grab her attention, and focus on your talk and body language.
What does one do if she is stuffy (acts to good for you) walking quickly on the streets and not easy to get? You may also had a difficult day today. You will have to be more mature, intelligent, elegant in the chase and keep your composure in the chase. Can try a catch line first. Intercept, go to close proximity, and follow but without invading her space and touching her now; go do the getting her name and telephone number routine.
You do not need to be cool (great after the style of musicians), composed, in tune (at peak manliness). In nerdy mode, second encounter, at employment search centre computers, she is not a perfect beauty but good enough to do the job: "Good morning, hello. Long time no see?", "_.", "How do you do today?", "_.", "Sorry; I do not remember your name clearly. What is your name again?", "Jane .", "My name is Johnathan.", take it slow, using her computer screen information, ...,
"You are still looking for work in home hardware?, "_.", ..., "I got to go to my class here soon. May I have your home telephone?", "341 1234.", I go to my class now. Talk to you later.".
May be better if the chase attempt style is not too casual. Casual here means: unstructured, not determined to succeed, too playfull, not serious enough. In getting her name and telephone number attempt confront and lead for men; confront and follow for women. Confront here does not mean attack but means make a good verbal connection, focus on the task.
Tell only just enough information to do the job; keep mood and talk positive or neutral; you will have better success this way. If you say too much too soon you may look too desparate to get her as sweetheart, look like your a trying to impress her too much, or you look like you are trying to get approval before getting her telephone number. Other than name and telephone number you should share no more than five personal questions for the geting her home telephone number routine. You or she cannot know a man in one day; sharing no more than five personal questions at first encounter should be sufficient to get her home telephone number. Telling to much information and personality about yourself too soon and forcing the conversion may not work well; and is usually not needed to get her contact information. Giving a half an hour long speech about oneself to a girl on the street is usually against men's feeling; may be a little imbarrasing. Here one attempts to get her true telephone number and home street address with only nine to twelve sentences. You will coerce the conversation in a polite way; in other words you encourage a response by your words, body language, and patients. You may need the girl chasing confidence and emotional power of a hip teenager. You will lead tis impromptu meeting and if she does not walk away here to soon you will release her from the talk at your will; but choose a reasonably length of time for the duration of the chat. Watch you body language as mentionend above; your clothes must not be torn, worn and dirty like a homeless person; avoid asking questions that are too personal or private. Example gettng her name, telephone number and home location live on the street, school ground or bus: "Hello. I am Johnathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane.", "I live here in Spokane. Do you live in this city?", "_.", "Do you live in Spokane?, "Yes.", "May I have your telephone number?" ,"Yes. 341 1234.", "I am heading home from work. Are you heading home from work too?", " _.", Are you going home now?", "Yes.", "I work at the construction zone on Twelfth Avenue. What do you do for work?", "_.", " I live on the third floor in that apartment over there. What street do you live on?", "Fourth Street.", " My apartment number there is 32. What is your house number?", "_.", "Tell me you home street number?", "102.", "Do you live at 102 Fourth Street, Spokane?.", " Yes .", ... . During the getting her telephone number routine in public your answers to her questions if any should be not more than two sentences long; talking too much or revealing your work resume in professonal meeitings looks like you are trying to hard to get her as sweetheart and may not stop a rejection of you as sweetheart. Use your experience, intuition and feeling to know when you have said too much about you too soon. Some men were chased as sweetheart, get admired and get what they want; give yourself some dignity by not telling more than two pieces of information about you other than your name and telephone number during this getting her telephone number routine. The two pieces of information each should be no longer than once sentence; the topics are simple such as where you were from, and where you work at or where you live. You should ask her no more than two question here, and if she dos not answer your first or second question, then ask for her home telephone number. You must ask for her first name, and she will probably answer and if she does tell she will likely tell here telephone number also. Telling her telephone number is not a large thing; she can always ignore your calls or personal requests later in her point of view. If she asks questions, then one would answer these. Once she asks questions and the conversion continues, then getting here telephone number would be easy. To avoid a greater chance of no response to your telephone call, try to be more chatty here with an extra sentence or two.
Some men are probably affraid to try to sit with three new beautiful women at a restaurant table for fear of being rediculed, or the girls laughing too much because they are nervous. Here is how to reduce the chances of ridicule. Offourse make sure your clothing and grooming are decent. Your manners should be decent too; some women can spot an illmannered dude or fighter a mile away. Three attractive looking young women sitting at a restaurant table. One or two seats will be free; choose your favorite girl who you will need as your primary support there. Greet and invite your self to sit on the table. Stay part of the group, engage in conversation; do not look affraid by staying too quiet, frozen stiff, by stuttering; instead relax, take it easy; take the lead in the chase talk. Example at restaurant exterior dining area and busy area: watch your body langauge and tone of voice as mentioned here; convey your confidence, persistence; you will have to address your talk to the primary girl first, you need to get the food before you sit, if you have food to eat there do not focus on your food, focus on the task and the girl; "Hello, good afternoon ladies. May I sit at your table?", "Yes.", sit down on chair and making sure your body is pointing in their direction as much as possible, do not leave the table until the job is done, call for waitress if you need a drink "My name is Johnathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane.", at this stage you should allready be their master just for having the confidence to do this, next is the small talk, ..., "May I have your telephone number?", "Sure. 341 1234 .", ... . To approach these young classy high maintenance girls at the restaurant table who perhaps have other well to do suiters, they do not know you, you did not come there recommended, is a cool imprompu contact attempt, you are feeling frustrated and inadequate this afternoon; to give you extra confidence, make sure your grooming is good, hair neatly combed and trimmed; make sure your back pack, clothes and hat are not dirty and smelly; you are not rich and powerful, then make a good impression with your dress, grooming, body language, words and diginity. Hopefully everything there will go smooth: no food and sweat stains on your shirt, no spinach stuck between your teeth, no hair standing up from the wind and not blown the wrong way into a lady's style; the girls are paying attention. In the busy restaurant you may not have easy access to her area when the furniture is cramped together, some other man is sitting with or near them, but there usually will be at least one seat available nearest them if you look carefully; to reduce your fear focus on one girl you want most there and use her for verbal support or communication link.
Speak with punch for success: speak loud enough for the distance between you and her; committed to task there even if she does not seem to pay attention (forcefull, persistant attempt); point the front of your body in her direction, keep looking at her head or eyes until she says yes; you clothese must not look to worn and too old looking. Do not use an excuse to talk or grab her attention; show courage to get to the point of encounter. Examples in department store at third encounter she knows about and you know her first name allready: a poor attempt: "Hi. Can you tell me where the sewing supplies are?", "Yes; down two isles and then to the left.". "Thank you. By the way; may I have your telephone number?"; a better way: "Hello, good morning. Do your remember me? My name is Johnathan.", "_.", "How do you do today?", "_.", "May I have your home telephone number?", Yes. 341 1234 .".
Despite of assumptions, to a member of the opposite sex may start as early as age eight or even younger. The believe that a six year old person cannot be attracted to a member of the opposite sex is simply not true. The older local girls seem so difficult to get as sweetheart. I do not recommend chasing after a minor; may be illegal to have an intimate relationship with a minor even if she is willing. There is no need to go after minors; most females get their best looks or blossom after age twelve anyways; is illegal to have a sexual relationship wuth a minor, but here is an example talk for curiousity.
While driving to home alone in the cold evenings and hoping that your financial and social situation gets better, and some female acquaintances of your past seem to be scared to meet you (no show, no telephone answer), young unmarried couples perhaps are discussing when to marry and even if they should have sex tonight. Is it your turn to get a girl for serious sweetheart? Go to where the girls are; the busy streets, shopping malls, busy public buildings. Learn to get command of the first personal encounter with girl(s) with a few words and then get her name and telephone number within three sentences. You as man will have to control the destination and agenda of the brief encouter because it will be your personal date this half hour or two hours.
The power chase for sweetheart on streets; get complete control of important matter sof the chase and her a high maintenance beautiful girl with a nice personality from first sight to consumation of the relationship. Get her to talk to you during the getting her home telephone number routine. Online profile pictures get better results with nice hair and clothes. The man with the nicest hair, with nice clothes and who knows how to take care of his skin gets the girls and the jobs; the good news about this is that you can do someting about this: grow your hair a little longer and have it styled, take care of your skin by taking care of your body as mentioned here, whiten your teeth. Girls usually do not answer personal questions on record such as in electronic mail, letter; so the talk will have to have audio privacy, stand close to her when you talk without invading her space. The talk is similar than above, except you make her anwer some questions. offcourse you will have to follow the more important dating rules here. If you have an inkling that she will not answer your telephone callls, one would request to follow her home to get her street address. Offcourse you will have to gain the confidence to talk here. Example talk 5.
You approach her on the street train station, she looks young and single, another man approaches and tries to connect with her by hug, she is about to walk away with him in lovy dovy style, you know what I mean;. You can detect a single women 200 metres away; if she is single you may have this power to call. How to intercept, talk and use your privilege to talk. She is single and you have the privilege to talk and ask for her telephone number just as this other man and other men, even if you just met her, and she loves the other man more than you. An example of countering an interception or leading her away by another man: "Wait, hun, where are your heading? Give me a few minutes? What is your name?", "Cindy.", "My name is Johnathan. I live in the South West. Do you live in town?", "Yes.", ..., "Tell me later.", ..., "Are you leaving?, "Yes .", "May I have your telephone number?", "Yes. 341 1235.". Do the talks slow and easy, for at least one minute; takes about three minutes at first encounter for her mind and body to respond favorably to your close proximity and attention on her. Attraction is partially psychological; you cannot attract her by being rude by touching, carressing or kissing her without permission. You must wait until she is ready and with clear permission. The other man or friend here made a mistake of stealing a hug. Instead this is done by close proximity, focusing your attention on her and by being chatty. At first encounter if you are walking on the street side walk you should request to hold hands and proceed to do the walk and talk. Example: ..., "Let us take a walk over there; give me your hand?", ... . In any difficult courtship situations like this there is no need to do anything illegal, be nasty, be a nuisance or step a on anybody's foot; intead be courteous, polite; do not try too hard get her as sweetheart, but do chase steadily, gently, patiently, dignified.
At an unsolicited encounter one may be a little imbarresed or incomfortable speaking about oneself to a new girl. In this method one does not talk about one self but focus attention on her, ask her one question unless she wants to talk. This is a more natural way; not so bold. Do not talk too fast, give some time between each of your sentences for her to think. As before: point the front of your body in her direction, stand less than two metres away from her, make good eye contact when either of you speak even if she is not looking at you, do not let your eyes wander to check out other girls there before her when your are this close to her. Example talk in public building at an electronics convention: "Hello, good morning. My name is Johnathan Doe. What is your name?, "Jane.", "Do you live here in Spokane?", "No.". "I live here. What city do you live in now?", " Cour de Alene.", ..., "Are you leaving?", "Yes .", "May I have your home telephone number?, "Yes. 341 1234 .".
In this getting her telephone number routine you will obtain control or take the leadership of this brief situation with her. As soon as you start talk or when she told you her name, as her man and her leader you will take control of the conversation and current situation with her; you will ask for her name and home telephone number, ask a few questions and then request to follow her home. Once you are at her door you will request to enter her home; then you will do further talk. Remember now you are her boss and the man will alway rule the woman or his women in this universe; son in law can take father's daughter away to the other side of the world when daughter wants to. You will not need an excuse to be with her or to follow her home if she is single, or separated. Choose the woman very carefully; and with a keen eye you can probably tell she is single. Here you will be a paying customer in the public building like the shopping mall, and you will have partial audio privacy; others will not hear clearly hear even at about three metres away. The tone or mood of your words are not begging, but more commanding, but not threatening; the phrases "will you tell me", "may I" are not often used; your tone of voice will be firm, but gentle and not threatening. You will talk as if she is allready your girlfriend, but you do not own her yet, no sexual touching now. Sometimes is difficult to get a girl online who is allready talking to another man; live, face to face encounters should give the advantage over long distance electronic mail chases; this should reduce the chances of her leaving you to soon for another man, usually. Near the end of her work shift at a shopping mall: "Hello, good afternoon. My name is Johnathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane. ", "What is your last name?", "Susan.", "Did you live here in Spokane all your life or at some other town?", "_.", give your self a few minutes of time, ..., "Are you from Spokane?", "Yes.", "Are you married to a husband?", "No.", "May I have your home telephone number?", "Yes. 341 1234.", "I want to follow you home and see where you live?", "Yes.", ....
On the streets or public buildings like a shopping mall, many times the best looking girls allready have a man talking with her, is with male date, or is following another man. The notion that a person can only romantically love one person is simply not true; how to get a girl's telephone number even if she is allready in love with another man. You wish you had a few minutes to get her name and home telephone number without feeling like an intruder. How to talk with her for a brief amount of time when she is with others without being an intruder, or interferer. This takes courage, alertness and quick action. People are walking by so fast; you need to be alert and be able to take quick action. Here you are she may be talking to him but will not answer personal questions to you. What to do? You have only about three minutes to talk, because you are interupting, like a third wheel. All you can do is ask for some time to talk, greet, introduce, ask one question and then ask for her home telephone number. You will not beg for talk and information, you will sound a little commanding to her; you will not apologize for interupting; you will not acknowledge their date or his chase verbally then in front of her. Be polite, do not put the other man down verbally. Remember: if she is single you have as much privilege to talk to her as any other man, and you do not need an excuse to talk to a woman or be with a woman. Examples: she looks too young to be married, they are aproaching form behind you and walking fast in a shopping mall, wearing business clothing. You have a good eye for detecting single girls by her age, her level of hairdo, make up and clothing, by her behaviour, and by your intuition. An inferior way: "Hi, excuse me, do you have a minute? Hello. I am Johnathan. What is your name?", "Cindy.", "Do you work in this shopping mall?", "_.", "Before I let you go with your date may I have your home telephone number?". A better way: make shure you make eye contact with her as soon as you speak to her, grab her attention with a firm but genlty voice that is loud enough, "Hello, do you have a minute to talk to me? Good afternoon. I am Johnathan Doe. What is your name?", "Cindy .", "Do you work in this shopping mall?", "_.", "May I have your home telephone number?". You are over age forty, heading to a job interview for grocery warehouse person and approaching the metro train station, then there she is, hiding behind some boys; leaning on the wall of the train station, she is about five feet tall and perhaps still in high school. What should one do to get her name and telephone number? Should you stay and forfeit your job interview? Will she give you the time and partial privacy to talk, and tell you her name and telephone number in front of everybody there? Will she ignore you and so display her loyalty to the boys? If she is not engaged to be married to the boy or current date, she will probably do the brief talk to you; grab her attention and invite her to talk firmly but gently. What happens if she the prettiest single woman in town that you really want is at a ball dance, and her dating protocol does not allow her to leave her male date for the evening there?; you would try to get her attention, introduce yourself and do the telephone number getting routine quickly and politely.
When you are affraid to ask for her name and telephone number immediately on first encounter, one could start the first encounter with a brief conversation. Use what you see and hear there to use as conversation topics; and then reveal something about yourself. Keep topics neutral and simple then. Say at least two sentences or questions before asking for her name. Avoid ambiguity in talk, speak clearly, the more intelligent and mature your conversation and words, the greater the chances of success. Each situation is different, and what you say and do depends on who initiated the encounter and her level of friendliness. A woman usually does not answer personal questions to a new man in electronic mail, or telephone call, so when she answers your questions live, in person here you know that you have past the test of confidence and abillity to initiate personal chat face to face, in person. Example: stay in the area for at least one and a quarter hours, at public library table with four chairs, "May I sit here?", "Good morning; yes, sit here.", ..., "Are you studying for school?", "Yes.", "What are you studying in school?", "Arts and Media.", "I studied computer programming at Spokane College.", ..., "Are you from Spokane or are you from another city?", "Cour deAlene.", ..., "My name is Johnathan Doe. What is you name?", "Jane.", "May I have your home telephone number?", "Yes.", "Write number on my paper.", ..., "Can I telephone you next week?", "Yes .". The personal relationships usually starts when you got her name and telephone number directly from her hand, ment for you, in person; you now can follow her in this public building or ask to have a lunch to eat at shop downstairs. Now the relationship is not consummated yet so watch what you say and do then at first and second encounter.
Use the lover' stance during personal talk to show your confidence in the development of the relation: stand as close as possible to her without invading her private space; the distance between your eye and her's must not be more than half a metre apart. The lover's stance is standing as close as possible to her without touching her, with the front of your body pointing in her direction; focus you attention on her then. Example at grocery store: "Hello. What is your last name?", "Jane.", walk to within half metre from eye to eye, "What is you last name?", "Susan .", ... .
When you are an older gentleman with some grey hair and she is about half your age, for better results and more respect for you use only your last name. Example, she is a new office employee at North West Grocery Delivery: "Good afternoon.", "Hi.", My name is Doe. What is your name?", "Jane.", "I am senior accountant here at North West Grocery Delivery. What is your work position here, if I may know?", "Receptionist.", "I have lived in Spokane since 1980. Are you from Spokane?", "No.", Where were you from?", "Coure de Alene.", "I went to Seattle College. Did you get get any post high school education?", "Yes.".
Avoid no responses, rejections on line or long online talks that seem to go nowhere; let the girl come to you alone live. Be prepared to talk. A sweet thirteen year old girl on a bottle drive (collecting empty plastic pop bottles) who is sweeter than a dozen strawberry shortcakes if you know how to verbally connect. If you can wait for about four years and attempt to call her about every three to four months you will have a true love who will never leave you. At you front door is easier because she alreafy knows you a little. The assumption that young girls are only interested in boys and young men is not always true. If she has her own smartphone; then you are lucky. Example dialog at your front door step; observe that your sentences are clear and not to short in length: "Good afternoon.", "Hi. I am collecting plastic bottles. Do you have any?", "Let me check if I still have some; give me a minute.", ..., "Do you mean like these plastic bottles?", "Yes.", ...., "What is your name?", "Jane.", My name is Johnathan. May I have your telephone number?", "Yes.", ..., "Do you live in this neighbourhood?", "Yes." ,... . Use good dialog and communications skills, gentle words and introduction, sharing a personal question to bring out her sweet personality if any; personal chat and sharing a few personal questions in person, live, face to face is one key to get possible fiance status later. The best personal chat to get verbal connection is with greeting, introduction and getting the contact information; personal information of where you grew up, where you work is much out of your control.
The grab her attention, call to halt, talk and release from encounter method. At age forty after walking many cold winter mornings on the side walk on the hopes of catching another glimpse of her; then on one day, there she is the office tower darling on her way to work, my second sighting of her, this may be my last chance to get her name and contact information. Will she be too good for me or will she talk to me. Is she in a good mood today; is she single? Remember you do not need an excuse to talk to a woman and getting her telephone number is not a big commitment on her part. Here is also the opportunity to get her work place location in case getting her on the telephone is difficult. Do not interrogate her now and bragg too much by sharing too much information; sharing two to three pieces personal information should be enough for now. Take it easy; give each other some time to think; talk: greet, introduce, familiarize (share a few questions), request contact information. Approach within her field of view and do the getting her contact information routine as shown here: make good eye contact, point the front of my body in her direction, and focus my or your attention on her then. Ideally when you start to talk she should not be walking; grab her attention, if possible halt her walk in a polite manner and start talk. She should not end the encounter; you must choose an appropriate and reasonable time to end the encounter: "Good morning. My name is Johnathan. What is your name?", "Jane.". "I work at X grocery store at the end of the road. Do you work in this building?", "Yes.", "Are you a Spokanian or did you grew up in another place.", "California.", "I was from Coure deAlene. Can I have your telephone number?, "Sure; 303 5643.". What floor do you work at here?", "Sixth floor.", "You work for X Forestry Products?", Yes ."... .
A woman is not suppose to reveal her marital status too soon the people she does not know well. There is a way of getting the privilege to share marital status information with her at the first encounter. The way is a semi-formal, casual semi-formal, or formal face to face, live chat. The talk content is: greet, name introductions, share at least two personal questions. Ask the most personal topics last; share marital status question second last of entire talk. Some women may feel that giving her home telephone number too soon to a man she does not know to be too personal or intimate, a little too invasive to her domain. There is a way of getting the privilege of receiving her home telephone number at first encounter. The way is: tell your first and last name, reveal your marital status at least. Then the entire geting her home telephone number routine in these type of cases combines these two talks; example on busy city street, your first and last chance to get her name and telephone number: in her field of view look at her head and eyes as long as you dare can, then if she makes eye contact you are in luck, proceed with talk routine, "Good afternoon. My name is Johnathan Doe. What is your name?", "Jane.", Do you work in this neighbourhood?, "Yes.", "I work at X hardware store six blocks down the street. Who do you work for?", "Spokane Bank.", "Are your from Spokane or from another place?", "California.", "I have lived in Spokane for about six years; I was from Cour deAlene. Do you have any children?", "No.", "Me neither. I am single.", ..., "May I have your telephone number?", "Sure; 345 6543.", ... . Again: choose the girl carefully, the one you really want and need; then she will sense your genuineness and so increase the chances of success of getting her as a steady girlfriend. With this in person talk point the front of your body and head in her direction, make good eye contact a lot even if she is not looking at you; do not let your eyes wander to check out other ladies there when she is looking, in fact when she is looking at you body language do not look at other objects but keep your eyes on her person or on her eyes during this talk. your rone of voice in talk should be gentle, polite but firm. Each encounter situation is different; use the information you see there, your intuition, your feeling or sense, and experience to determine what to say, how much to say, when to say. Do you feel or sense that asking for her home telephone is the soon now? If so share another piece of personal information. Do not interrogate her by asking too many questions; ask just enough questions to get the privilege of receiving her home telephone number; excluding names and marital status, no more than five to six personal questions at these pre-dating encounters unless she wants to talk more.
Enter and Conquer Method
Sometimes asking a girl to go out on a date like this "Will you go out with me?" does not work. She may find excuses not to go. You may ask her for her home telephone number and she may ask why. There may not be a response to your request. A woman does not always say what she means when it comes to love and personal relationships; and neither do you probably. It may be a dating protocol for a woman not the reveal her true feelings about love when live personal relationship starts with you until after the wedding. With this enter and conquer method for gettting a woman you enter her place or approach her, and try to get your way with her; in legal and polite ways offcourse. The goal with this method is to win her heart and get long term visiting privileges at her home. In this method instead of asking for requests, you more tell her what to do. For example instead of asking "will you have lunch with me today?" you say in a gentle, warm and firm voice "have lunch wth me today?". You start with a chat and then make this request. This must be done in an affectionate, warm and respectful way. You take the lead or excert dominance in this personal relationship process with her. When you make this request look her straight in the eyes and do not let you eyes wander especially for looking at other people.To achieve this goal of this method you must give her what she wants. A woman probably wants a man to get his act together or his house in order, obtain self-reliance, and provide unwaivering loyalty to her. Check for clues in between the lines and in her previous behaviour of what she wants ahead of time. Make sure she does not sense any game playing on your part. When walking to the automobile after the request was accepted, ask if you can hold her hand; walking side by side with a member of the opposite sex she likes can be emotionally pleasing. The idea is to make rejections of you as difficult as possible by her, and rejecting face to face, affectionate and respectfull advances with man looking into her eyes is more difficult to do than email conversations. Some men do this; once the door opens and he is allowed to enter, he walks in and does not do much or does not say much romantic talk, well at least when there are others around. When asking to enter her home at door look her straight in the eyes even if she does not look at you; do not look at anything else during this request. After some chat she later sits on his lap or cuddles with him, and there you go. You may want to bring a male friend along; being dominated and receiving attention from men in a positive way may be emotionally pleasing to her. At her workplace when she sees you and says a greeting like "hello" or "hi" look her straight in the eyes, return conversation and follow through; do not talk about business and medical problems. When you are certain she is approaching you, stand up and look her at her face and than in the eyes. When she does not look at you; get her attention, greet her and find something to say. Convey confidence, masculinity, and dominance in yout domain and coursthips, gentleness (manners) but firmness. Do not through a box of chocolates or work papers in front of her on her desk. If she is your subordinate, always ask her to do work, do not command her; people prefer to be asked even if you are to boss or customer. Example: you doing to door to door sales of coupons; a young single mother, a full figured brunette at her door wearing a pijama gown at about 8:00 summer evening, 1990s: ring door bell, when you see her do not try to sell her the product now; greet, face the front of your body in her direction, wait, "Hello, good aftretnoon.", "Come in.", I am Johnathan. I live just down the street. "What is your name?", "Cindy.", ..., "Sit down.", "I see you have a child. Do you have a husband?", "No.", "I have lived here in Spokane for about four years. Are you from Spokane?, "Yes.", ..., "Is getting late here.", ..., "Perhaps I can visit on another time. May I have your telephone number?", "Yes .", .... . Record her house and telephone numbers.
Can a thirteen or forteen year old boy get a beautiful twenty five year old female school teacher at his school?; a thirteen year old usualy does not have the intellectual capacity and status to do it. Chasing a women school boy style: . It usually does not come automatically; he must have said and done something by accident to get actvities going in her mind; what is it? Was it you men ignoring her, was she lonely? For some: sustain personal chats she starts for at least five minutes, accept all meetings with her, do not leave talks with her to early.
How to find a wife whose personality, background and current situation you like within one week; well, at least emotionally. Is mainly about confidence, persistence and getting chatty. Offcourse following some of these dating guidelines may help. You do not even have to be rich, white and handsome, have a university degree, be very young in spring time or be employed; just show potential (making money, work) and committment to the relationship. Not just get the easy street girl that is willing to please anyone, but a dominant office beauty the queen bee figuretivly speaking, or the high maintenance school beauty. Steps: get her name and home telephone number face to face, live directly from her hands; call her the next day to reserve a personal date; on personal date share basic information; on the second date share more information then ask her to live at your place. Is usually not a good idea to marry a woman this soon after first sight like this. How to get a girl to want to please you or want to live at your place. Not just for the first and second dates before she discovers the real truth, but for years respond to your texting and telephone calls. Have her check her mail box, electronic mail, texting or telephone answering machine for you for months. Do this above. Do also: answer all her telephone calls, do not be late to meeting or be a no show; do not chase other women and let your eyes wander to guage the other girls in front of her; do not tell anything nagative about you; if she initiates personal chat after professional meeting at a more private area there do not end the talk session too early, talk for at least 10 minutes, then ask her for her home telephone number live and get number directly from her mouth. Your talk must be gentle, that is, no swearing, no speaking in anger or making fun of her. Try to get better partial privacy just after business meeting there like going to the parking lot so she can do her talk; women usualy only do sweet talk (romantic, personal talk in your favor) in private (out of visual and audio range from others). If she takes you to a shopping mall or school cafeteria for meeting, ask her to buy her a meal.
Some women may play hard to get as sweetheart or make you pass the most important tests first below. The difficulties of life such as financial problems, unjust mistrust in a man and difficult emotions with encounters with men may also prevent women to have children. The difficulties of life may make men and women avoid having children. A man has to prove that he is a good provider and is manly. Are you the man she wants for husband after decades of lonliness? Men have a four secret weapons to get a girl as wife: for one women love to talk, and women love social activities like shopping in malls or talk in parties; women seems more social in nature with their own gender than men. She may even keep here instant messenger on for you while she sleeps at night; she may even answer your telephone calls when she was asleep without getting emotionally upset while others will not; only sweethearts and spouses can telephone call during sleep time for leisure. How to get a girl as sweetheart independent of her length of hair, her dress style, her career level and your age. Also improve your emotions while doing chase of girls at shopping mall. The third weapon is trying to get her attached to you. Attached to you is when she refuses to response to calls from other men or date other men and have sex with other men due to your persistence of chase, even if there is no sweet talk now between you and her, and your personal relationship status with her is now uncertain. Getting her attached to a male suiter or you do this: make occasional and steady contact attempts in person that she will learn about, do not chase other girls for sweetheart before her, do not reveal you past and current other female dates to her and/or send her a love letter. The fourth weapon to get a girl as sweetheart during the difficult (financial, emotional, poor medical records) times of your life I will not discuss here.
Avoid rejections as sweetheart, asking for her home telephone number more than twice. Avoid no responses at online dating sites, or talks that seem to go nowhere. Instead let the women go after you. When she makes the first move you must complete the getting her home telephone number routine as soon as possible on the spot. You will only have only one chance to get her telephone number; there will likely be other women at public encounter so you will only have one chance to show that you prefer her over other women. The getting her home telephone number routine talk contains: a greeting, name introductions, sharing five to six personal questions or conversation topics, share marital status information, ask for her home telephone number late as possible then.
The Conversations
The type of information, the quantity of the personal information and parts of your name you give for the chase depends on the type of meeting, what you are trying to achieve at this particular meeting, who is doing the chasing, the level of personal interest for you shown, the physical distance between you and her, and whether the information is shared or private. The quantity and types of information you reveal also depends on the level of personal interest in you, how many chats you had earlier with her, how well you know her and whether she asked for this information. For first contact online or trying to get her telephone number you do not say or give too much information about yourself at first. On the first date you would tell more of the basics about yourself and perhaps tell about a personal interest or two. On the second date you allow her to initiate more intimate talk in a more private meeting. For women who are within the same city, it is mainly about quality and precision in words, chasing actions, appearance (grooming and dress) and money. Talk clearly and slowly with a calm voice. When the voice on the long distance telephone is not clear, slow down speech, talk louder.
Avoid being Too Quiet Online
You are a strong silent type and a lot of talk is not your style when relating to girls. This may work in your teen years in face to face interactions to get a kiss from her in the 1970s. This (not many words) will usually not work online or with post mail when you are older. You need to be chatty with personal information to get a girl most of the time. In fact words and poetry (showing your communication skills), focus (a lot of attention like eye contact) on her, showing leadership and direction in your life could be irresistable to some women. Any sentences will do as long if these are directed specifically at her and are not negative. To recover from a verbal rejection of you as a sweetheart be well armed (ready) with positive information and poetry for her in face to face talk after eight to twelve months after rejection. The man must lead the first talk, the chase to get sweetheart and personal date such as the when, where, with who and activity of date.
High Level Language Grammar and Greeting Protocol
Required good grammar: Do not use lower level language. Do not use lower level words like: ok, fab, I'm, I'll, u, aint, don't, hot girl, youre, stuff. For example, when she asks "How are u?", do not say: "ok", "I'm ok", "I'm fine", "I'm good.", but instead say: "I am fine.", or "I am fine. How are you today at home, dear?". Use full sentences only; for example if she says: "How old are you?", do not just say: "30", but instead say: "I am thirty years". Avoid negativity; for example, if she asks: "How are you?", do not say "So so.", but instead say: "I am fine."; Women seem to love good grammar, positive answers with gentle talk; if you keep this up you might have her at your feet soon. If she says at work: "May I use the ladies' room?" , do not say "Interesting?", instead say: "Yes; the washroom is just around the corner, second door on the right side". For some women the response "I am fine." seems difficult to resist to them; it will bound to improve the relationship faster. Bring up negativty with a positive; for example do no say "Why did you not telephone me back this morning?", instead say "Why did you not telephone me back this morning, dear? I thought you said you were going to telephone me". Do not use word abbrevations like: brb, instead say "be right back", but better say "I will be right back in about a minute". Do not write "u" when you meant "you". She may be under stress with you, and if she does not know this abbreviation brb, it could be understood wrongly in a certain context. Show your appreciation if she did something you appreciate with proper grammar, for example: if she asks: "What do you think of me?", do not say: "Youre a hot girl.", instead say: "You are a lovely girl. I like your nice words to me; thank you.". Do not be ambiguous with your sentences; do not assume she will understand your simple sentences. Do not use the word "stuff" when the thing has a name; for example, to not say: "Put away your stuff in your purse", but instead say "Put away your make up and wallet in your purse."; in another example do not say: "I want to buy you some stuff here now.", but instead say: "I want to buy you some great Chinese food here now". The quality ot your language skills, grammar, communicatioms skills may affect you feelings and personality. Use only high level language, communications skills, no slang, and no swear words, this might soon make you feel more calm, mature and confident with your talk with ladies. Using high level language and good communications skills enable you to win the hearts of ladies easier. Keep similar topics close to each other or in the same paragraph within the talk; avoid jumping from one subjct to another too quickly, to avoid confusion. Use the proper technical terms not the shortened versions, this shows that you are not too proud to use the proper technical terms and language, you will get better results if you do; examples: use cellular telephone instead of cellphone, use instant messenger telephone instead of "im" or texting phone number. Examples of first talk in mall: poor method: "... . What is your name?", "Jane.", "My I have your im?", "_."; a better way: "... . What is your name?", "Jane.", "May I have your instant messenger number?", "Sure; jane1234." ,"At jane1234@yahoo.com?", "Yes.", ... .
Avoid ambiguity or unclear talk; ambiguity or unclear talk may frustrate some people, because not everybody feels well or gets along well all the time. Avoid talking about your negative feelings and if you are accidentally ambiguous like this, good eye contact when you speak may make this ambiguity less offense or frustratiing if any. Besides, good eye contact makes you look less guilty and is more respectful. For example: has your boss every told you to vacuum the floor at the restaurant without looking at you? If he said the same things while looking at you, your probably would feel better about it. Some people do not give eye contact well to members of the opposite sex, because it is an action or symbol of respect, romance, acceptance and flirting with members of the opposite sex.
Avoid using the wrong words in sentences; that is words that have also another meaning even if the phrase is popular.
Example: wrong way: "The Canadian dollar received a shave this morning, 2011." which does not seem very respectfull; the proper way is: "The Canadian dollar declined by half a cent this morning, March 5, 2011.". Do not use word abbreviations or slang. Number that can be spelled with two words or less should be written in letter format, not as a number; example: not: "My age is 36.", should be: " My age is thirty six.". Do not use the word "thing" when the object allready has a name; example: wrong way: "This restaurant's potatoe things tastes mediocre.", proper way: "This restaurant's French fried potatoes tastes mediocre."
For first talk or meeting avoid using informal greetings like "Hello.", "Hi", "Hey."; use the more formal greetings like: "Hello, good day.", "Good afternoon Miss Susan.", "Greetings, good evening.", "Good morning lady.". Using the more formal greeting protocols you should have faster and better success this way in dating and in business. This should reduce the chances of rejection of you as sweetheart later, and should getting her to your house easier later. Table 1b shows some greeting types or styles.
Make a small amount of romantic connection and mood that is not fully in her control after a while and after passing some of your more important tests below, after sharing the basic information: avoid the lower quality language levels and greetings, slangish (not fuilly slang) words in table 1b. Avoid using the wrong word or phrases that belong to something else. Use soft, gentle, loving sentences and talk tone. Gain confidence to talk with above dating rules.
Table 1b: Greeting Styles For First and Second Encounters with Lady
